Ok it's really getting on my nerves. GIRLS ONLY advice?

Question

I'm 14 and a c cup I just started high school in a new school and am making girl AND GUY friends. I only had a couple girlfriends in my old SMALL school. so I have no experience in this situation. I've made a couple of guy friends and still at it. I like alot of them they're really awesome, but not one hasn't made a comment (truthful or just kidding) on my boobs. Its uncomfortable and I even lost a guy friend cause he took it too far. Tell them that it's annoying but I don't too bitchy. THAY EVEN TRY TO GUESS MY SIZE!!!!!! It feels degrating and hurtful...but no shirt on the face of the Earth will hide my "gifts" not even a goose down winter coat...no joke! I like finally having guy friends without ppl thinking I "like" them as more than a friend, but are they only giving me attention cause of my chest? Or do they really like me as a person...Gosh when I turn 18 I'm getting work done. PS EVEN MY GIRLFRIENDS comment! no1 will shut up. even parents friends

Answer 1

This is where you start learning how immature boys can be. They are just so breast conscious at this age, and this makes them act like boobs. Some boys never grow out of this they still act like this when they become adult men. When girls are commenting, it is generally because they are jealous. I am an adult women, and actually have grown children and I still have comments made about my "attributes." I have just learned to ignore it in most situations, and in some others I have said, " yes, they are real and they are magnificent," which is a line from Seinfeld years ago. I have even had to have conversations with newer men within my circle of friends, that if they want to talk to me they can do me the courtesy of looking me in the eye! Another person on here suggested that you comment on "their" size. This may shut up some, although some boys would be way to willing to show you and disprove what you have said, so you have to be careful there! Watch while you are talking to your new guy friends, if they are talking to you and looking at you, they are your friends. If they are talking to you but they have that goofy slack-jawed expression and are looking below your chin while you talk...they are just jerks, walk away. My own mother-in-law who was a wonderful person, and we loved each other dearly, used to tease and call me Dolly....I have not had reduction surgery done, but if I start having back problems and things like that, I will. It is amazing how people can be so upset over the opposite sides of the same problem. My friends have daughters around your age, and a couple of those girls are complaining because they get stared at because they are less endowed than some of their friends. Once school has been in session for a few more weeks, you will be more accepted and will be less likely to have all this unwanted attention. This will all work out, teenagers are just young and a bit uncouth and will eventually learn to act like adults, and if you don't just learn to ignore them, or at least act like it doesn't bother you, and once the jerks realize you are not reacting, the fun will go out of the whole thing and they will find something else to think about. They are not using their brains, just their out of control hormones. These hormones are screaming boobies and the boys don't know how to exist without acting like boobs...Have a good night, hope this helps.

Answer 2

That sounds difficult. I agree with Lil-angel64, start guessing their size when they make comments on yours.

In addition, I can't express to you enough the power of confidence, even if it may by difficult. Remind yourself that even though it may suck, many people will be envious of you, and many guys will want to hang out with you. If you can fill yourself with an, "I know, and don't you wish" sort of outlook, most guys will suddenly feel out of your league, thereby curbing the comments... and they won't even realize why. It's hard, but the power of confidence is overwhelming.

As far as if they are really your friends or not, I would think that those who are truly your friends will be the ones who stick around after the boob comments have gotten old, which they eventually will. If there are those still focusing on your "assests", make it apparent you don't feel like wasting your time with people so single-minded.

...and Samantha - that comment is quite insensitive.

Answer 3

At 14 this must be awful....as you get older it will get better.

Guys your age are only looking as certain parts of your body because their hormones are flying all over the place. They are not thinking clearly.....not an excuse but it's a fact of life.

This is no excuse for your friends and your friends parents they should know better. When they make stupid remarks look at them the way you would look at someone with food on their face, don't make any comment, just continue the conversation as though they hadn't said anything.

Good Luck & at 14 this may be a non-issue by the time you're 18. You may grow into your breasts and this will all be just a bad memory.

Answer 4

I have the same problem. I am a 36D and am 15 years old. Everyone feels like they have to comment like I'm not aware of their size. Its so annoying. My one friend even said she wished she had my boobs. Girls in my class pick on me and say I stuff my bra because my breasts aren't proportionate to the rest of my body ( I'm 5'2 and skinny). The best thing you can do is ignore it or try and be funny and make a comment on a guys package. Let him see how uncomfortable it is to be measured by people.

Answer 5

The girls comment cause they want what you have.. the guys comment because they are horny little slime balls. You have to get some guts and start making comments back at em. Degrade the penis size... thats always a good shot. A 14 yr old with a C will get attention because wel.. its rather uncommon but your gentics have blessed you so be happy with what you have, and don't let anybody judge the person you are by the size of your boobs.

Answer 6

Try to wear clothes that hide as much as possible. At your age this Can be a major problem. Make every effort to NOT draw attention to your chest and if comments are made just smile and say "bet you wish you had great breasts like mine"

Your friends are probably just jealous and wish they had your attributes. You may decide to have a reduction when you get older, but maybe you will change your mind and realize girls are paying big bucks to have what you have courtesy of mother nature and family genes.

Answer 7

you have a C-cup and people do this? Really? Are you serious? The people in your school must be really mean. Are they all flat? I bet they are. That doesn't happen in my school. Not at all.

Don't get your breasts reduced! They aren't big, no one in the real world or even outside of your particular school would tease a girl about having C-cups. I mean, come on, C-cups? It's just one size above average. Maybe D-cups (my sister doesn't get teased for those) but C's. No way.

Answer 8

Hey...

Even if you don't like it, just laugh it off! "Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. After all, you could be missing out on the joke of the century...." - some celeb said that. Your friends are obviously jealous so they're trying to get to you. You got em, so flaunt em, girl. Whenever they say something, be like "whatever..." And while you're at it, find a guy who likes you for you and not for your cup size. It might take time, but Mr. Right will come along eventually..

Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm 20 and a DD cup. You will get attention from boys or men and thats part of life. They like boobs bc they dont have them. As for the girls, they are just jealous haha it is true! If you dont want all that extra attention drawn to your chest dont wear skin tight clothing and cover up! Thats all you can do! :)

Answer 10

Real friends would not make hurtful comments. Just say...hey...they're boobs! Everyone has 'em! It's too bad 14-year olds have to be so mean!! If a guy tries to guess your size, try to guess his...start small...like 1"!!! That'll shut them up!