Can you give me any advice. I am marrying someone of a different religion and....?

Question

my family doesn't support that idea. I believe that love conqures all. We are to be married soon and I was wanting to know if you all have any tips or words of advice.

We have agreed to respect each others faith and teach our children about both faiths. We have also agreed to not try and change the others faith. I am excited to hear what you have to say. Thank you very much!

Answer 1

marrying any person whom you like is your prerogative. you go a head. but you should not accept his condition that you should be converted into his religion. love has no religion. after all religions are created for human beings but not vice versa. wish you all the best. i request you to study the basic tenets of his religion whether they curb the freedom of women or not. all the best

Answer 2

First of all...congrats for finding the love of your life.

Some people say mix racial marriages do not work out...but I beg to differ. I think it is an amazing phenomenon and an extreme challenge for the couple.

I personally feel that such marriages are longer lasting because of the extra work put in to ovecome people's criticisms. From the way I see it, its your provocative, your life and your future. You should live it for yourself and not for your parents. If you think this it what you want and are willing to give it all to make this work then you go gurl.

I totally support you and respect the fact that you are open minded enough to accept another faith. If you think about it, Love itself is another religion...something you both have incommon......who says the two of you are different. Ok maybe i am crapping here but i do know for a fact that mixed race marriages are possible nad faith should not be a barrier.

cheers

Answer 3

Have you 'accepted' each others faith? How many times have you both visited each others place of worship? How important is your religious faith to you? What are the major differences that there exist between the two and how do you plan to deal with this difference?

I had a girl friend years ago and we did not get married simply because of religion. She is seventh day and I am first. We did not get married because the differences were too great and now we are sorry.
Discuss the most important differences you two have and see how you deal with it. Good luck

Answer 4

As long as you are both of the same "faith", that is Christian, or some other major belief system, then you will probably do well, at least initially. The challenge may come when kids come along and you/they have to decide which church/place of worship to attend. It's hard to be active members in two different churches, and it's sometimes hard to explain that the other church members, though that part is of minimal concern. If you truly want to do things as a family, then church will likely be one of those things, so time will tell, no?

Having said that, there are folks who have made attending two different churches work: Billy Graham is a Southern Baptist and his wife is Presbyterian, and that certainly seems to have worked for them.

I wish you the best, and congratulations!

Answer 5

I married an egyptian & we live in USA. He's the sweetest person you would ever meet, sensitive,open, honest and very sensible. If just love were enough, we would never have problems.
The cultural differences are hard though. To be honest, I liked visiting Egypt, but I would hate to live there. I can't imagine someone liking to live there after they lived here in America. The language barrier was hard for me. We take for granted what's going on around us, conversations etc...but when you don't know the what people are saying you feel lost. I work outside here, but there I would just sit home and have nothing much to do, except cook, do laundry and clean, etc...
We won't have any kids so that's not an issue, but if I had kids or planned to have kids with someone, I would think VERY carefully & to be honest I don't know if I would have married him. It would be very hard for your kids to adjust to life there. The schools are not the best, cultural differences also, etc...There are christian churches, but the sermons won't be in english. Cairo was too crowded and noisy for me, but if you like cities you might not mind that. Too many poor people begged me for money and it made me sad to see that so much. I'm from a small town so I didn't like it at all, as I like a quieter lifestyle. I saw families very involved with the extended family and even too nosy for the most part, but at least they care about each other. But I tell you, people on the other side of that country know your business. Human relationships were more important there than material things which sounds nice but I missed some of the comforts we have here.(too spoiled i know)
I noticed most places don't have air conditioning, like government buildings, post offices, etc...and it's very hot. These seem like unimportant things but the combination of which is too many to write here may be very hard for you and esp the kids.
Well, the good part was, all his family and friends were very nice to me. People on the outside also, although most of them wanted money(foreigns are walking $) & they stare a lot too. Everywhere you go, no privacy and not many quiet relaxing places that we could find.
Anyway, my main concern is for your kids. I couldn't imagine taking mine from the schools here and going there. I'm just afraid they would have a very very hard time from what I saw, that's all. Please make a wise decision for them, don't just act on emotions or what you feel in your heart for this man, although I'm sure he is a good guy. Well good luck with your decision. Hope you will be happy.

Answer 6

If love conqured all there wouldn't be so many people getting divorced. Marriage is hard enough when two people have the same religion much less different ones. It's best to marry someone who shares your same morals, beliefs, religion and background. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Who are you marrying for? Your parents or your spouse-to-be? If you have come to an understanding, then what's the problem? I suppose at your wedding, some people might be uncomfortable, but that is because of their unwavering intolerance, which would be ignorant. I would advise you to look at the priorities you and your fiance have. Do you two really need the approval of others before making decisions? Parent aalways have a "better way" than their children. You just have to accept that. And you also have to accept that you will always be somebody's child.until your parents are gone. It would be foolish of you to let them influence your decision for a life partner. It would be foolish of them to try to manipulate the situation. Just do it. They will get over it.

Answer 8

I think it depends on what your religion is, and how strongly you believe what it teaches. Make sure that you can live with your children deciding to believe what your spouse belives. For example, as a christian, i believe that if you do not take Jesus into your heart and believe in him, you will go to hell. That is as simple as it gets, and I would not want to teach my children anything else, because i want them to go to heaven. I love my children more than anything else, and if the man i was with wanted to raise our children in more than one faith i know it would go against everything that i have in me, and it would cause me too much pain. Just consider what you are doing before you do it, you don't want issues like that weighing on your heart and standing between you two for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

im kinda interested in your religions more then anything here becuase it does present it self with very real issues you just cant gloss over. for instance how can you explain to your child the correct way to get to heaven if one way says good deeds will get you there and the other says you can only get to heaven through asking the lord into your heart, you can teach them both and to suggest that you will let your child see both sides would be sending very mixed mesages that your child can pick and choose of what gives him the greatest and loosest rules. but im guessing you didnt come in here to hear things like this, you came in here to find people who will tell you to do what ever feels good at the moment and if you live your life like that in 7 years youll be getting advice from the same idiots saying you deserve to be happy so divorce him. it sucks to have people tell you somthing you dont want to see but somtimes your folks are right about certain thing and although i wish you the best of luck i hope you understand that i dont see much of a future living by what feels good.

Answer 10

This could be a very sensitive subject. However I'm going to respond because I am of the Christian faith and my bible teaches me that all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord Jesus Christ. So I don't know what religion you or your fiance' have but my advice would be is to make sure you stand firm unwavering in your religion

Answer 11

This is not easy to answer, I have to know your age, are you 14, 24 or 34 years old? Why your parents don't support this idea, do you still financially depend on them? If you and your fiance are financially independent, talk each other about your life together and take professional marriage counselling.