I took his bank card and got money out of the bank 2 pay the utility bill and didn't ask him now he is mad at me, won't talk 2 me, or sleep with me.
2006-09-02 15:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by Candace M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
umm are you two married?? sounds more like you are a room mate who just stole money from him.. i personaly say let him sulk what is his is yours and he will have to get over it or divorce you and you still get half of everything...... when a man sulks he is either enjoying the control over the woman or there is somthing more to it then just the one issue which could spell more trouble on the horizon, but if it is sulking for this reason only then you can take control back by just pretending like nothing is going on and be sweet back and ignore his lil temper tantrums in marriage counseling they will tell you his behavior is indicative of a man using his tantrum to control somone and that someone just happens to be you and he will use this as many times to get his way if you let him continue....... im guessing this isnt the first time and it probably is somthing he even uses when he has done somthing wrong and you are not ready to forgive him.... its time you make your man act his age by denying him this childish behavior good luck
2006-09-02 15:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a guy, he's a control freak and showing a weeknes by not coping with you taking charge. I know someone that is normally that way in certain stressful situations, but not to that extreme over a simple utility bill ... does he normally pay the bills and not you? Next time he does someting to you that upsets you, you need to do the same thing so he gets the point that what he has just doen to you is ridiculous... I hope for the best that you both work this out... I'd hate to think what he could get mad over next.
2006-09-02 15:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ya know... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you REALLY think all men are the same? Do you imagine all relationships are the same? All marriages??? If not, then what makes you think ANYONE can tell you how long it takes a man to get over being mad at his wife?
He'll come around eventually. Till then, dont bug him or deal with him at all. Just act normal and wait till hes ready to talk it out. Then perhaps you can explain that if he had provided enough money to pay the bills ahead of time, or if he had paid them HIMSELF, none of this would have happened. Tell him if he forces you into that situation a second time, you're going to stop talking to HIM and stop sharing HIS bed.
2006-09-02 15:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well each person is different I suppose. I am not sure what the situation is, how you two manage your finances and pay your bills so it is difficult to provide an insightful answer.
I know when I get mad at my wife I can stay that way for quite some time. We have been married 25 years, so I am not one to be tempted with or blackmailed by sex. I enjoy it, but I don't play those games.
I suggest you explain to him how you feel and then just let it go, he will come around when he gets ready.........
2006-09-02 15:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have done a great mistake. see a convenient leisure time. Hold his hand, look at his eyes and apologies. Future such things will not happen. Money matters, always discuss with the partner and do it. Using of credit cards always there should be a caution, since u have to repay in time. which the cardholder will ascertain. Now hope u understand Ur mistake. He will certainly gets cool down when u assure this will not get repeated. wish u all the best.
2006-09-02 15:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by chandra m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen my fiance stay mad for more than an hour, even that's pretty long. Of course I never took his money either, that was a pretty rude thing to do without asking him for it. I mean if it was for a bill why couldn't you just ask him to pay it. He'll probably hold a grudge for awhile.
2006-09-02 15:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you talk to each other about other things? You should of told him but he should've also let you know his plan for paying the bills too. Both are kind of at fault here you two just need to talk more about how the two of you want to handle this in the future. Is this more about you went in his private space (wallet) to get the card? Each of you need your own little private space not to be invaded by the other.
2006-09-02 15:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk. What you did is to pay the utilities, not buy diamonds for yourself.........totally legit. You have the right to use his bank card. You are his wife. Tell him to buck up and stop the nonsense or you will leave him. He is a total assh*le. I won't stand for this from my spouse.
2006-09-02 21:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the bills were past due and he was about to be disconnected then he should not be so mad but really its not stealing or anything you should have asked first but its not the point... do you have a job? is he the sole provider for the family.... if yes then he needs to get over it you paid the bills so what
2006-09-02 15:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he can't deal with paying the bills so you and yours are comfortable with a roof over ya'lls head and food in the fridge ' well ha ain't no man in mine and a whole lot of other mens'book
2006-09-02 15:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋