can any1 please give me some adivce on what 2 do as i dont know what there is as my wee sis had problems having a baby but now she is pregnant with having help at the hospital but the doc says it aint me that has a problem and my husband is 2 scred to go to the doc 2 see if it him can any1 help me on this thanks from gina in dundeee ps soz about the spelling
2006-09-02 11:44:41 · 9 answers · asked by gina m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
If your husband refuses to get tested then there is a test they can do to determine if he has suffecient sperm. It's called a post coital test. You and he have intercourse at home and then you go to the dr. and they do a pelvic exam and look at your mucus under a microscope.
2006-09-02 12:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor can't be sure that there is no problem with you - the only way to prove that is to have a baby!
You need to do some tests, and your GP should be able to arrange them: if your partner won't consent to a sperm test (which IS done with a cup - and is much more likely to show any problems than a blood test), then you might be able instead to go on to what is called a "post-coital" test, where a sample is taken from you soon after having sex.
However, as others have said, this whole experience will be a lot easier if your partner works with you on it: explain to him how important this is to you, and that you hope it's important to him too. If he wants to have kids, and he has some problem with sperm production, then he's going to have to accept medical help at some stage - and even if his sperm are poor in both quality and number there are techniques such as ICSI which can help.
You'll have to work hard and persuade him that fertility problems - if indeed he does have any, and there's no reason to be certain that he has - won't make him any less of a man. As many as 1 in 15 men have such problems, but with the right medical help most can do the most "manly" thing there is - father a child.
2006-09-04 02:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by gvih2g2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time, if he refuses to go to the doctor then there is nothing we can do about it, his sperm count might be low since you know you are not the problem then it is more likely to be him. One of the things I can tell you though is ways to help him have healthier sperm, like, caffeine is bad if you are trying to get pregnant but it is actually good for men, the more caffeine he consumes the stronger sperms he will have, give him a Zinc suplement, do not let him take hot baths, that slows the sperm movility, tell him to wear loose underware and keep his genitals cool when not at work. If you guys smoke, that is definitely a bad thing to do when TTC on both sides, you might consider quitting or limiting your smoke intake.
2006-09-02 13:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gina, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your partner to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your partner to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-09-03 02:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really want a baby or is he just scared that they are going to find something? He probably can conceive but it may not be your time yet to have a baby...I know that might sound frustrating to hear but my hubby was married before and he told me that he and his first wife tried for a month straight to get her pregnant and nothing worked....well when he met me and we started dating about 5 months later I got preg...He felt that with his first wife it just wasn't his time to have a kid..basically he said somebody was looking out for him...but we have 2 friends who are trying to get pregnant and they are in the same dilemma...my only advice is try talking him into going to the dr. and if that wont work then just keep trying...
2006-09-02 14:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by angelblueyes200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look on ebay. There is a male fertility test for about £15-£20 (you get 2 tests) that detects sperm levels. I'm considering trying one of these too for my hubby!
2006-09-02 21:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by cuddlymummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id really try to get your husband to a doc. My husband suffers from male menapause, hense the reson we had such trouble conciving our son. Until he finally bit the bullet and went to get tested it was one long, agaonizing ordeal. And to rule that out its not even embarrssing, its a blood test to check the testoterone level, so no little mystery cups.
2006-09-02 12:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont mean to sound nasty but if your husband wants a baby as much as you he will go and have the test
2006-09-03 11:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by lushlushlena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋