pls help i m worried?

Question

is it normal for a guy not to let me play with his genitals??? he does nort want sex, and does not want to touch his. there is no problems with his dick. when i tell him i am going to leave him bcos of this he leaves me play and then nothing! why could he be doing so? he is not cheating i know sure, not even playing with himself

he want me i was going to leave him,a nd cried in front of me, really cried, and could not stop my mobile ringing of his calls

if he is a gay he would not force me to get with him. i think it is a problem mentally. is it normal for guys?

Answer 1

So many possible causes! Here are a few:
1) He's saving himself for marriage (this is true of me). You should respect his wishes not to have sex. He's probably afraid that you are touching him to try and get him to have sex with you when he doesn't want it. I hope that isn't what all you're trying to do. If it isn't that way, let him know you just want him to feel good and that you respect his idea of saving himself for marriage. That should make him loosen up a bit.
2) He is uncomfortable being intimate with you at this point in your relationship (this one happened to me already).
3) He might feel like you are more interested in his body than you are in him. Talk to him more and let him know that you only want to be closer to him. Also, try stroking or massaging the rest of his body too!
4) This is the first time he's been played with, and he's very tense and has trouble enjoying your touch (this one happened to me already). This sort of thing is like tickling: it is VERY different when someone else does it to you (and you say he doesn't even do it to himself, so that'll make him even more sensitive and tense)! It takes a lot of getting used to, I think.
4) This is the first time you've played with a guy, or he's just more sensitive than the other guys you've known, and you need to be slower or more gentle.
5) He might have psychological problems stemming from his childhood (which is possible). Or he could be homosexual, but that seems unlikely because he was very upset when you threatened to leave him.

Do you realize how lucky you are to have someone who likes you and respects you that much? You should respect him too and be patient. He's got to loosen up eventually. In the meantime, don't be pushy. Non-erotic massages seem like a good way to start being closer to each other. After several weeks of those, very gradually introduce the idea of touching him intimately by getting a tiny bit closer to private areas each time. Surely that will work. Also, you should talk to him more! Maybe he can tell you why he feels that way himself if you're receptive and supportive enough. Good luck!

P.S.: I assume you like this guy a lot to be worried about him. If you don't particularly like him, or have other reasons apart from what you've mentioned to suspect he doesn't like you, you should think about the possibility of breaking up with him.

P.P.S.: Don't talk on the phone, because you need to see each other's faces when you speak!

Answer 2

Perhaps he doesn't find you sexually attractive, thinks of you more as a friend, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you this?

Alternatively, he has issues to deal with - he could have been the victim of abuse? No idea with so little information.

Answer 3

Try to speak with him seriously and u let him know how deeply u love him.The job is up to u .

Answer 4

I can not give you any answer cause it is only between you and him.
Ask him to sit down with you and talk about it,good communication help alots,good luck!

Answer 5

Give him up as a bad job and contact me !

Answer 6

fear?
to comfort him could be a good thing to explore his and your mutual sexuality
compliments could do the job
explore softly....

Answer 7

Hard question, maybe he is gay.

Answer 8

is he gay