I love my parents! I'm a daddy's girl, and my sister is closer with my mom. I'm 14 and there is stuff going on in my life that would be good to have my mom there to talk too. But i really want to be closer with my mom, i just don't really know how. I don't really just want to like go up to her and be like i want to be closer with you. So how do i get my mom and I to be closer?
2006-09-02 14:41:56 · 13 answers · asked by manda 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When you get home from school, sit down and have a cup of tea, pop, coffee, anything with her and spend a few minutes talking about anything. Your day, her day, what's for dinner, news, boys. Give her a hug when you leave the house. Little things over time are what builds a relationship.
2006-09-02 14:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue I am a total daddy's girl he gives me all the attention in the world and I get anything I want but I don't have the same relationship with my mom. I have an older sister that's 18(I'm 14) and she and my mom are like best friends and they do lots of things together. So usually if I had a problem I would go and talk to my dad because I felt like he would understand me more than my mom. I only went to my mom on certain topics. After a while I got tired of feeling like I couldn't have the same connection with her like my sister so I said mom I want to talk to you more and feel like you would listen and really understand me so we sat down and talked about how I was feeling. She told me she thought that I liked to spend time with my dad more and she didn't really know how to connect with me because my older sister are different so she let things continue how they were. She said she was sorry because I felt like I couldn't always be open. So we talk more and we found things we had in common and we are closer than before. So the most important thing for you to do is to talk to your mom even if you don't want to go up to her and be like I want to be closer. You have to let her know how you are feeling because she will never know unless you tell her. Hope everything works out! Good Luck!
2006-09-02 22:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by moneerocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just really want to tell you how impressed I am that you want to be closer to your parents. A lot of girls your age are trying to stay as far away from their parents as possible, which makes your attitude even more impressive.
How about you suggest doing something with your mom, like asking her if she wants to go shopping with you or to rent a movie for you to watch together? The more time you spend with her the closer you two will be.
2006-09-02 21:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that I've done and also received as a mother( I've saved them) was notes. Write down on a note or a special card what your mom means to you, what special memories you have of her etc. Tell her that you would like to have times when it would be just the two of you so you could talk. Since your mom loves you she'll probably appreciate you asking. Mom's get too busy sometimes.
Just leave the note where she'll find it if you are uncomfortable handing it to her. Good luck Honey!
2006-09-02 21:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by USAloyal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same with my mom she didnt really understand sometime u should ask to hang out (though u may not want to)
ask her to a manicure and pedicure at a nail salon on the weekend she will probably be surprised and immediately take up the offer then thats ur chance to tell her how u feel and that should start a chain reaction ull get closer and talk with her more when ur spendin time with her fell like ur talking to ur friends (more respect though) she will feel close with u and want to tell u stuff too trust me this will work
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2006-09-03 00:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tiarra R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you two are in the car by yourself on day, just start talking to her about somethings that have been on your mind. Your family seems very loving and I think that it will be a good gateway to future conversations. But it will not happen overnight, so don't compare your relationship with your mom to your sister's relationship with her.
2006-09-02 21:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Me I'm not close to anyone in my entire family (including grandmas etc.)but my sister but even she doesn't really understand me. The best thing to do is find a time when you both aren't really doin somethin like a long drive somewhere and just start a conversation.
2006-09-02 23:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by chriskim93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i am that way with my dad. but now when he is off work, im not all excited, i get nervous andfrustrated. cause when he is home we don't do anything. just talk to her, that is what hleped me. actually me and my father went to a farther daughter summit. it was great.
2006-09-02 21:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom if you can sleep with her.
2006-09-02 21:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by I C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with her and talk to her more
2006-09-02 22:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋