This guy is a friend of mine, but I've realized I really just don't want to talk to him... he's 10 years older and I see no reason to chat with him anymore (it's making me nervous). But he initiates the conversations, and never wants to go away. I've tried asking him the time, and what time he was planning on leaving... I thought that would get through. I don't like leaving first in case he'd follow me home.
So, what are some subtle ways to break up a friendship? Or just some good ways to make enemies... ;)
2006-09-02 15:24:08 · 17 answers · asked by SalesGirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 15, he's 25.
2006-09-02 15:35:38 · update #1
Thanks for all the answers!! Most of them were helpful. Next time he talks to me and makes me nervous I'm going to find someone nearby and explain and ask if I can hang around them for a while. Maybe he'll notice I'm not interested in talking to him. (and if I'm talking to someone else he'll feel out of place and leave.)
2006-09-03 05:59:04 · update #2
If he is ten years older than you, he already knows you are not that interested but is still trying.. He is in the wrong knowing you are just being polite, but again he thinks may still get somewhere with you. Your just going to have to make up a white lie and say you have a jealous boyfriend now and can not talk to him anymore. Excuse yourself and say you have to go to the toilet and then give him the slip. Try not to make an enemy of him if you can help it. Avoid the place he sees you at. Tell another male friend if you see him in public to act as your boyfriend to make him think you are taken. Sometimes some blokes prey on younger girls and just will not get the message that you do not like them. Be firm with him, he has no right to make you feel this uncomfortable or fearful of an unpleasant outcome.. hope what I have suggested helps.
Just saw your age.. I thought you were young, just know he is definitely in the wrong..
2006-09-02 15:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to get anywhere being subtle with this guy. Either he just isn't good at taking hints (like a lot of guys), or he's deliberately ignoring them. If he's spending that much time talking to you, chances are he has a crush on you (or worse). You didn't mention your age, but if you're young, the ten-year age could be creepy (even potentially illegal). Just be honest. Tell him (in a public place, where you're safe, or around your parents) that you're not interested in being friends with him anymore and not to call you or come to your place any more. Don't get drawn into an argument - don't discuss why, just tell him and get away from him. And if you're still living at home, tell your parents.
2006-09-02 22:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by george 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel. The best solution is a straightforward one. If you try to evade the conversation, he just thinks that you just wanted to ask for the time and nothing else. Remember, no one can read your mind. If that doesn't work out, you can file a report in the police station for harassment. That way, he have to stay away from you.
2006-09-02 22:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just come right out and say that you are not comfortable with the friendship and think it would be best to not see each other any more. Or you could tell him that you have a new boyfriend and he is the jealous type.
2006-09-02 22:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow yeah dont let him know whwre u live............. always have a younger guy friend around u from now on......... or just kinda blow him off seem totally disinterested or talk about some guy u like.. even if there is no one.............. maybe just a crush u have...ask his advice lol
why are u around him? is this at work? thats happened to me before at work...........I didnt really know what to do.I just started ignoring him. but he would just walk in my store............. couldnt really say get out...so id just be really quiet and not talk with him. using only monosyllables......he was slow but he got it soon enough. id even lock up the store a few minutes early n run off not even saying bye to him (when his store was right next to mine)
2006-09-02 22:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by safarlsun33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This scares me. I don't know how to answer the question. Could you leave and go to a police station or something like that to see if he follows you. In the meantime, stop going to where you usually meet up with him.
2006-09-02 22:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm good luck cause it sounds like your gonna have a hard time with this one, you just need to be blunt and if he keeps bugging you then you need to talk to the police i am sure they can help you in some way, I had a friend like that couple years ago he wouldn't leave me alone finally i had to have another friend threaten him and it was a pretty sight
2006-09-02 22:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see him and he starts talking, say this:
"I am breaking off our friendship. I am sorry. I have nothing else to say to you. Please leave me alone."
Walk away. Do not turn back around. Say nothing else.
If he calls, tell him you will file harassment charges if he keeps calling. Hang up the phone.
If he threatens you, call the police and file harassment charges.
The end.
2006-09-02 22:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could do like some girls I know and tell him you are going to call the cops on him for stalking. They put average guys in jail all the time for that
2006-09-02 22:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is 10 and you are closer to his age iwould just tell him " look dude you have been bothering me and i was trying to be nice and tell you to leav me alone because i don't like you as a friend and you talk way to much , so i am telling you LEAVE ME ALONE BEFORE I GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON YOU" something like that might do it...
2006-09-02 22:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋