im not doing this for attention nor nothing i really need the help here, ok look i know im werid and stuff but just listen to me, k i have a boyfriend and in the past wit the other girls he been with they given him head and blowjobs and stuff and once he asked me i like to do that and i sad idk but really i can't casue i have this gag rflex and anything that goes to far down my thoat make my throw up kinda and well since im dating him im afraid that if we have sex he may want head or something wat to do help
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2006-09-02 15:40:09 · 30 answers · asked by julissa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st of all u should not care about what other girls have givin him or how they've pleasured him.. u need to let him know that ur not them and that him telling u about what other girls did is not a turn on for u and it doesn't make u want to follow in their footsteps either... tell him not to compare them to u.. if it's not ur thing then don't do it.. it's gross... u don't know where his penis been, u don't know how many people he done ran up in raw either..
let him know that giving head is not for u and that its not something that ur comfortable with.. tell him that if he respects u and cares for u then he'll understand and that u don't want to discuss it anymore.. now if he keeps going on and on about him wanting his jimmy sucked then u need to move on...
now if u decide to do it.. u should go and buy the latex dams i think they're called.. it's like a condom but for oral sex..
and not once did u say that he gives oral to girls...
u need to check him.. don't let noone pressure u into doing anything that u dont' want to do...
2006-09-02 15:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to do it then don't do it...if he is unhappy with a NO then he's an a$$ and you should break up....
When you ask questions like this it makes me think that maybe you are too young to have sex...you'll be happier if you wait.
If you do end up giving him a ******** make sure he wears a condom...you can get diseases, especially if he has been with other girls...if you're too embarrassed to ask him to wrap it up then you are definatly too young!
Make good choices, your life may depend on it!
Blessed Be!
2006-09-02 15:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having sex with him. If you said he's been doing this with past girlfriends, he could possibly have an STD. Just tell him you don't want to do that - you don't have to mention your gag reflex.
And I would suggest waiting to have sex after you're married. It's the safest way.
2006-09-02 15:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by *~*Carnival*~*Ride*~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he trys to do anything you dont wanna, just tell him the truth, or that your not ready. If you have sex he proably wont want you to give him head after, but in the future he proably will. So just tell him its not your thing or something, if hes a good bf he'll understand.
2006-09-02 15:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by silversteinxlove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you said just girls but, I don't care. You should tell him,most guys talk about BJs like its the best thing in the world, but its not. don't get me wrong its fun and all but being with somebody you love is better. If he leaves you because of that your better off, and he is a douch bag. besides puking on him is no way to keep him.
plus a real man would rather take care of you :P
2006-09-02 15:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by pw_redneck 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to the person that called her a slut stfu!!! my ex bf always pressured me to give him head and have sex with him thats why i dumped his ***. I just wasn't ready for that kind of stuff with him. If you want to have sex with him then tell him straight up that you have this kind of problem and if he cares about you and doesn't only date you for sex he will understand and forget about the head part, but if you don't want to have sex with him and he keeps pressuring you to do it then he isn't much of a boyfriend and I say you let him go. Good luck =)
2006-09-02 15:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by VonDutchPrincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to warn you before hand. But actually you shouldn't have sex,,,including oral -sex-. It's wrong outside of wedlock, especially for kids. I mean...can you honestly say you love him? Do you think you can spend the rest of your life with him?
And most importantly, will he leave you if you don't do it? If the answer is yes, he's not worth the hassle.
2006-09-02 15:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dan-Bi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves you because won't give him head because you gag when you give head, you are better off without him. You want to be with someone because you love him and he loves you, not what you would do sexually with each other.
2006-09-02 15:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so if he wants you to do this and you want to do this for him (don't let him push you into anything) then just don't let it go down your throat to the point where you want to gag. Take your thumb and index finger making a circle and put it around his penis below your mouth and make the same movement with it that you are doing with your mouth.
2006-09-02 15:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sure youve heard this before....honesty is the best policy so if you havent already talked with him, sit down and tell him all about it but remeber to be 100% honest.
2006-09-02 15:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋