I've known all my life that my mother didn't like me basically because I was born but I never thought she would go to the extent to telling my 3 young kids that (all 3 under the age of 11). Now, I refuse to let my kids around her. This is a woman that has given birth to 5 children and only has 1 left that will even talk to her. She has no remorse whatsoever on throwing away her own 4 children. She tells me to get over it and to stay out of her life. Now she wants to take me to court for grandparents rights, how well do you think that would go over with the judge? Would it be stupid of me to let my kids around her knowing that there could be a chance that the same thing could happen to them? Your opinions would be greatly appreciated.
2006-09-02 11:03:12 · 26 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my mother was also " psycho mom "...like yours....
she made a point of telling us everyday how she " should have drowned us at birth like kittens ".....
she made our lives a living hell while we were growing up.
I left home at 17
after my son was born, I tried to reconcile with her because I felt my son should know his grand mother......boy, was I wrong....
some people just wallow in hatred, and that is NO environment to raise your kids in....
she saw my oldest daughter once, when she was 18 months old ( she's now 21 )
she has NEVER seen my youngest ( almost 18 )
I made a decision to protect my children from her hatred.....
they are lacking NOTHING in their lives for not having known this horrible woman.
My mother also had 5 children.....none of whom have anything to do with her......
she now lives alone, in a trailer in Florida......a lonely old bitter woman......let her wallow in her hatred all she wants to.....
my children are happy and well adjusted.....and I have 2 beautiful grand children that have never met their " monster " great-grandmother.....
do what you think is best for your children.
good luck to you....
2006-09-02 11:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Campbell Gramma 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she takes you to court,which i doubt let her. make sure you have all your information and tell the court the things you've told us here and even more if there is more. I would try and keep the kids out of this and be honest with them. if some are old enough and want to be with her maybe you could let that happen. you never know .kids have a way of teaching us grown ups how to behave so you never know. the problems she has with you are so ridiculous that you must not let her ways ruin you. be a better mom and always remember the things that hurt your feelings as a child will probably hurt your child's feelings as well. just be better than what you had, at least having a fool for a mom taught you how not to be and that is helpful as well. good luck..tough situation...
2006-09-02 18:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right to worry about it,i am sorry to hear that your own mother is that cold!...i would feel the same way i would not want my children around her so that she can get them attached to her & then she can just turn her back on them that is too much emotional stress for kids.plus who knows what she is going to say to your kids about you she may talk down to them about you & they dont need to hear all that!...all you can do is tell your side if she does take you to court, then you will just have to live with the decision that he or she makes the best that you can. and just think you r getting her back every day when you treat your kids better than she has treated you ...you know you are a better mother than she is!!...good luck!!
2006-09-02 18:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the children see her for their own good, it could never be said "you kept us away from our grandmother" and I think kids should have a chance to know grandma. Warn them that she is unpredictable by letting them know Grammie doesn't mean every thing she says. Hard because they are so young, but they need to have a chance to know Grandma, that's where their roots come from. Can't you get her some help? She must care somewhat to be going to court over it?? Maybe she isn't the one who needs professional help?
2006-09-02 18:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by monkey12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only Mothers realised the damage they can do their children by telling them the nastiest of stuff!
She's damaged & hurt U, she really shouldn't B allowed 2 fill her Grandchildren with the same spite!
I advise U 2 fight this all the way 2 prevent what U know may harm UR kids.
2006-09-02 18:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;ve had somewhat of the same problem with my mother.
you should try and talk to your mom. I know they don't always listen but you have to try. tell her that her negative attitude towards you is not good for the kids and they should not be victimized by this situation. you are there mother and whether she likes it or not her daugther so she either has to bite her tongue when the children are present or she won't be seeing them. She has no rights to your children unless you sign them over which i am sure you would never do. my mom tried to get me to give her my first child(i was only 18) but i said no way.
she tried her hardest to control everything i did she even told me i wasn't having anymore kids.
when i met my husband she hated him she called him down to the lowest and told me that she hated me and that i was choosing him over my daughter.. I stood up to her and once we were married so did my husband she backed off . now instead of telling me what to do she makes suggestions which is alot better
2006-09-02 21:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing the right thing by keeping them away!!And i wouldnt let her around them for one second.Your kids dont need that in their life spare them please.Make her take you to court she aint nothing but a blow hard and i doubt she would even cough up the money cause your mom is a selfish person and if the money aint going on her she aint spending it.SHe is just tellin you that to scare you and be a b$$ch.So good luck and dont worry about it!
2006-09-02 18:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what nerves!!!!!!!! she tells in front of your children she hates
you and tries to sue you!!! well i have never been in this situation
before nor have i been to court but what i seen on tv it won't go
well for her even in real life maybe. you don't wanna risk
she brainwashing your kids into hating you kids at that age
are very impressionable don't let them around her unless
you're there watching her forgive her and tell her you love her
that'll make her go crazy and if still hates you your kids will
hate her just as much.
2006-09-02 18:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by donpatchiggle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sonds like your mother really has some issues.you kids should not be hearing how your mother feels about you.how immature on her. i dont think the judge will go along with your mothers open hatred of you,nor with her bad mouthung you in front of your kids. until she has a serious attitude adjustment dont let her see or talk with your childredn.i am really sorry good luck.
2006-09-02 18:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by tracytracyspikes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kill her with kindness. but there needs to be a stipulation between the two of you that she can't breathe a single negative opinion of you or your sibs to your kids. if you fight her on the grandparents rights it will make you negative and take a lot of money to stop her. let her have the rights...be nice....(even though the woman dosn't deserve a bit of it) and see if the kindness and love dosn't melt her icy heart. Good luck!
2006-09-02 18:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋