Is there a legal way to keep a father from seeing the baby? He left when I was 4 months pregnant and only asks about her when he isn't busy. I am now going to court for support, but really don't want him to see her. He is into drugs and other things. When we were together he said he had stopped all of it and it was all a lie. Now I need to know how to stop him form visitation!
2006-09-02 16:12:56 · 13 answers · asked by savage_angel_05 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
YES -- in this case -- YOU need to tell the mediator (and bring proof of any arrests/convictions he has) about the Drug Abuse/Use and other things ... for this is IMPORTANT -- do you want your child to be in the custody of an individual (no supervision) when he is dealing, using, in drug houses, etc? This MUST be emphasized -- and then the Mediator can make the judgment that for the Safety of the Child -- the Person needs to be Supervised/Monitored, very limited contact, MUST take Drug Tests BEFORE the visitation -- and if he does NOT pass the Drug Test (meaning -- he fails because he used), then his visitation for that time is Cancelled/Curtailed or withdrawn.
So yes, it is a LEGAL way, but you must follow the steps and help the mediator by providing all the information you know about the sperm donating father.
2006-09-02 18:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he presses the issue, the courts normally will not stop him from seeing his child. If he is paying child support, the State will say that he has a right and an obligation to see the child. If he is a drug user or considered a threat to the child, they will set up supervised visitation. When you get the support order and if they do set a visitation order, my advice to you, is to not stop him from seeing his child when he wants. If you do ever stop him, even if it is because he hasn't paid support, you can go to jail for "contmept of court", because the State has already set up the court order and they will make sure it is enforced, if they think it is in the child's best interest, and do not try to move to another locale, because the father can go to court, and have to arrested for child abduction, especially if he wasn't informed about your leaving, or if the courts feel that you did it to keep him from seeing the child. I think that any parent who keep a child from another parent, is the lowest type of person.
2006-09-02 18:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by savvyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believed him when he said he stopped (using drugs), you're just as guilty as he is for your baby's situation.
You didn't say anything about being married to the guy, so would we be correct in assuming you weren't?
You need to do a couple of things.
1) If you're going to continue to shack up with guys, and continue to believe everything they tell you, get your tubes tied.
2) Give up the baby for adoption. Let some couple take care of it that has a clue.
You need to forget about what YOU want and do what's best for the child. You did about the worst thing you could do for that child by bringing him/her into a situation like that.
2006-09-02 17:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can prove the father is abusing drugs the court should deny him rights at least for the time being. If he goes through rehab he can go back to court and try to get his rights. I wish you luck witht he court and with being a single mother... it is very hard.
2006-09-02 16:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by asonda_charmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she would be in a position to. i actually did no longer examine the entire placed up because of the fact i do unlike capital letters. yet besides, definite she would be in a position to. you're a minor. even with the actuality that she would be in a position to try this, she is your mom and she or he's doing it on your sake. Why no longer sit down her down and have a mom-daughter talk appropriate to the way you like your babys dad on your existence. If she loves you, she'll pay attention.
2016-09-30 07:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by gangwer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the closest you will get is supervised visitation besides maybe getting him into rehab would be good because that child may resent you for taking its father i know you are just looking out for the good of your baby but just think about it okay? hope everything works out
2006-09-02 16:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who will be hurt the most is the baby. If you make him fight to see the baby and he gives up, that will damage your child and she will resent you and him.
If he is not capable or interested in sharing custody, make arrangements for limited visitation, supervised or otherwise. If he fails to visit regularly with the child, without obstacles from you, then her feelings towards him will not alienate you. Like I said, if you make it hard on him, she will find out eventually and resent you for it.
It is immoral to try to withhold a child from its parent out of spite.
2006-09-02 16:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just go to court show loads of evidence that he is a bad father if that doesnt work try to relocate yourself to either another state or country.
2006-09-02 16:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by devilhunterx2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove in court that he is a threat to the child's welfare. With his involvement in drugs, that wouldn't be hard to do.
2006-09-02 16:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Serious Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't want him to see the kid?
Then don't take his money.
Hey.....while we're at it.....where's your share of the blame? All his fault, is it? Have you ever stopped to think that maybe you owe it to society to be a little more careful about who you spread your legs for and what kind of fathers you pick to bring your offspring into the world for us to support?
2006-09-02 16:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋