For example, she had an affair with a married man. I don't want to sound like I approve, but since she's not all that close a freind, more like a pen pal, I don't feel I should chew her out or psycholanalyze her either. I just don't really what to hear this stuff, but otherwise I really enjoy our correspondence. What should I do......???
2006-09-02 12:12:11 · 16 answers · asked by mj_indigo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't have to approve. just give your opinion . i don't think your friend see's you as a marriage guidance councilor nor a psychiatrist, just someone to talk to.
2006-09-02 12:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bob Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to top everything she tells you with a story of your own, even if you have to make it up. After awhile, she will become frustrated by this type of behavior on your part and hopefully will stop it. I don't suggest this in a serious, personal friendship, only if it is more of a casual friendship - as you've confirmed - being conducted either by mail or over the internet. Afterall, it doesn't sound as if you've got that much to lose here as long as you don't consider her to be a really close friend.
2006-09-02 19:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you do not like hearing her affairs with married men
2006-09-02 19:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends tell me things sometimes that I would rather not know sometimes, but that is exactly what a friend is: someone who listens. I definitely could go without knowing some things, but I know that you gotta treat people like you want to be treated.
2006-09-02 19:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her or him in a you don't want to hear anymore of this. Simply. People today are afraid to open their voice. If it bothers you stop it.
Stay very well.
2006-09-02 19:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by gdmantle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell her you dont feel comfortable hearing about her "private life"
2006-09-02 19:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by lizzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to lay it on her slowly that having an affair with that man is wrong and tell her not to do it again
2006-09-02 19:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by amc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you really like her being your friend however you do not like to hear about her being unfaithful to her husband.
2006-09-02 19:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..first its best for you as a friend to listen..and see it in your own point of view..but if that ***** saying somthing like about u or somthing dat shouldnt be said...ill tell her to shut the fawk up...
2006-09-02 19:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by onlee_bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come out and tell her that you really don't care and don't want to hear about it...
2006-09-02 19:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pumpkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋