I'm currently in high school right now but when its time to go to college, im really scared. The first time im on my own....nobody that i know, the classes, the teachers...actually im scared of the world! lol...i don't think i want to gorw up...its, like i'm Peter Pan??? I'm scared to face the fact that im growing up too fast, how do i deal with bills, taxes, jobs, people, peer preasure??? I don't know how to do any of that stuff??!!!
2006-09-02 15:58:47 · 20 answers · asked by sexy_azn 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Visual Arts ➔ Other - Visual Arts
Look at your parents..how did they handle bills, thier jobs and other adult stuff?? Ask your mom or dad or another adult to show you how to write checks, explain taxes, or first job or school experiences. Youll find that everyone was a "newbie" at these things and as you keep on doing them it gets easier and just becomes part of the routine.
As far as dealing with people, maturity has a lot to do with that, you are still young, and have brain growing to do. Again find someone you admire and watch how they deal with others, do they say please and thank you? How is thier attitude under pressure? I find that a "glad to be here" attitude is a good one to have in any situation. Make that your base and then go from there.
Peer pressure is always going to be there..just as you get older its called advertising....think about the choices and the consequences of those choices.
Hope this helps!!! Good luck!!
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2006-09-02 16:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by luvyureyze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Growing up too fast is having babies when youre not ready.
Take a trip to a college with some friends. Walk around, talk to the bookstore clerk or a few people on campus. Get a little bird's eye perspective prior to finishing high school. The college atmosphere is more adult and relaxed but the classes are tougher.
Where will you live? At home or campus? Write all of your questions down and research realistic answers and options. Ask your current teachers or counselor at your high school for some input.
You want to go to college....it doesnt just happen...it's an intelligent plan. Research it, become acquainted with it and it wont seem so scary. :D
2006-09-02 16:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a natural feeling that so many go through. Don't race your mind trying to absorb all that's there is in the adult world at one sitting. Break down all these concerns into manageable segments, and you'll see that, yes, you will have all the time and space you need to handle things as they come. And find appropriate role models, such as a favorite teacher, that you can trust and confide in.
Look around as you arrive at school as a Freshman. You'll see that you are not alone in your feelings. Good luck for a wonderful life. Hey, take it from a 70 year old.
2006-09-02 16:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've been on my own since two months after turning 16, so I totally understand. Think of living in college housing when you're still in high school! It's different at first but just take things one day at a time. You'll be surprised at how easy it is to live on your own in this world! About the peer pressure thing, though: be your own person.
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2006-09-02 19:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by -superkid- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one knows how to do the hard stuff, it just comes to you when you need to do it. Gradual, and sporadic, not all at once. You will learn to handle life just as your parents did. Take a deep breath and hang in there. Word of advice... When you get to college and the credit card people start throwing hundreds of cards at you left and right, please don't sign up for anything before you discuss it w/ your parents or a financial adviser. You'll be up to your eye balls in debt for years to come if you don't know what you are doing. Good luck.
2006-09-02 18:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by decababe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be scared, because you have to embrassed you future. It will be hard the first few days of college but after a few months you would adjust. It is the first step in completel your independence, you don't have to rely on your parents.
So just stand up on your own and do what you think is right,
2006-09-02 16:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by de_dark_angel71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents know how you feel. Maybe you need to stay home
alittle longer. Maybe you need more support from your parents so you
don't feel so insecure. When my kids left home, I let them know that
I am always here if they need me for anything. As far as college, if you
feel scared, you know others feel the same way. Open up and
tell the person who sits next to you how scary college seems, this will
allow a conversation to start and you might be surprise that he/she
would be willing to help you feel more comfortable around the campus.
Good Luck!
2006-09-02 16:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dedra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, even though I'm still a kid. I DON'T EVER WANT TO GROW UP! my friends say I have Peter Pan syndrome, which is probably true.
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2006-09-02 22:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by wolf_boy_512 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared, life is out there to be enjoyed and going to college is one of them. Learning new things, and meeting new people is what makes us all well rounded and sociable people. Life does has it's pressures, but don't make more out of it than what it is. Take one day at a time and enjoy being young, don't waste it. Make it mean something. It will make you a better person.
2006-09-02 16:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by robin_johnson94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deal with it one thing at a time. There are millions of people out there in offices just waiting to for you to call so they can help you. That's THEIR job. No one knows all the answers all the time. And you pray and learn to depend on God to help you and show you the way.
2006-09-02 16:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by megan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋