Hi, i am 13, A couple months ago i looked at porn, And now i am scared that i am bi because i looked at wemone naked. I have taken about 5 quizzes on the internet and they all said i was straight, (there is nothing wrong with being bi) but i am a christian. I have made myself so upset about this that i have been crying, now when i look at a girl i get horny, and now i am having thoughts about weome having sex, and weome kissing. I dont want to be bi. But i am so scared i am. Mabey it is just a phase. Or hormoes. i have a boyfriend, and i love boys, and i want to one day get married and have a family. I am i bi, or am i just making myslef crazy?? Someone please help, i cant talk to my mom, or a teacher (i go to a christian school) or a friend, HELP!!!
2006-09-02 15:22:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Amber, for starters...calm down. Everyone goes through strange thoughts growing up trying to figure out who they are. You said you are a Christian so please remember to look to God. When you look at anyone and get "horny" you need to pray for God to help you. As you mature you will see that it is just a phase. I know I had some of the same feelings right around the same age and I am NOT bi....it was a phase. Also, you say you have a boyfriend. I pray that you are not having sex with him. You need to try and stay pure (if you have already had sex it is not to late to ask for forgivness and be a born again virgin...that is what I am), that is what God wants for all of us. This world is so full of pressures for us all to conform to what others see as "right" and these days being gay is an okay thing to do. When I was growing up that was not so. I can't imagine the pressure that girls and guys your age are going through. You need to stay away from the porn also. I know you can't imagine now that it will pollute your mind, but just think about it. These problems started with you watching porn. Just don't forget to pray hun. If you need someone who is unbiased and has been there please don't hesitate to email me... dawn_ch_believes@yahoo.com. I have done alot in my past that I regret and I believe that I can be of some help when you need it. I am here always. I check my email daily. ~Dawn
2006-09-02 15:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by dawn_ch_believes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not bi cause believe me im 18 and when i was 13 and around that age i thought the same way.i even kissed girls and experimented.which im not telling you to do that but i was bi curious.which just about all girls are around your age.my friends all were to.thats the girls i kissed.but trust me.you are not bi.your just going through a phase in your kife.your 13 and your hormones and mind are fully developing.i hope i bring you some piece of mind.just remember.i went through it to and now 5 or so years down the road im with the guy of my dreams and never been happier.but if you really feel that your bi try kissing a girl and talk to your friends about this cause thay may be goin through the same thing as you.
2006-09-02 22:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by jenny p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amber ...
1) Since you are a Christian, pray to God to give you the strength to
overcome those horny thoughts.
2) Stop visiitng those porn sites.
3) I feel that you are too young to have a bf. Concentrate on your
studies first . You have spelling errors ..like wemone,
hormoes..
2006-09-02 22:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Phantom of the Opera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay take a deep breath, calm down its okay. Seeing a porn with a woman naked is common. You have to think that guys that watch porn are also seeing men that are naked. Odds are you have just bi curious, and its okay its normal happens to most teens, happened to me. Its just hormones in the teen mind sex is just you know sex. I know you think being Bi is wrong cause of what your church as taught you but i am Christian and i am Bi cause after everything I went thought I know that God would except me after all he made me, me. But i still am with my boyfriend and I plan to marry him have kids with him. I'm sure that in time everything Will fall in place for you. Just don't worry the mind dose sill things to the body when you worry.
2006-09-02 22:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to calm down and relax, just because you look at some porn with naked women and it turned you on, doesn't make you Bi. You may be feeling turned on because your only 13 and a Christian and I assume a Virgin and don't look at boy's naked, or have seen a playgirl magazine with naked men. You may just be turned on because of thoughts of sex, (which is normal), and since you looked at naked women this is what your are fantasizing about. I think you should pray about this, and when your older you will be able to determine your sexual preference. God will help you and direct you. God Bless!!
2006-09-02 22:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Annie Red Head 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You saw pictures of women in a sexual way. So, that image is going to come back into your mind now. It does not mean that you want to have sex with a woman, it just means you saw something sexual that sticks out in your mind.
Nobody or no quiz can tell you if you are "bi." There is only one person that can tell you that (you), and only one question you have to ask yourself: Do you want to have sex with women and men? If the answer is yes, then you are bi. If not, then you are not.
2006-09-02 22:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by bwjordan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you looked at a woman naked doesn't mean you are bi.
You are just curious, everyone gets that way at one point in their life, even though they won't say it most often.
Just give it some time. You would only have to wonder if you felt sexual urges while looking at the porn. If you didn't then you are straight.
You are 13 you've still got a few years to discover your orientation.
2006-09-02 22:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are bi.
It's nothing to be ashamed of.
Who says you have to tell anybody? Just enjoy the porn and don't tell anybody that you enjoy looking at the women just as much as the men. ;)
I'm sure your boyfriend won't really mind if you are bi. You could make a fun pastime out of sitting around at the park together and commenting about the bodies of other women that pass by. :)
2006-09-03 09:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why don't u just think more about boys and don't hang out with girls 4 a while but there's nothing wrong with being a bi
2006-09-02 22:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by nina buena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you're not bi. You probably havn't seen many other women naked so you're probably just looking at them to compare yourself to them. Sometimes guys like to look at other guys penis's to compare themselves to see if they size up (not me though). Besides, you'll make any guy you're with happy cause any guy would want a girl who likes to watch porn.
2006-09-02 22:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Maximus D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋