If men can actually love each other fine, but if it's just lust, then that's not a good enough reason to allow gay marriage.
2006-09-02 15:23:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I have never been public about my sexuality for fear of discrimination. I have always been well respected by family, friends, co-workers and citizens of my community. I have enjoyed that respect and have not been willing to jepardize it.
I served God, Church and its people faithfully. I have always been able to provide myself with many reasons why I should not go public with my sexuality. I certainly did not want to be associated with the obvious "Gay" people that appeared in Gay Pride Parades in drag.
Today I realize the freedoms that we "Gays" enjoy are the direct results of those people that were willing to appear in public and confront society head on. I thank them and I apologize to them for not being along side them. I was a coward who waited until I was 65 years of age and retired before admitting to the world that I am Gay and not ashamed of it.
I will not argue the point with anyone, but I know God created me Gay and it is not a choice I made. Gay life was far too difficult for me to choose it! Yes, I was raped as a young boy by an Uncle, but NO that did not make me Gay. In fact it made the rape far more difficult for me to deal with. I knew at the time I was more attracted to boys than girls. Therefore I always wondered if I had done something without knowing it that caused him to think I wanted to be raped. I now know and accepted I did not. I restrained my sexual feeling until I was nearly thirty.
I met a young man (my age) one night and over a six month period enjoyed dinners, movies and conversation. We eventually had sex. I told him I was a teacher and he told me he worked for a news paper. Months went by and I received a called. He ask me where did I say I taught. I ask him why he wanted to know. He then informed me one of his employees had put my picture on his desk.
It turns out he was the editor of a Catholic newspaper and they had done a story on me. I was a local priest. We met downtown immediately to discuss the situation and that was the beginning of a wonderful twelve year relationship. To this day I still love him and miss him. I am positive we would still be together if he had not died of cancer.
Years went by before another relationship. I met a man in a choir at a church I was visiting. His love of God and Church equaled mine. A year later we entered into a relationship that lasted seventeen years. It was a very difficult decision for us both to end the realtionship. We had shared each others personal and family tragedies, deaths, births, etc. I felt a need to travel, relaxe and experience the freedom to just be me and not the priest. He loved his career and was not ready to give it up. We still love and respect each other. I suppose we loved each other enough to know that we are both on the down side of life and are willing to make sacrifices to allow the other to experience life to its fullest.
I am not asking for your approval to be Gay because what you or others think matters little to me now. I am not asking for approval to become legally married for the two relationships that I entered in to could not have been made any more real by a piece of paper. But, I do question you and those like you that think you have the right to deny two consenting adults in a democratic country equal protection under the law. I would be the first to admit I do not want it called a "Marriage Certificate" perhaps a "Life Partner Certificate", but those people I loved and shared life with should have been entitled to what we accumulated together during my life without fear of hassle from anyone. They should have had the right to make medical decisions for me without interference from any relatives. Our relationship should have been publicy recognized.
I have had sex with only three people in my lifetime and one of those people forced it upon me. The two I gave myself to were and are truly loved by me?
Can you tell me the time, day or month that you made a conscious decision to desire only sexual partners of the same sex? If you cannot then do not ask me when I chose the opposite. If you did not choose to be Straight then please do not think it impossible that I did not choose to be Gay. It is what came natural. You asking me if two men can actually love each other is as foreign to me as my asking you can you actually love a woman. I assume you can because you say you can please give me the same respect.
2006-09-03 17:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by tom1941 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do heterosexuals really LOVE each other or just lust for each other?
If men can actually love women, fine, but if it's just lust, then that's not a good enough reason to allow straight marriage.
2006-09-06 19:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gays or like straights in that it depends on the two people. It most likely a combination of love and lust. Gay marriage will be no different than straight marriage because alot will end in divorce. Divorce doesn't mean people are wrong or failing, it means they don't understand. It's about knowing oneself and being honest. What do you expect out or a relationship, monogamy, lust, religion, education, etc.? - That's the basic. So yes, gays can love AND lust, as can anyone else.
2006-09-02 15:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's the exact same situation as with heterosexual partners. If you love someone and want to commit to them, wouldn't you want to marry them? Domestic partnership laws don't guarantee all the same rights that marriage permits. For example, tax benefits, the right of the partner to be "family" in a hospital emergency.
Lust is lust and is quick. I doubt someone would marry someone that they had a short lust after. Marriage is long term.
2006-09-02 15:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by DNBursky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they do actually love eachother. Everybody is at a different place in their life, and maybe lust is what they need at that time. I also think that gay marriage should be allowed.
2006-09-02 15:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why should gays be "allowed" to marry? Because it's none of ours or the governments business if they love each other or not. Who are we to decide and why do we care? Equal rights are already supposedly in place. Why is this right not? Don't you think it's time to worry about whether or not we've "sinned" ourselves instead of worrying about our neighbours.
2006-09-02 16:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Same reasons heterosexuals marry, because they want to make a commitment to share their lives with the person they love.
2006-09-02 15:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is love.
Gender is irrelevant.
I'm straight...and I think it's wrong to descriminate just because gays love someone. It's just like you and I do...so why do people think it's so wrong?
2006-09-02 16:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rock With Me. It's Love. :) 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure they can love each other. I've seen homosexual couples that are more devoted to each other than some married heterosexuals.
2006-09-02 15:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both- ask Reginald Dwight (Also known as Elton John)
2006-09-02 15:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋