2006-09-02 13:27:40 · 10 answers · asked by melly 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Is there someone you can talk to? We really can't be of much help here unless we know more about what your issues are. Can you talk to your parents? A teacher? A school counselor? A member of the clergy? Any trusted adult? Whatever the problem is, go to someone you can trust and begin to work on it. Most people your age have things that they need to talk about with someone who can help them sort things out. If at all possible, I'd suggest you start with your parents. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-02 13:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Since you weren't specific.....How about some general advice I wish someone had given me....
1. No matter how important your friends are to you now, there will come a time when they will say or do something that shatters your world. You will feel that "live is OVER" but believe it or not....You Will Get Past This Feeling and Life Will Go On!
2. If you aren't dating yet, you soon will be and you will experience feelings, sensations and a sense of sureness that whoever you are with is Perfect and You Will Be Together Forever! I hate to say it but don't believe it! No matter how wonderful and special it feels, you will reach a time when that feeling passes and you may come to regret certain decisions. DO NOT Do ANYTHING that is Permanant until you have had at least three different long-term (At least 3 years in length) relationships. Until you have experienced life, you can not know what is real and what is just passing passion.
3. If you haven't started your menses yet, there are some things you need to know. PMS is NOT normal, periods should come and go without food cravings, emotional swings and bloating. If you have that, your body is not functioning at its maximum effciency and needs some help. Cramping is NOT normal. Periods should not be painful at all. If they are you hve blood stagnation in the uterus and need help. Random periods are Not normal, Ever! Periods should come every 24 to 28 days and should last approximately 5 days. The flows can be light or heavy depending on the person but they should not have any clotting. If they do, there is blood stagnation forming. And finally, do not use Tampons, they promote blood stagnation and make for painful periods.
4. Your parents, no matter what you may feel about them, can be a very good source for advice. However, you probably will not be ready to listen to them until you are 19/20. (I wasn't until then anyway). Therefore, you need to find someone, preferably someone who has already graduated high school who you are comfortable confiding in because there will be moments over the next few years where you will desperately need to confide in someone. Set the stage now because it may be hard to find someone later when you really need them.
5. Driving is definitely an amazing experience and one you are probably looking forward to. Even if your parents are willing to buy you a car when you turn 16 (or 18 if they successfully change the legal driving age), my advice is to think twice before you accept. When I was in high school, my parents refused to buy me a car and I thought that was terribly unfair. I had to get a job (which they had to loan me their car to drive to) and earn enough money to eventually buy my own car. During that time, several of my friends were given cars by their parents, 8 of them to be exact. Of those 8 friends, 2 of them totaled their cars, killing themselves and some of my classmates, both within a week of getting their cars. One was driving 100+ when she collided with a tree and the other was drinking and driving. Four others were killed within a year of receiving their cars, again due to reckless driving. This happened because they did not respect the cars that they were given. When I finally earned the money to buy my first car, I babied that car and I believe this to be because I spent my hard-earned money on it. My friends who also had to work to buy their cars were the same way about them as I was. Therefore, I truly believe that if you have to work for your car, you will have less of a chance of being reckless with it and that might just help to save your life!
Well, that's five things I wish I had known when I was 13. Don't know if that is what you were wanting but there you go. :)
2006-09-02 20:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by MAQdragon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are changing from a girl into a woman. The hormone progestorone starts to work in your body to carry out this transformation. This is around the time when you should start having your periods or menstruation that prepares you for motherhood. All of this process can start as early as 10 years. I suggest you talk to your mum or sister for reassurance.
2006-09-03 06:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by olayinka o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest going to an adult you can trust and confide in them exactly what you are going through. You can get some direction from them and hopefully put your mind at ease. Give yourself a break, you are going through one of the roughest times as far as growing up goes. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-09-02 20:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by stacey a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call information and ask for kid hot lines. There are volunteers you can talk to on the phone and ask anything and you never need see each other. If you are getting your period...congratulations...you should be able to go to the school nurse. Also go to the public library and you can learn just about anything. Knowledge is power. Go girl.
2006-09-03 03:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you find your passion in life and pursue it vigorously, as achieving your goals in the only real happiness possible in life.
2006-09-02 20:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggestions for what?
2006-09-02 20:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you going through
2006-09-02 20:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kinds of things.
2006-09-02 20:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by kara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh
2006-09-02 20:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by sexxi_baby06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋