My future husband & I both got tested (even though I am a virgin) and have no STDs.
I wonder if I have a little OCD or Anxiety issues, because I keep thinking of scenarios where I will contract HIV from unprotected sex (like what if one day he has an affair & doesn't tell me).
But I can't expect him to want to use a condom for the extent of our marriage right? Should I talk to a mental health professional. Thank you.
I have heard of a lot of cases also in third world countries where husbands bring HIV home to their wives. I just can't get that out of my mind. please help!
2006-09-02 12:54:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
no he doesn't travel to 3rd world countries! I have talked w/ him & he's very understanding but I wonder if this is some sort of an obsession or normal....
2006-09-02 13:02:13 · update #1
you sure are scared of death. well, not death, you seem scared of the actual act of dying, and there being no way to help you. it appears that you even made up a situation where you could possibly contract the aids
perhaps, if you are lucky, you will find other women who think/thunk similarly, who can help you. good luck
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also... PEOPLE! her fear is NOT that the husband is cheating! her fear is contracting a disease that cannot be cured!
2006-09-02 12:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and/or you and your spouse to be should probably talk to a therapist.
As long as you are both faithful, there there is no chance of any STD. So it sounds like you may have trust issues where your man is concerned. I'm not saying they are justified as I don't know him in the least, but you need to sort through the trust issues BEFORE you consider marriage.
Either he is trustworthy and your lack of trust will do major damage to your relationship (how would you like not being trusted..believe me..this sort of thing can drive a man to cheat), OR you have reason to not trust him and should probably not go through with the wedding until these matters have been resolved to your satisfaction.
It is best to get this handled NOW, you can't go into the marriage this freaked.
Good luck.
2006-09-02 13:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were both tested You stated you are free of any std's and are still a virgin, what about your future husband what are his test results. you should know that before you marry. If you feel you cant trust him at this time then do not marry him . When you marry some one you put your complete trust in them, and they put their trust in you. If you feel the need to talk to a professional by all means do so, set your mind at ease,you are on the right track.
2006-09-02 13:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Littlebigdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i replaced into afraid the 2d time after being damage so badly the first. unhappy yet actual. even as i replaced into 18 I married my extreme college sweetheart. i replaced into no longer afraid in any respect. I nonetheless we were going to be mutually continually. once that failed i did not trust anymore. It took my latest husband 4 a million/2 years to cajole me to marry him and that he wasn't going everywhere. fortunately after 10 years of being mutually , 5 years of marriage, and a couple of youthful little ones i imagine he's right here to stay! I have positioned him through a lot in the previous that if he replaced into going to go away...he ought to have executed it!
2016-12-06 04:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by akana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, you shouldn't marry him. If you do, then relax about it. Don't you ever want to have kids? These are the things you should have hashed out WAY before the aisle-walk. Talk to someone if you think you need to. Sounds like you are a bit stressed with all the wedding plans and stuff. Good luck~
2006-09-02 12:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may just be nervous about the wedding, and it sounds like you might have a trust issue. Some couples speak to a minister before they get married...pre-marital counseling. This might help you work out these issues. Good Luck to you.
2006-09-02 13:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by brokenarrow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're so concerned that he might have an affair, maybe you're marrying too hastily. This isn't the sort of concern a bride ought to have! Have you discussed it with him? If so, and you're still so flustered, it would probably set your mind at ease if you (both) went for one or two sessions of couples counseling and talked about this.
Good luck - I really hope your fears are groundless.
2006-09-02 12:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Steve H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with feeling like that! my parents got tested before they got married that way they both knew if something was wrong with the other! If he's understanding like you say he is! he won't have a problem with the test! also get tested for other diseases that may run in his family that way you can have an idea if your children would be ok! just make sure for yourself!
2006-09-02 13:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Black Betty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that this would be an issue you want to resolve before you get married. Counseling would be a great idea. That will help you to determine if there is any basis for your fear or if it is just paranoia.
2006-09-02 13:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're going to get married, i would believe that you trust your husband 100%. Therefore if u tough he was someone to be hvaing affairs you shoundld'be be getting married. Just try to get read of urs fears.
2006-09-02 13:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by kara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋