Sex before or after?

Question

Should people have sex before or after marriage? why and why not?
Is sex important?

Answer 1

The best moral way to do it is sex AFTER marriage. That way, it means something other that something to do. Pre-marital sex is frivolity, even though it may feel good. The pourpose of sex is to keep two people together. I know that this is a concept which none of the readers here will recognize. It is, however, a fact. Sex is to be a part of marriage. And, unfortunately, marriage itself is a concept that in this day and age seems disposable. Marriage was NOT designed to be disposable, however. It was designed to last "To death do us part.". Sex IS an important part of marriage, to help us to remember these precepts. The answer, in short, is AFTER. Good luck.

Answer 2

Sex is the mortar between the bricks of the relationship wall. You need it for the relationship to stand up, but you can't build a wall of mortar alone. When you've both discussed marriage and how you're going to make things work, and you, lady, have gone to see your doctor and all those matters are taken care of, and you KNOW what you're doing about birth control and disease prevention ... maybe then you should have sex before you get married, just to make sure there's no hidden problems that would wreck your marriage. But only have sex with a person you plan to marry. Don't do it just for the fun or because it feels good; it's a great thing but so much can go wrong. Good luck, think hard and honestly about it, and go for it when the time is right.

Answer 3

Although it is taught sex should be after marriage I think in our society (American), sex is, not neccessarily a pastime, I just can't think of the right word. It's seems its everywhere and everyone is having it. Personally I don't think it matters. Today, a couple usually gets together after they have already had sex. Not in all cases but I think a lot of relationships are based on sex, which is sad. People confuse sex with love all the time and I think sex is only important to the degree of satisfaction. It shouldn't make or break a relationship, unless ofcourse your mate is cheating...but anyways. My husband and I actually got married before we had sex but that is a long story.

Answer 4

Sex is a big part of a relationship. It can mean the difference between a failed marriage and a happy one. Because of this, you should examine the situation carefully. Does your significant other have a religious belief concerning the issue? Do you feel like your significant other is too pushy about having sex or are they just looking to experience something new with you? Sex before marriage can be justified just like it can be a bad decision. Look at the situation you're in carefully and take it from there.

Answer 5

Sex should be after marriage because after you really get to know a person thoughts sometimes you wish you had not done the sex thing . Sex is for coming closer together and is something you should only experience with someone you would trust your inner most thoughts with ]

Answer 6

Before.
Because you need to know your partner sexually. You need to know how compatible you are. Even if you do not have a partner, you should have sex before marriage in order to gain sexual experience.
Sex is a human drive. That means that everyone wants to have it, everyone is motivated by it.
In marriage you want to find the best companion in life you can find, in all respects. And that includes sex as well.
Finally, people who do not achieve sexual happiness within marriage tend to look for sex outside marriage. Therefore it is important that you know that you and your partner are going to have lots of good sex before you actually marry.
Hope this answers your question.

Answer 7

I know, this will sound shallow......BUT.....would you buy a car without first taking it for a test drive? Sex is a big part of marriage and if two people aren't sexually compatible then the marriage will probably fail. Sex before marriage.....YES!!!!

Answer 8

If you really care about someone and your not married i dont think it is a big deal. And i also think that sex is an important part of the relationship. A couple that lays together stays together.

Answer 9

definitely before AND after!! you need to find out if the person has any hangups or fears. after the marriage is not the time to find out the other person won't do something because they have had some kind of misinformation or taboo. you need a lady/gentleman in the streets and a freak in the sheets!! hallelujah. amen.

Answer 10

sex is bonding, but why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free. if you allow sex into a relationship before marriage, you may never get the ring.