Is this OK?

Question

Do you think is safe and clever that a 20 year old girl starts talking to this very weird looking guy in Camden Town, late, when there's not many people around, gives him her number, and lets him follow her to where she's going that night, which turns out to be this almost deserted road. Also, that the girl is starting to smoke weed, and now.. This magical “legal and herbal pills that just make you see weird things"
One of my best friends is doing this. I keep telling her that her brain is getting messed up and that she's risking too much. BUT the thing is, I'm just not outgoing, not a "party girl" likes her, I don’t even like drinking. So she says I'm just not in that world and that's why I see it like that, and well, Ok coming from me those warnings must sound silly.
SO normal "party girls”: Do you do things like that? I keep telling that she'll eventually go for stronger drugs, but she says that she'll only do natural stuff and she'll be fine.
That's what they always say.

I'm not asking if it's wrong, Clearly, I know that what she’s doing is not OK, is just plain stupid, but I’m just curious, how many people don’t think is that dangerous? and really have control of what kind of drugs you take.
Because I don't go to clubs much, or drink, I don't have that "night life" experience, and I was wondering really how common it is.
I'll have to leave her alone eventually, which is just sad because she's a great girl, but nothing I can do if she won't listen

Thanks for all the answers by the way...
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Answer 1

What a very silly girl your friend is. You have done the only thing and warn her, it is up to her to see common sense,
It's nothing to do with being a party girl, you can be outgoing, and have a few drinks and go home in a group, with boyfriend or get a taxi. Drugs are never acceptable, and you are doing the right thing by not following her example. I'm sorry to say this as she is a best friend, but sometimes there is nothing you can do to help if they continue down this path, apart from kidnapping them and keeping them from harm.

NEVER see yourself as silly for seeing a situation as it is. Some people just will not listen, especially when the brain if fuddled.

Answer 2

Do you know what she was doing in 'the deserted road'? Did she know the guy before?
One point I would like to make is that people who smoke weed do NOT always go onto other drugs, I never did. Legal highs are just that, LEGAL but from my experience they dont make you high. Shes 20 yrs old shes findng herself, I would hope at the age of 20 she is adult enough to make her own choices. At that age I was partying in London, I met some fanastic people.
She is right in a way, you dont revolve in her circles, but if everyone was the same the world would be a dull old palce.
I used and still do use magic mushrooms as a recreational drug, and I still smoke weed too. It had never made me want to mainline heroin, or smoke a crack pipe. Im in my thirties now, and even at 20 I made an informed choice of WHAT I would take and WHEN. Yes the world is a little fluffy and a lot more fun, but also (dependsing on the person) it can be used for more spiritual purposes, Im a pagan I like to be close to nature, my ideal evening is being sat outside at my farm oh a wonderful floaty mushroom trip just taking in my surroundings. Leave her be! Shes old enough to make her own mind up, if she's silly enough to take class A's then thats her look out.!

Answer 3

Sounds like she has issues and is setting up a cycle of abuse. Getting high then deliberately get into dangerous situtations to to inhance the effect. It is an unsual way of getting men to like her to me is sounds like she is playing a game with her self and maybe she hopes that maybe something nasty does happens to her. A cry for help? because if she does survive and ends up in hospital then she would get sympothy. The real test for her would to behave in that manner without drugs. If you really want to know what she thinks don't judge her and keep your opinions to your self she may open up and tell you what really is bothering her. As soon as you say anything along the lines is wrong or a stupid thing to do. She will clam up. She needs some one to listen to her not preach right from wrong. Even though she is doing a very stupid thing. Dont say why are you doing crazy things, or do you know its going mess your brain up. Instead Just ask the simple question why she does it. Shut up and listen to her. If you feel the need to point out that its silly stupid etc. Dont she has heard it all before. Ask what she gets from it. How does she feel the morning after, can she even remember. You say she is one of your bestfriends. Bestfriends listen and dont judge, And banging on about she will end up taking something stronger sounds more like her mum than a friend.

Answer 4

First of all you are right to worry about your friend especially when she does outrageous things like that, it isn't normal for a young person male or female to go up to strangers and strike up a conversation especially not in the dead of night when there is no-one around. She has been extremely daft giving him her real number and then letting him follow her, has she no sense of fear she could have been robbed, murdered etc....
As for smoking weed you are right it does lead to harder drugs and everything that entails.
Even though you don't go out much you seem to have more of an idea about the real world than your so called party girl mate, you are right to worry, however it is her life and you can only look on and support her as best as you can. You seem like a real good mate to have, eventually she will outgrow this weirdo hopefully sooner for her sake rather than later.

Answer 5

Well it may prove very hard to convince your friend, but i agree 100% with your views. Im not exactly a party "girl", but from my knowledge it does sound like alot of girls smoke weed nowadays. However that does not make it ok,and like you say it could easily lead her into stronger drugs. Also your first point sounds crazy and not cleaver at all; i mean she is really risking herself to this man,considering the world nowadays. I think you should make sure you should not get drawn into what shes doing, but it sounds like you wont anyway. It may be hard to talk to her, as she probably finds it cool and will think nothing of what you say, however if she is a true friend, she may listen before something bad happens.

Answer 6

I would suggest slapping some sense into her.
Go mental at her make her see that she's going to lose a lot more than your friendship.
I know it's childish but tell her parent(s) or guardians.
That can't be normal behaviour for a young 20 yr old.
Try to get through to her, if all else fails then stop being her friend and let her carry on what she's doing and let her life unfold how she's chosen it.
But i know your not going to abandon your friend.

Answer 7

There's being a party girl and there's doing what your friend is doing. She seems like an easily influenced person who's been caught up with the wrong crowd. I hope you have other friends who are more like you. If not, I suggest you look for some. Otherwise this "Party Girl" will end up as your "social albatross."

Hopefully your friend will come to her senses before she really gets hurt, by which time you will have a better circle of friends and it will be up to her if she wants to join it with you.

Answer 8

If she's lucky, all she'll end up with is herpes. And a drug habit. And rotten teeth.
If she's not, well everyone else has said it--cold slab at the morgue.
And I would drop her as a friend--you dont need "friends" like that--they eventually come asking for money for their habits, break into your house, stab your family to death under the influence of "safe herbal pills"....

Answer 9

It's OK to do just as she wants to do, though she ought to be aware that just as the announcer WARNED in the buildup to the start of Jerry Anderson's' ''Stingray'' TV series,

- "Anything can happen in the next half hour" --

could well happen. As long as your friend accepts that she is playing a kind of Russian Roulette, with the possibility of consequences, then it's not recommended for fools or anyone, but go ahead.

Sash.

Answer 10

so - you answered your own question
No it's not right and it's not normal either. People who think that taking drugs and putting themselves in dangerous positions are not making wise choices for their lives and are delusional if they think it's normal.
Stick to your guns girl
All you can do for your friend is to continue to be a good example for her. If she gets into or is planning on getting into a very dangerous situation, tell an adult that you trust, or call a support line for advice. That way if something terrible happens to her, you will have no guilt in knowing that you did the most you could for your friend.
ps - being a friend is loving someone enough to want the best for them. If she rejects you because of your stand on her behalf, she is no friend of yours.