Ive been wondering for years now ive at last accepted it, im still a bit embarresed tho, people give me funny looks, tell me your experiances!
2006-09-02 11:32:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
be proud and happy with yourself
there's nothing wrong with you. So you like women(so do I)
My sister had the same problem when coming out a few years ago it quickly faded as she got accepted by her surroundings
2006-09-02 11:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I never lived "the straight life", I never had a boyfriend, I didn't talk of marriage, or get all googly over actors or boys so no one knew me for anything but me. No one is surprised when I speak of a g/f or female SO or going to the gay events so I can't speak to any experience of really coming out or final acceptance of myself (though i have never told my family they just assume that because they believe it is wrong I couldn't possibly be ). But I can say that every time I allow myself to love someone freely and without fear of ridicule makes me feel whole, self confident, and RIGHT. When someone responds negatively I try to change the situation to the betterment of all involved.
2006-09-02 20:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the way you use the word lesbo, anyone can see you're not dealing with it very well. CAll the gay center, the college gay/straight groups, the hotline, and PFLAG. They will all help you with finding groups of women, around your age, who share some of the interests that you have. We all go thru this journey, some of us taken the scenic route while we waste our time on pretending we're something we're not. Enjoy the journey, the view is beautiful.
I didn't know I was gay unti I was already maried for several years. i've aways know I wasn't comfortable with guys but I knew no other options (60s and early 70s). It wasn't until I met a woman while being stationed overseas that I realized -with fireworks- what love was supposed to feel like. When I came out to myself, I told my husband who didn't react well (duh). When I returned to US, I went to gay center , talked to young man who I will always be thankful for and left the center feeling whole and 100% OK with myself. Got divorced, moved out and started going to women's groups and clubs. The thought of staying in that relationship; knowing I didn't have the right feelings for him and truly wanted to be with women, just makes me sick now. Once you've started to hang ourt with positive, out women, you will begin to feel better about yourself. HUGS!!!!! (If you need to write, it's ok)
to onehanglo, ron48148, ku, rationalist, saudi geoff, you are all jerks and I reported you rationalist. Someone asks a question and you all think it's
acceptable to be nasty and cruel. gay people don't need shrinks. The only reason we go is to learn how to deal with the likes of you all. You're ignorant and probably lowlifes too.
2006-09-05 04:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
but dont you feel better when you admit it. My parents went mental my dad said i should go to thedoctor for some straight pills.............. it was horrid at the time but sooooooooooo funny now. At last they accept me and my g/f. I dont hide my sexuality from people, if they ask i tell them and i talk about my g/f openly. I find its the best way. If people dont like it then tuff.
Just get on with enjoying yourself get out there and meet as many women as you can.
2006-09-05 13:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by caz70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club!!!
You'll be recieving your toaster oven in about 6-8 years or 6-8 lifetimes, which ever comes last.(Just kidding)
Seriously, I know how you feel. I remember when I finally just accepted who I was and stopped living a lie. It was a bit scary, a bit more exciting and a lot confusing.
If you're feeling the need to find a community to be a part of, do some google searches for GLBT community centers or organizations in your area.
Find what you can do or be a part of.
READ!!! Read a lot!!!
Learn what it means to be gay/lesbian, learn our history, our challenges, our sucesses.
I've included some helpful links. Please feel free to pick my brain for more if you need.
Just know, you're in good company!
2006-09-02 18:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You will get used to it as time goes by.Congratulations for finally accepting the way u are and loving yourself.Nothing to be ashamed of...they too have their flaws and skeletons in the closet.No embarassing experience so far since im not out yet.I just be myself and really dont care what they have to say if they doubt that i am a bi.Im discreet w/ my activities.
2006-09-03 00:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by karatekiddo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what your a lesbo, but I do wonder whats the attraction to other lesbo's that look and dress like blokes? Why not just get a real man? Though I understand the lesbos that look and act like men becuase they feel like a man traped in a womens body!
It beats me!? Not in a knky way ;))
2006-09-02 18:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by surfer soul 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yup met woman who turned my life upside down.literally.i didnt come out for a few years to friends and the straight friends i had i stopped being in contact with as i was too scared to tell them.i think its in your imagination.like when i first had intercourse i was convinced that i smelt different and my mum would know.ah bless.
2006-09-02 19:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply accept who you are! The world is not made of one typical type of person. You are not weird, different, in-sane, discusting or any of the other things I'm sure you will hear. Just love who you are and accept and live the lifestyle that makes you happy!
2006-09-02 18:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Being a lesbian is a good thing, you don't have be embarrassed and most of all don't worry about the funny looks, be proud of who you are you've come a long way.
2006-09-02 22:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by Necole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋