i sit and analyze everything. i worry and can't make desicions at all. i don't care much about anything. i don't like people much and get stressed out easily. i don't feel i do anything right. what is it like to be free of all this?
2006-09-02 14:24:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
well, i'm just called weird all the time. i know i'm different, i think differently than most and am an outcast. i'm not complaining, i like it actually... i just wonder how others percieve the world and seem to have it all together.
2006-09-02 14:50:52 · update #1
Are you my long lost twin sister?
2006-09-02 14:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be analyzing everything, all you can do is make a mistake and then correct it. You don't have to care about everything that comes along, care about a few things and do them right, as for people, there are a lot of people that will never be those that you would communicate with or like, after all, maybe millions in your life time, always chose wisely your friends and keep just a few close to you.
You do do things right, you sound a bit unsure of yourself, but I know that there are things you do right you just need to have the confidence to state so and not back down.
Try liking yourself a lot more, and see how easy it is to accomplish all the above. Look in that mirror and hug yourself, your worth it. Go ahead...right now!!
2006-09-02 21:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, if anyone can answer that for you...God bless you. There is no such feeling or entity as being "normal." We are all different, and there is truly no 100% normalcy when it comes to individuals. If you are like how you described yourself to be in the above question, it is because you simply chose to be. I have chosen to be the way I am, and I am paying a price for it. I know how you feel. You wonder if you will ever just feel whole, and feel at least a bit of happiness that the majority of the world out there looks like they are. But here is the kicker, honestly...most people are just like you and me. Confused, mixed up and trying to find out how to make sense of all this. The only thing and person getting me through this is God. Honestly, without Him, I do not know what I would do or where I would be. He is the only one helping keeping my sanity these days. Look to God in times of struggle, even though it makes literally no sense in our heads...sometime soon the heart will begin to take over when we just keep on choosing to ask God for help. And that will eventually begin to change our mindsets about ourselves.
2006-09-03 02:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many questions within your statment, you first ask how it is to be normal, yet you do not know what normal is. Normal, in the litteral sense of the word, is being a systematic robot, allways preforming the right 'act' at the right time. Constantly doing the same thing over and over. Normal is borring.
To be normal you have to be able to change your personallity rapidly in an attempt to please everyone, this is because normal is different between people, between societys.
The end result shows that no one is 'normal' yet everyone is normal in their view of the word. View yourself as you are, don't inquire what others would do, but rather what you WANT to do.
In your case you have a strong feeling of self doubt. Basically you allow society to belittle you and your views. You have allowed the pressures of society to cave in upon you and landed in a sadisical trap. To get out you must take a chance, to walk out blindfolded, but to stay in insures suffering. I know that escaping this beasts grap is not simple and may take vasts amount of time and courage.
You have avoided sticking your neck out for so long that now you have conformed to the idea that you are less then what you are. You are not.
You need to do something wrong on PURPOSE. Currently you are doubting that you can make the right choice and that there will be sever consequences if you don't. The only way to counter part of that is to show yourself that being wrong is okay.
Besides, what is 'wrong'? I mean 10+10=4 in my book, yet some would claim that to be wrong. But hey, 10 base 2 is 2 so from MY persepctive I am right. It doesn't matter that others will claim that it is not true, I need no 'checker' because, in my heart, I believe I am right.
Just because someone believes something to be wrong does not make it wrong, they just have to look at it from a different perspective. Similarly, even a choice that some would consiter to be 'wrong' may only be so in one aspect. It may be right from numerous other aspects.
Additionally what is the matter of being different, John gets a different hair cut every other week. Is that really 'different'? I mean Claire buys a new outfit around the same time. One person changes their hair while the other changes their cloths. The fact is that even though John may be percived as 'different' he is not, in fact he is rather popular (says he does it for some kind of 'running gig').
The truth is that different is life, none of us are alike, some may look alike, but that does not affect who they are and how they act. We are each, you can say, a type of spice added to the meal, we each have somthing we can add if given the chance. But to do it, we must reach out, and take it.
2006-09-02 22:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Merranvo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you can't enjoy life. You can work at trying to like
people. There are a lot of wonderful people in this world and you
are missing out on a lot in life. It isn't easy making decisions. I have had to do all that you talk about as I am widowed. It isn't
easy, but we all have to do it. Good or bad, we do the best we
can.
2006-09-02 21:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew, because you sound a lot like me. I struggle with stressing out every day. I'm the biggest worrier in the world. Life seems to suck most of the time.
2006-09-02 21:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Starscape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal is a false entity dreamed up by people in a way to organize and sort people as to make themselves apeaar more perfect. There is no true meaning to the word normal. May I suggest my book Normality Complex. Comign out sometime soon. I hope...
2006-09-03 00:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like sitting outisde with the sun on your face and being happy. Try meditating and writing in a journal. It sounds like you have a lot of unresolved issues and anger. I used to feel like that a lot and then I started writing and painting and it felt really good to get all those emotions out.
You can email me if you need someone to talk to. I hope you feel better!
2006-09-02 21:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand and can relate to your question and feelings. I was just about to ask if there were any effective suicide methods when I came across your question. My life has been good, but no one to share it with, so I'm tossing in the towel out of shear loneliness, I'm not unattractive or anything, woman are just superficial.
2006-09-02 21:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by denver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be "free of all this" and being "normal" are different. Normality = perception. Perception = Reality. so whatever you perceive to be normal, that's what it is. Normal is a stupid word which to me means, "what you're used to" You gotta ask, what are YOU used to. Maybe you are trying to think of what other people think, rather than listening to yourself.
2006-09-02 21:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Benjamin E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like depression.It wouldn't hurt you to get a professional opinion.You would be surprized by the results AND know for yourself what is it like to be free of all this.
2006-09-02 21:44:51 · answer #11 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋