2006-09-02 14:47:42 · 21 answers · asked by txgreenbird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk it over and ask? Gotta be a man and break the ice!
2006-09-02 15:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Wayne S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens. People get stuck in a rut and do the same routine from day to day and things get boring to some people and someone else pays them a little attention and tells them they look good or there pretty and they fall for it. If she is having an affair then the best thing you can do is leave . Your punishing yourself by staying and puttting up with it. But I would find out for sure. You don`t want to accuse without proof!! This happen to me back in 2001after 10 years of marriage and I found a 6 page love letter that she had wrote to the guy she was seeing. I moved from Virginia back to Florida and I didn`t look back!! I had to leave my son behind but in 2003 he came to live with me and she regrets it now. It seems that the grass wasn`t greener on the other side of the hill. And moving away from the situation was the best thing that happen to me because I met a beautiful lady and we got married a year ago and I couldn`t be happier. Don`t let this get to you hang in there and just know if she is doing this then she didn`t care about the last 13 years anyway and move on with your life. If she cared she wouldn`t do it no matter how many problems you might have between you. I could never forgive someone who sleeps with someone else if there a married person. Man or woman no excuse!!!
2006-09-02 15:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to talk to her, then if she is having an affair then go to counseling that is if she wants to stay and work out the problems. If you have been married for thirteen years then chances are she loves you. Sometimes it just gets difficult (im not saying an affair is right by any means) really try talking to her if you have and you get nothing then try again let her now how you are feeling guys never express themselves so we never know what they are thinking or feeling.
2006-09-02 15:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by molly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I believe generalizations are very dangerous and there are always exceptions no matter what, it has been my experience that there are really only 2 reasons that a guy would ever say make a statement like yours:
#1 The dude is out of control insecure, lacks trust, is very controlling and ridiculous. Although this happens very often, I believe it is the minority.
#2 The dude knows in his mind that his wife is cheating on him. However, due to the miserable pain, the love of his wife, his belief that his wife could never do something so horrible, some sort of defense mechanism, etc., the man does everything in his mental capacity, against all logic and reason to convince himself that she really isn't cheating even though, deep down, he knows different.
Furthermore, even when dudes do find out that their wives are cheating on them, more often than not to avoid the reality that their wives cared so little about them that they could hurt them that bad, they blame themselves for her cheating behavior. Seriously, how ridiculous?! Oh, I could go on and on.
Which one are you? I see alot of the posters are wondering, in not so many words, the same thing.
I feel for you buddy. No one deserves to be cheated on.
Stay Up Playa!
2006-09-02 15:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More info please!!From the little you have said though,thirteen yrs,you have a lot of time together,so just ask her out straight and tell her of your concerns.If the two of you cant talk now at this stage in your marriage,then you never will be able to.You must have the faith to at least talk to one another,if nothing else.
2006-09-02 15:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a PI, know for sure and confront her with the evidence. Ask her what is her next move.........carry on like this or divorce? OR allow you to have an affair too.
2006-09-02 21:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she's having an affair. Tell me specific behavior changes that you've noticed, not gut feelings or anything of the like!
2006-09-02 14:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove it first, catch her on the act. Then whether you love her dearly it is better to get out of her life than to be killing yourself inside.
File charges against her once proven. Infidelity is still infidelity
Children,, you can have custody on them..
2006-09-02 14:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your wife is having an affair then she probably is. Trust is gone forever regardless of the outcome.
2006-09-02 15:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by mythoughts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you look you'll find, remember this premise. Are you ready to deal with it? If so, start looking for proof, and with that in hand, confront her. Don't attack her, confront her, ask her what is going on and let her give you her reasons, If there's children involved and she's willing to, search for help, in any way you might find suitable, therapy, counselling, religion, just as long as she still wants to fight for your relationship. If she doesn't, well, time to move on with your life.
2006-09-02 15:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stop thinking about it and do something about it.. u cant just go on feelings of suspect go do some searching around and see if its true for sure or not.. if it is, go from there, if u search and u cant find anything concrete stop searching and realize that ur wife loves u and is faithful to u.. but if u think she is, then find out for sure. .. but again if u find nothing after u search long and hard, then PLEASE STOP KILLING URSELF over something thats not there..
2006-09-02 14:51:35 · answer #11 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋