I think my mom choose the wrong man to get married to.
If I could tell you about some of the stuff my mom puts up with it would make these kids talking about " He doesnt make money I hate him " , " sex sux " or whatever other junk would feel stupid.
She is a pretty up and outstanding person and I often wonder how this happened to her. They have been married for 22 years.
even I dont get it, but I do know many other women would have gotten a divorce from my dad years ago. Maybe it has to do with their raising, they are not from the US, but caribbean.
she said he was never like this when she first met him, maybe its the stress of being in the US and having five failed businesses and all. He doesnt curse, drink, or hit her, he's a good person just miserable.
but all I want to ask is, how can a woman tell the kind of man she is marrying. Seriously men, How can we read you, even the "rico suave types"? SHE TOLD ME THATS the worst part, that you just cant tell? I just dont believe it
2006-09-02 12:29:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anyone can fake sincerity, but no one an fake empathy. Showing emapthy is the one big "tell" that will determing what he turns out to be like later. If he lacks empathy, then she would do well to avoid marrying him. Talk to her and tell her to pay attention to this.
2006-09-02 13:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry yet when he's not any longer dependable now what makes you or each person else imagine he will be before marriage or after marriage dedication is an rather extreme ingredient in a courting in case you cheat you're not any more waiting for this marriage ought to any guy like it if she did an same probable no longer! imagine about it
2016-12-06 04:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by gleiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is predict the future based on the past.
You need to know the past to be able to do this, which is one reason to date/be engaged (without having sex and getting pregnant) for a year or so. You also want to meet his family and friends and hear the stories. How did he react when something bad happened? How did he react when something good happened? Some guys would react to both by getting drunk.
Some girls never meet his family until after they have kids. (One reason to have a wedding is you meet the families and have a chance to find out things while you're planning the wedding! It sort of misses the point if you're getting married because you're pregnant already!)
2006-09-02 12:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good Question. It is really hard to tell. Some men start out one way and when you marry them and have babies with them, they change on you. Alot of them arent ready for the partnership, its all fresh and romantic at first, then when responsibility enters the picture they feel like it is too much stress on them. I dont think she married the wrong man, its just that he feels like he hasnt succeeded in the things he wanted to succeed in as a person and as a man. They sound like they need counseling. Your mother loves him very much and I know that he may not want to get help, but he is very depressed and needs some support. Talk to your mother about trying to get him out of the depression he is in and maybe she will find the man she fell in love with all over again.
2006-09-02 12:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not just a piece of paper nor an assurance to tied-up to. Love is where it all starts; without love there is nothing to tie the two half to become one, because love is unconditional it requires sensibility, empathy, patience and *communication. Life is difficult, we know that. Trials to a certain degree could make couple loose their visions and goals and crumble into unplanned track and regret. They should never collide especially in the negative sense. Couple should know their purpose in one another. it sounds like this, "I could fly higher as an eagle for are the wind beneath my wings".
2006-09-02 12:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by AngeLics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is...u can't tell fully what the man is going to be like. U can only have an idea of what he'll be like, especially when u haven't known him that long. We can't read the future. Besides, people change overtime so he may not be the same person now than when u first met them.
2006-09-02 12:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way, you have to know what kind of man you want to get marry to.
When you are dating, observe in details will he fit your profile. I once heard that woman has instinct to know if the man is the right man or not.
You have to observe the man and spend time study about him. Only time will tell.
2006-09-02 12:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life throws us a lot of curves. you can't see them going into the marriage. sometimes when a couple has been married as long as your parents, they stay that way, because they don't know anything else. they may be miserable, but it's better than being alone.
2006-09-02 12:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choosing a man for marrige it is not soo hard as you think soo you trust him . he trust you , you have the perfect love and you two get very good time together and you know him for a long time , you know how to upagiants him then it should't be so hard, good luck
2006-09-02 12:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Strange Ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always know everything about the man you fall in love with you just have to trust your heart.
2006-09-02 12:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋