Sex advice?

Question

Whats the best way ta tell your partner that your not sexually attracted to them anymore but you still love them?

Answer 1

lol yeah that will go over well lol NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hey hun by the way i love u but i think ur repulsive to sleep with, see you tonight , oh yeah what time is dinner???.. WTH ever dude.. ur best bet is not to tell them at all, if its a matter of weight say u want to go to the gym but u dont want to go alone and ask if they will go with u, or if they will go for a romantic walk with u, ect as to not put the focus on them but as if u just want to spend time with them, if its just them in general ur not attracted to , then u need to start remembering why u found them attractive in the beginning and start making urself see this again.. Sex is suppose to be an action of love, so to say u love someone and yet not to want to have sex with them.. is just wrong.. and u need to figure out what YOUR problem is and fix that with in urself, all ur going to do by letting them know that ur a shallow POS is hurt their feelings and make them feel like ****.. yeah thats love.. sheesh..

Answer 2

Ceddy, grow up. You found her attractive enough to have a child with her, and now you are finding out how much work and responsibility it all is you are attempting to escape. That is the real reason you suddenly don't find her "attractive" any longer. It has nothing to do with her at all, but your own fear of being a new father with the responsibilities of being one, and a husband as well. Listen Ceddy, she is not able to run away from this responsibility, and you will forever regret it if you allow yourself to do it. How will you ever look yourself in the mirror is you abdicate the most important role of your life? Sure you both got caught up in this too young, but you don't see her saying she does not find you attractive any longer, or that she wants out due to feeling too much pressure. You are so lucky to have a woman who loves you and gave you a child. You are lucky to have her parents stand by the both of you and provide you a place to live while you graduate and get a into a better position in life so you both can afford your own home. A place of your own with your own family (your wife and child) will do wonders in releaving a lot of this stress and panic you are currently feeling. Ceddy, you CAN do this, just have faith in yourself. Are you going to be a man or a boy who runs when life gets a bit tough? I know you can stand up and be a man. You just need some encouragement, and not encouragement in telling the mother of your child you do not find her attractive any longer. Ceddy, listen, you are about to make a huge mistake, one you will regret to your dying day. You LOVE this women and your CHILD. If you do this you will lose both of them. You will only be in your child's llfe peripherally, not have any major role. Is this what you want for your child? Do you want your child to feel you did not want it, or that somehow s/he ruined your life? Your child will be damaged horribly if you run out now.

Listen Ceddy, take a deep breath, and share your feelings of fear, inadequency, of how you worry you are not up to all this, but that you love her and want to do the right thing. She loves you and will help you get through this difficult time. A new child is difficult to get use to having, it drains a person, it is so scarey having such a helpless being in our care, our responsibility. But, Ceddy, you CAN do this because if you don't, if you run out on your family, you will damage yourself, you will feel less of a man, and you should feel that way. But you don't have to feel that way. Just turn to your partner in this difficult time and TALK with her, communicate with her and she will not only understand, she will help you through this. Women like to feel needed, they life to feel wanted and that they are helping their spouse. She will be happy you turned to her and did not do anything rash.

Ceddy, if you do run out on this woman and your child, remember these words. You have to become a man someday and that day is now whether you like it or not. There are many who were forced to become adults due to events outside their control, this event was within your control. You had a baby, and now must stand up and be the man. Not tomorrow, not next month, not next year, but today, tonight. This is of your own making, now take care of your family as a man should. Don't injure these fine people, don't run out on them, don't shame yourself. You can do this because you have to do this. Ok? Please listen and don't do anything rash, Think about these words and then go talk to your wife. Hold your precious child and think of life without that child in your life every day, watching the first tooth, the first step, and all the other firsts. Have a part in this childs life. Don't betray this child or yourself. I hope you choose well.

Answer 3

Just tell the truth, but someone could get hurt. If you two really love each other, then maybe you can work on things. Try some new ideas, new moves, new places. Good luck.

Answer 4

Sucks...just depends on how important sex still is to both of you. If either feels the urge to cheat...then you both need to move on. If you can remain in a sexless relationship and you have lots of other stuff in common that you enjoy, then I don't see a problem.

Answer 5

The best way is immediatly so feelings wont get deeper under a false pretense

Answer 6

Just like that. That is so much easier said than done. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes but wow. Its going to hurt her/his feelings. But honesty hurts sometimes. He/She might need some time to swallow that, good luck.

Answer 7

During a three way.

Answer 8

why bother your gonna hurt them no matter what just say yah don't love them anymore and leave before you do any more damage

Answer 9

just come out and tell that person before you hurt them more and ask if you guys can remind friends

Answer 10

Wow just the way you said it....it sucks though!