No I'm not a virgin. Iv'e been married twice, he is not either. "This is just something we were discussing last night it's not an issue between us". I said that if I were a man I wouldn't want a virgin. He said he would prefer to have a virgin if it was possible. I would not want a virgin for a husband. Now I know that I am a christian and I know this is not christ like; but thats really how I feel. So go ahead and call me a hipocrit we all have faults. How do the biggest majority of you feel? "Would you want to marry someone who would be thinking that you were the only one they had been with". Please be honest.
2006-09-02 10:31:47 · 8 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What if you wait and find out they have no sex drive.
2006-09-02 10:48:02 · update #1
Thats just it you are having to deal with the problem of being the only one they have been with. My sisters husband has left her several times and she has never been with anybody but him. She claims he is having problems finding himself all the time. They have been married over thirty years and he treats her like crap, What good did it do her!
2006-09-02 10:59:12 · update #2
Its hard to say, neither my wife or I were virgins when married, thou I believe the virgin part is more a male macho ego thing. We are so selfish sexwise, that we want to hear that "we popped the cherry", "the only one", the first one", men usually have double standards on sex, always have, but when you have sex with your partner is all abour sharing the pleasure and enjoy it; being a good girl or boy is not about being a virgin is about feelings. I do believe if both are not virgins to have pre marital sex, because its important to be sexual compatible. If both are virgins wait, and don´t worry about it too much.
2006-09-02 11:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Juan V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not marry a virgin. One's attitudes change too much with the onset of sexual experience. It would take a year or two just for her to figure out what she wanted, and even then she'd likely wonder what, if anything, she was missing with the other guys in the world.
2006-09-02 17:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husband is the first man i had ever been with, but he had been with one person before me. I think it would be better to be with only one person if possible, because then you know where they have been and they know where you have been. You don't have to deal with being jealous of the other women or men that have had that intimate experience, and you don't have to worry about any STD's or anything either.
2006-09-02 17:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've heard most women wouldn't want a virgin and most men would love to have a virgin, which I think (Because I'd rather not have a virgin) and hope (because I am a virgin) that that is total bullsh*t.
a virgin doesn't know what to do.
2006-09-02 18:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by 12-Pack 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was and he's not-wish he would of waited to find me-i would of liked to have shared that w/ him but he was 20 and did the deed at 18-guess guys don't wait-but he never cared that i was a virgin
2006-09-02 17:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally say yes, and it has nothing to do with a sexual manner. its just a woman that saved herself for a future man is somone who offers the most sacred and private thing she can to her husband. and means alot more then... say some one who has become very skilled and knows how to operate. i am married and my wife wasnt but in hindsight i think we both agree we wished we had known each other from our teenage years becuase of mistakes we both did.
2006-09-02 17:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by joe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, since I am a virgin myself, I am glad my fiancee isn't, because at least he will know exactly what to do. Not that I don't know nothing about sex, because I do and I have seen my fair share of that stuff in movies, not porn though.
2006-09-02 17:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't want to be stuck with someone who just laid there like a fish or was crppy in bed.
2006-09-02 17:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋