They have been friends for over a year,and he has been honest with me about their friendship. He has always told me when they talked, or wrote emails. Recently her husband caught her cheating with another man. They are workig things out, and she has given up her friendships with all men in her life. I talked about how her affair made me uncomfortable, and asked that he tell me if they talk again. He says that since that day, they haven't
said a word.I know for a fact though that she has still been calling him from her work number, and emailing him. When I asked him if they still talk, he says no. When I try and give him an "open door" to tell me she called, he deines ever talking to her. It's a flat out lie. I was certain from the begining that this was just a friendship. Am I wrong?
2006-09-02 10:49:01 · 18 answers · asked by Uncertain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your husband may be cheating on you with his "friend". My ex-boyfriend did the same thing and although I had read sexually explicit emails between them, he continued to deny it. Eventually, I just had enough and kicked him out. Guess where he went? Yep, to his 'friend'. He eventually married her and had 3 children. That was 6 years ago.
Now I am happily married to a wonderful man who treats me with the respect and love that I deserve.
2006-09-02 11:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is now not flawed in your husband to have a feminine friend, someone who he can depend on when he can't depend on you on the grounds that he does not want to stress you out. I'd be certain his love for this other girl was thoroughly exclusive than the love he has for you. If it can be more of a sister, brother friendship then you're correct, i wouldn't fear. All you really want from him is his honesty and believe and make sure he would not ***** whilst you find one more man to speak in confidence. I am glad you're extra interested by the child, but when he relatively loves you, why hasn't he been sincere from the ? And if you rather share your lives collectively why would not he wish to tell you everything? His indiscretions must only be essential on the subject of that child. He's a married man and should be having unsupervised visits with one more lady at the back of your back whatever the circumstances and in spite of if you trust him. He is married. I've a man buddy who's pregnant and i like him like my brother. I have a 14 month historical and out of admire for my husband, this different man and his pregnant lady friend, me and my daughter, i'd under no circumstances invite him over to sleep on my couch regardless. This woman should have better talents of this challenge as well. She isn't letting a married man keep over at her condo. I do know you don't have got to be involved and you are pregnant. Your hormones are slightly off. Finally you're going to be mad in regards to the crisis. I do know i might be. But nothing is flawed with you. I'm hoping matters figure out for you and congrats on the being pregnant!
2016-08-09 13:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe you are wrong. People only hide things for 2 reasons. The first being fear and the second being guilt. Since fear obviously isn't an issue here, I definitely would say guilt is. In other words, he's lying to you because he's hiding something. Basically, you've caught him, now you just need to see it with your own eyes. Get ready to start living on your own honey, he's not worth the agony he's going to put you through, and if he's done it once, he'll do it again.
You're his wife and his top priority should be to please you, comfort you and forsake all others. I don't believe you are being unreasonable at all, trust your gut... it's telling you the truth.
2006-09-02 11:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From the way I see it, it could be two things. One: He is indeed talking to her but feels uncomfortable letting u know ever since you've expressed to him how u felt about her. Second: Could he be the "man" she was having an affair with? I'm not trying to insinuate anything here, just letting u know from my pt of view. Innocent or not, the fact that he's LYING to u about it should be a problem all on it's own. At any rate, if u suspect something's up u need to gather hard evidence to prove your suspicions. He on the other hand needs to cut all ties with this woman because his friendship with her IS inappropriate to begin with.
2006-09-02 10:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that it is only a friendship. His first mistake was when he started lying to you. This is only an opinion but I think he started cheating when he was emailing her. This has been going on for awhile. He has been a good listener for her marriage problems now it is interfering in both of your lives. When he started lying to you. I believe that was when it became more. This became a secret both of them shared. I think if I was you I would say nothing to him at this time but I would do a little checking up of my own. Men and women both can live secret lives for years. My boyfriend kept a secret from me for two years before he told me the truth in the middle of an arguement. I would have never guessed on my own. I have caught him in several lies. Take up this motto when in doubt " if their lips are moving they are telling a lie". I would confront this woman and tell her to quit calling my husband!
2006-09-02 11:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's now not improper in your husband to have a feminine pal, any individual who he can depend on while he can not depend on you given that he does not desire to pressure you out. I might make certain his love for this different girl used to be wholly unique than the affection he has for you. If it is extra of a sister, brother friendship then you are proper, I would not fear. All you quite want from him is his honesty and believe and make certain he does not whinge while you uncover a further guy to divulge heart's contents to. I am comfortable you're extra targeted at the youngster, but when he quite loves you, why hasn't he been sincere from the begin? And should you quite percentage your lives in combination why would not he desire to inform you the whole thing? His indiscretions will have to simplest be most important in terms of that youngster. He is a married guy and will have to be having unsupervised visits with a further girl at the back of your again without reference to the situations and without reference to should you believe him. He's married. I have a man pal who's pregnant and I love him like my brother. I have a 14 month historical and out of appreciate for my husband, this different guy and his pregnant female friend, me and my daughter, I might by no means invite him over to sleep on my sofa regardless. This girl will have to have greater talents of this difficulty as good. She should not be letting a married guy keep over at her apartment. I understand you do not have to be involved and you are pregnant. Your hormones are a bit of off. Eventually you are going to be mad approximately the problem. I understand I might be. But not anything is improper with you. I desire matters figure out for you and congrats at the being pregnant!
2016-08-21 07:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I really believe it was only a friendship and nothing else. But since her husband has caught her,he probably feels deep inside that you might read more in between the lines if you found out that he was talking to her again and never believe him. In todays society with TV soaps, it is hard to be that plain old friendships (nothing sexual) really do exist between a man and a woman. Friendships like these exist all over the world for whatever reason but most remain secret. Maybe guys get real answers to questions from woman that arent related or friends of the family that they can get from other guys or friends and vice versa. Majority are harmless talk lines but somehow somewhere we choose to let our imaginations run wild and come up with all sorts of things. Just leave your husband alone and see if he doesnt come forth and explain his friendship. Good luck
2006-09-02 11:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The only thing that you can really do is confront him on this. You really have to decide whether you trust him or not before you even talk to him, and stick with that decision. Explain to him what you know, and that you want to be able to trust him, and that you need a truthful explanation if you are to continue in this relationship. If you have chosen to trust him, then take him at his word until you have a reason not to. If you do not feel you can trust him, or his explanations still sound suspicous to you, tell him that, and tell him that you are not feeling like you can trust him, and if you are willing to work it, try to work with him to figure out how you can trust him. Good luck. I hope everything works out well for you, or at least you get to the bottom of what's going on. The most important thing to do is keep the lines of communication open, you would hate for your relationship to fall apart because of him not understanding your feelings and you jumping to conclusions.
2006-09-02 10:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's guilty of something if he feels he has to lie to you.Are you sure she and he weren't having the affair?I'm not trying to make you worry but if my husband was lying to me about another woman then that's as bad as cheating in my eyes.You are his wife and you should come first.If it makes you uncomfortable for him to talk to another woman no mater what the reason then he should respect your wishes.How would he react if you were the one lying.He's obviously hiding something..
2006-09-02 11:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Knowing her history....I would be damn concerned as well!!! The fact your husband has been acting outside of the norm.....not telling you about his contact with her....I would be damn concerned as well!!!
Where there's smoke....there's fire!!
I would put him on notice....let him know that you've giving him every opportunity to come clean with this matter.....and if you find out he has been lying....you're gonna be very disappointed in him. Let him know your needs and wishes need to be respected.
Then do some investigating on you're own to find the truth. Better to nip it in the but before it's too late.
That's my thoughts anyways.....hope it's nothing too serious...Good luck!!!
2006-09-02 11:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋