Don't get me wrong I love him, but NOT as a friend, I dont even like to go out with him or bring him around my friends. He is annoying and talks WAY TOO MUCH!!
2006-09-02 11:36:37 · 19 answers · asked by Naomi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you can love someone, without in fact liking them. But.. you should not be with anyone that like NOTHING about them.
So, as an excersise... write down the things about him that you like and/or admire. Even the smallest things like "he signals before changing lanes." or "he always smiles to the checker at the market."
You may be surprised to find that either:
A.) there is nothing about him that you like... at which point you should high tail it out of there.
-or-
B.) you find there are a LOT of little things about him that you like. And that will be the new spark of respect in your relationship.
Best of luck to you, whatever you choose.
2006-09-02 12:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by baseballfan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are at the same boat ,i tell him that i never love him b-coz i don't like him being arrogant,he can't even talk 2 anybody w/out dringking wine in secret,if my friends come &see me he ask what there husband job how much they earn 4 living i really dont know ,
2006-09-02 18:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by mari-mar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should not have married him in the first place didnt you notice all of these things before?????? maybe he is just trying way to hard to be friends with a ***** that he thinks is in love with him and married him and promised to love him in good times and in bad. talk to him ask him why he is trying so hard maybe he is afraid of loosing you, how old is he, young i bet or maybe you are insecure and you dont want your friends to think that you married someone who does not hold up to their standards, what is it really?? i hope that you work this out or just get on with your life because you are just damaging each other and for what?? think about that!
2006-09-02 18:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to develop a hobby or take a class or do something on a regular basis that is just for you. you two might be spending too much time together.
it has happened to me. you go through phases. some that you think i don't want to be around this person another day. then spend several hours, days, weeks....(over time)...just for you. it is true that distance makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-09-02 18:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, believe it or not, I had the same revelation about mine this weekend. I love him and all and he is the father of my kids but to me hes like the obnoxious kid in class you never wanted to hang around. Mine doesn't talk alot but he is still obnoxious. I am debating whether to keep on living the lie or leave and let us both find someone we care for and want to be around. Its not fair to stay in a relationship with issues like that.
2006-09-02 18:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him he talks too much? Sounds like it might be a good idea, long-term, for you to speak to him about the things that annoy you.
2006-09-02 18:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion with him about the behaviors that bother you. Be careful with your words so he does not get defensive or feels attacked. Try to speak in a respectful and loving manner and praise him when he resists those behaviors.
2006-09-02 18:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel that bad being around him, go to divorce court. Don't forget to tell him why first,though. If u don't want to divorce him u could talk to him about it. I know, easy to say hard to do, right? Well, u could also just say u think u weren't quite ready 4 marriage.
2006-09-02 18:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you get married to him he is suppose to be your friend how can you say you love him but don't like to be around him basically you just want him to be your boy toy come around when you want him too and talk when you want him too
2006-09-02 22:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you here cause you don't sound very mature. Why the hell did you marry him in the first place if you don't like him. But anyway get couples help (professional help)
2006-09-02 18:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋