we are almost six months and im very much happy. only my parents dont agree. what should i do?
2006-09-02 15:03:10 · 9 answers · asked by carendawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
shes 17 and i'm 16. she's my first same sex relationship. i'm happy with her.
she hepls me when i'm down and if i need support sh'es always there. that is why i can't leave her just for the reason that my parents don't agree.
2006-09-06 02:24:46 · update #1
In life, we have to do what we feel is best for us.
There will be many times that people won’t agree with what we do.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that they are wrong for not agreeing with us or respecting our wishes. Chances are, that they may well be right, and in time, we may well come to accept that what we did was wrong.
Unfortunately, you have supplied very little information, and it is very hard to get a proper understanding of your situation. This is your one and only question, and there is nothing in your profile to suggest how old you are or anything.
You have mentioned that you have been in a ‘same sex relationship’ for the past six months, and that your parents don’t agree with it.
I can appreciate why your parents would have their concerns.
They would’ve had imaginings of you in years to come ‘getting married’ and ‘having children’… they are normal expectations that parents have for their children.
You need to realise that your getting involved in a ‘same sex relationship’ would have come as a real shock to your parents. In all their imaginings, you partnering up with someone of the same sex, would probably never have entered their mind.
Should your parents accept and respect your relationship?
Probably not !!!
Not at this stage… It is something that they may well come to accept in time, but for now, initially, they are fully within their rights to have major concerns.
Your ‘happiness’ is very important to your parents, and whilst you may believe that they should be happy because you are happy, there is no guarantee that that happiness is going to last, and it is your parents who will need to be with you to help you pick up the pieces.
Mind you, it isn’t only ‘same sex relationships’ that parents have concerns about. Any relationship that a son or daughter gets involved in is going to be a concern for the parents.
Parents want what is best for their children, and when the kids get involved in a relationship, the parents will have concerns as to whether the chosen partner is good enough for their son or daughter.
Are you ‘living with’ the ‘same sex partner’?
Is there an ‘age gap’ between you and your partner?
Did you discuss with your parents, the feelings you had, prior to getting into the relationship?
As I said, you haven’t really given enough information for people to get a proper understanding of your situation. Because of that, you may not get the responses you are looking for.
I don’t really know what I should suggest to you, except for you to try to keep your options open.
Perhaps your relationship is an ‘experimental’ thing.
I don’t know if you have ever been in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
In time, you may well find that you are attracted to someone of the opposite sex, and move into a relationship with them.
I’m not going to be critical of ‘same sex relationships’.
I’m sure there are many that are very successful.
Try to understand why your parents are concerned.
They love you very much, and want only what is best for you!
If things work out well with the relationship, and your parents see how happy you are, they will come to accept and respect your choice of partner.
If however, things don’t work out with the relationship, don’t live in regret.
Put it down as experience… and move on!!!
2006-09-02 15:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen..if your happy and your parents don't like him..then they have to deal with it..u need to talk to them and tell them that they can't control your life..yes its going to hurt but they need to get over the fact that ur with this person that u love..
2006-09-02 22:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the opposite sex and have a relationship! If you are asking this question deep inside you feel that you are doing something wrong!
2006-09-02 22:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your parents are right,you need to finish this relationship,if not,be happy.Good luck.
2006-09-02 22:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents arent in the relationship u r but maybe they see something u dont so find out but again its ur relationship not theirs
2006-09-02 22:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship
2006-09-02 22:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by little mama kat 23 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
if you are happy, then it doesn't matter what your parents think. they can't live your life for you.
i say continue to be happy.
2006-09-02 22:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by feisty_wun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They live their lives, you live yours. In the meantime, treat them courteously and just don't get into fights about it.
2006-09-02 22:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Steve H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up for yourself and be happy!
2006-09-02 22:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋