Well, we hooked up when she was in town for 3 days in June and after that we kept talking on th ephone everyday for 2.5 months, now she is in town again for the labor day weekend and naturally she is staying with me... should i breakup with her now when she is here (her plane tickets is not for another 3 days, so she'd have to find a hotel), or should i wait for her to go back to california and break up over the phone? she's a nice girl and all but i am not looking for a relationship at this moment...
2006-09-02 10:41:29 · 23 answers · asked by cbk84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Edit: please note that she is already here and is here for another 3 days, so I cannot call her and breakup as she is in the shower right now, in my apartment!
2006-09-02 10:44:27 · update #1
Edit 2: to the person that said I should have done it before she wasted money on tickets: she was going to be intown anyways as she had a conference yesterday.
2006-09-02 10:45:53 · update #2
just have a fun labor day weekend,
and once she returns back to her hometown wait about a week,
and break up with her gently
just tell her that you had a great weekend but your not looking for a relationship right now...simple as that.
but whutever you do dont break up with her this weekend.
best of luck (:
2006-09-02 10:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be difficult for her to find a hotel, bear it for this weekend, keep other people around, etc. Don't say those things you know she wants to hear. It would be better to break up with her in person, but since she is from another state it makes things difficult.
If you wait until she goes back to California, don't breakup immediately, start distancing your self slowly, start having conversations about the distance between you. Then tell her that the distance will not work for you.
Best Wishes!
2006-09-02 10:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd breakup with her it's worse to lead her on, and then pay for the hotel or early tickets back home. To take a latest flight out, it's like a 25.00 fee plus any fare change. Good luck.
2006-09-02 10:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Needstoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way it's going to be hard but honestly I would tell her in person seems over the phone is a cowards way out Be up front but gently maybe wait till the last day there but do tell her in person..Good Luck
2006-09-02 10:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK looks like you are in a relationship that has to end
if it was me I would of broke up with her when I had that feeling
you should beak up with her and just to be nice buy her a hotel room for the 3 days.
2006-09-02 10:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee when you kick her in the teeth be gentle, it would have been nice of you to end it before she came even though she was here for a conference now because your not into a relationship that was probably initated by you, tell her tonight, and be the decent guy and pay for hotel room near the airport
2006-09-02 10:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she goes back, you do not want to ruin her vacation. She already bought the plane ticket. If she already had plans to come there then you should of told her that you were not interested at that moment, not wait until she is already there. I sure hope you are not using her body for sex if you have no feelings for her. I bet you are.
2006-09-02 10:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if i were you i would break up with her now, and let it sink in, let her stay with you, at least it gives her some time to think of you as a friend, if you did it over the phone she would be anxious and it would work out better if you lowered you status with her to just friends, it gives you 3 days or so to get back to friends, good luck
2006-09-02 10:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have thought about that before all this has happen. cause then she could have just stayed in a hotel. just let her knowt hat you don't want a relationship but to remain friends until you are ready if she agrees to it. which that is doubtful. but then again your going to ruin her weekend and she will be upset and hate you.. So your screwed either way you look at it.
2006-09-02 10:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by samantha_rose0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of that before she wasted all that money on phone calls and plane tickets. Whichever way you choose is going to be devastating to her. It just depends how much of a coward you are.
2006-09-02 10:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋