dad might die....please help i need some encouragement?

Question

my dad is in the hospital from something that they cant find what is wrong. he isnt very responsive right now. i just came from there with my mom and sister. we dont know what happened. my dad is a teacher at the college and they found him kneeling beside his desk holding his heart and gasping and crying. then he came out of it and they said it wasnt his heart but a panic attack and a emotional breakdown. but he went to the hospital and they checked him in anyway. now he seems he is worsening and we dont know what to do or expect, because his heartrate is too low and they havent found what is wrong yet!
im kind of scared that i might have caused this to happend cause of things i wrote on this board a couple of days ago, like bad karma. does god work this way, please tell me it isnt so? i feel really sick right now i am so stressed.

my dad is home. hes FINE and got sick cuz he was dehydrated and wouldnt eat.he had an emotional breakdown in his office after class.he was embarassed cuz one of his TAs found him and that probly made him even sicker. i didnt go in the ER but after awhile i could hear him keep crying and saying to my mom that i hated him. i guess its ok to admit i was crying later in the hall outside his hospital room. he heard me crying, thats when he started to snap out of it. he started to cry happy tears hugging my mom and saying "hes crying hes crying", so i guess that by my crying and being all scared about him, i made my dad happy. if it makes anyone feel better i did apologize. i know what i said was bad, i wont say it again. he might be a real nerd but it takes a REAL nerd to be as smart as him and be able to explain equations and mathproblems like him. and it takes a real nerd to be a happy funny clown like him. i guess it also takes a real MAN to love a son who is such a jerk as me. sorry

Answer 1

I think I have encouraged you enough. You better do what I said, if you are playing with us, I advise you to pray, because it will come back at ya. Just like you laid it out. You need to beg God to forgive you, meanwhile, us Christians will beg God in the name of Jesus to help your Dad and fix you. BRAT.
Well, praise God, young MAN. I am proud of you and for you and your DAD. Bravo.

Answer 2

god works in many ways, and i'm not going to pretend that i know what he's doing in all this, but i do know that god answers prayer. it may not be the answer that you are looking for but i know that he will answer it in some way. you just have to trust him. you have to trust that he is going to carry you through all of this because he has a plan for your life. have you ever seen a beautiful waterfall or ocean scene and thought "wow, that's really amazing!"? well, think about this, the guy that created that made you. he specifically picked out the color of your eyes and shade of hair and number of hairs on your head. he loves your more than anything and wants the best for you. pray. talk to the guy who breathed life into you. don't even worry about "sounding religous" just pour out your heart to him cuz he already knows what's in your head anyway, so you might as well. remember god loves you and your dad. pray. learn to trust god.
i will be praying for you.

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear about your father. If you think the things you said to him upset him then maybe you should talk to him while he is responsive and straighten things out with him. I don't know what happened between the two of you but you would feel better knowing that you talked to him before it is to late. Hopefully the hospital/Drs can find what is wrong with him and get him turned around...my prayers are with you.

Answer 4

I saw your previous questions and I can only say one thing! ISNT THIS WHAT YOU WANTED!?! You told your dad to his face you wish he could die like other people on the freeways. You must be careful what you wish for, because it might come true and if something happens(God forbid) you will sit with that quilt for the rest of your life. I dont know if you are just joking and trying to get everyone p!$$ed off with you, because I cant believe that someone can be so merciless and uncaring.

Answer 5

Let me start with how sorry i m for you i willpray that the hands ofhe Lors will hold your dad and you and yyour family I reaay dont think it is bad karma it could be that he and this trouble be fore and never told any one just because guy dont what us girls think that they are weak . when you go and vist him no matter how bab he is i beleive hat they stiil can hear what we have to say to them so when you are ther tell tell him that you are sorry that you love him that and PRAY PRAY PRAY Pray cauz in the bible it said that where two or mor are gather in my name he is ther with them just remember that it is not your fault Thst and the Lord does not make go thought these trails if he did not think hta we caould not handle them Remember that your dad loves all of you and not just your earthly dad but your heavenly father as well I will PRAY for you and your dad and your family

Answer 6

I'm sooooo sorry for what you're going through. You have to be strong. Your dad would do so much better if he knew you and your family where going to be ok.

Answer 7

Pray for God to fogive you if you feel bad about stuff. Pray for your father. don't blame yourself if something happens to him. But if he comes out of it ok, DO NOT take him for granit. Love your father.

Answer 8

Oh...wow...sorry to hear that. But all I can tell you to do is pray about it, God doesn't make mistakes. I will also pray for you.

Answer 9

yeah, based on your other questions, i'd say if you didnt have EVERYTHING to do with it, you had at least something to do with it.

write a letter. appologize in the letter. i dont care if you've never appologized before, you can do it, and you can do it now, or he might die, and he'd die thinking you hated him. even if you do hate him FIX IT! FIX IT SO IF HE DOES DIE, HE AT LEAST DIES IN PEACE!!!

the last person you should be thinking about right now is yourself. stop it. your father needs you. all your father wants is to have a normal relationship with his son, and you cant even try to give it to him. he has tried his best to close you out of his life, because all you show him is hatred. change! what is so hard?! i hate my parents too, my mother looked at me when i was 12 and told me she wished she had never married my father, (whom she was still married to, i grew up in a pleasant household where there was virtually no fighting, i never even knew there was a problem before this) and that if she could do it all over again, she would, and never marry him. if she could get a divorce without it looking bad on her christian reputation, she would have. this devistated me. i thought about not speaking to her. i thought about ripping her head off. i didnt. i'm better than that. you can be better than this. you dont have to be like your dad to like him, but if you want to make things better, the very first step is telling him you love him, and telling him your sorry.

your dad could die. your just going to have to look at it like that. when i was 16, my dad had a brain anurism (a vien exploded in his brain) and he was bleeding to death. i was told 70% of people dont survive the first surgery of finding out where the leak in the vein is, and the people that do survive the surgery, 50% of them die from blood loss. my dad somehow survived. they did the opperation, and they told me his brain somehow healed itself. my mother was convened it was a miracle. i was convenced he was probably never even sick. i told my dad i loved him, i kissed him on the cheek in intensive care (even though they werent supposed to let anyone in there that was under 18, but they were so sure he was going to die, they let me in anyway to see him) and then i left and got some ice cream (my mother was very upset i left without telling her)

so you can run from the problems you have with your father, or you can try and close them up, and be a better person. what do you want to do? let us know how it all turns out

update according to your last additional details: its really good you found it in you to make up with him. thats really all anyone wants out of you, to be able to nut up and admit you were wrong, and actually be sorry about it. your dad now knows that how your acting is probably just a phase, and either you'll grow out of it, or at least you do actually feel remorse for the things you say and do. he thought you were really that cold, all the time. try not to be so hatefull all the time. theres a time and place for everything, and your addicted to being overly abusive. sure your dad might be a nerd, sure he might be annoying, i think my step-father-in-law is pretty anoying. he has a 40 year age difference on me (and acts 50) and once said to me that "out of all the things i do, i've noticed i never age!"(he says stupid stuff like that all the time, but mostly i just ignore him, this i couldent resist, though.) and how he thinks he acts like he's still in his teens. i told him he was absolutley full of it, and if he actually liked MTV, then we might be able to talk about how that might be true, but it just wasnt.

maybe you can do something nice for him. try buying him a tie for when he goes to teach, with like, darth vader on it, or something (you know, something to lighten his spirits, but at the same time, reflect something thats not nerdy) tell him its in exchange for all the homework help you've needed and will be needing in the not to distant future.

ha! or get him a pet rock!! what do you think he'd say if you said "but dad, i already named it!" when he trys to say its not for him or something (although i dont think he'd do that. it sounds like he could really use some re-assurence.)