My Parents convinced me and my wife to get married, to be closer to our kid, and now they are kicking us out?

Question

I am a college Student from Kentucky. Me and My girlfriend had a baby while we we both started college. We decided to wait until we had jobs and could afford to live together, until we got married. The baby stayed with her and her parents, so my parents told me If we got married and moved near them, that they would give us money to live on until we graduated and buy us a house. So, we decided to do that, and we got married, and moved in, and we both still went to college.

My parents realised that this was costing them to much money, and now they want to kick us out of the house, so that they can rent it, and make money, and they also decided to quit giving us money. This puts a big burdon on me and my wife since we are both in college.

Me, My wife and baby have no income, and no place to live, and we were wondering if we had any legal rights?

Answer 1

You have no legal rights, but you have a few options. You can rent an apartment, get a job or start a business and go to night school to get a two year degree in something that pays well like networking. Then your wife can afford to get a two year degree and a job and then you can get a four year degree and then she can. If you are tired from working, have your wife get her two year degree first. Just make sure that you get a degree in something that will make a lot of money, because you need it. You can go to a real estate broker and look at the businesses for sale in the back of an MLS. Only purchase assets as there could be hidden debt, but you can pay off a business loan through the profits of the business.

I'm raising two kids as a single parent, I didn't have a job when I accidentally became pregnant, I started a business and bought a rental property and then a home. It's a struggle but it isn't impossible.

I've heard of numerous adult children who have had parents in a position of power mess up their lives when they were in a desperate situation. You can't alway count on parents to bail you out. One person had millionaire parents and she couldn't afford cancer treatment. She and her two children were living in a shelter due to her illness.

Answer 2

There is more to this story than you are divulging. After being generous enough to make the offer and actually following through with helping you something happened to change their minds. I am sure they didn't change their minds without something occuring that made it either financially impossible to continue the support or perhaps you and your wife took advantage of their generosity and they got tired of it. Either way, I can not imagine that they would just put your baby out on the street. There is more to this. You know and I know it.

What do you feel are your responsibilities in all of this?

Perhaps your wifes parents could help you out by helping to defray some of the costs that your parents have incurred. They were willing to help support her and the baby by having them live with them, perhaps they can pay money toward rent to your parents.

By the way, who is paying your college tuition? Hers?

Nobody said having a baby and supporting a family would be easy. You are a man now and it is your responsibility to care for your family. It isn't your parents or hers for that matter. Get a job. Millions of people have gone to college and held down full-time jobs at the same time. It is all a matter of priorities.

You aren't going to find alot of sympathy here. The mere fact that you are considering sueing your parents tells me quite abit about your character. It's ironic that you choose to post this under a forum using the word Ethics... Where are yours?

Answer 3

Legal rights? For what? For having unprotected sex and getting pregnant and getting married when you had no way to support yourselves or a family? Thems is the breaks! I guess you should have thought about what would happen if you had a baby while you were in college before you had unprotected sex. Do I think that what your parents are doing is nice? No, but you and your wife and their grandchild is not their financial responsibility. It's yours! You wanted to play "grown up" and have sex like you were married; now it's time to act like grown ups and get jobs to support each other and the child. I guess college will have to wait. Did you think unprotected sex would have no consequences?

Answer 4

Wow, when I got pregnant and had my kid during what would have been my 4th semester, I quit school and got a job to support my son. You made a choice in life, now you have to grow up and take the responsibility of it.

You can get a full time job and take classes at night if you want to let your wife get her degree first, or vice verse. But your child is your #1 responsibility at this point in your life, not your education. It's your kids turn, that's the choice you two made.

Answer 5

Get as much financial aid as you can and see if they have married housing at your school. You don't have any legal rights seeing as they do own the house and you are now a married man with a child. Talk to the Dean, see what he can suggest. She may have to quit for a while to work or vice versa. Do what you have to do to keep your own family together. Don't give up and use up all the resources you can find! I wish you luck

Answer 6

Hold it -- you are clearly an adult, YOU made the Choice with your GF to have SEX (and KNEW that Pregnancy could happen), you SADDLE the Parents with NOT ONLY the Child, but also with HAVING to HOUSE and FEED and PAY for College for BOTH of you --

and you have the AUDACITY to think you have LEGAL RIGHTS????

GROW UP -- Because you see, this Single Parent, with DECEASED parents whom I buried as a very young Adult, and the FACT that I paid for MY OWN College Costs, AND my Living Expenses, and MY CHILDREN's Living Expenses -- by WORKING Jobs, going into the Military, and working CONTINUOUSLY to be able to EARN my Military Retirement Benefits

is IRRITATED to the extreme by this blatant plea to continue to sponge off the PARENTS -- who have ALREADY raised you BOTH -- and DESERVE to be FREE of having to worry about how they will make ends meet in the meantime.

GIVE them a break, move your behind OUT of their home (you are very UNGRATEFUL), and GET A JOB to pay for your GF/Wife, YOUR child, YOUR college, and all the Living Expenses.

OTHER folks do this ALL the time -- and as a SINGLE PARENT -- I can't even begin to count HOW MANY of us are sacrificing EVERY DAY to make ends meet AND support our families on OUR OWN -- YES, OUR OWN!

Answer 7

Wow. That sounds rather no longer undemanding. If it have been me, i might think of long and not undemanding approximately my very very own hopes and expectancies of seeing my dad. If i wanted a action picture style reconciliation, an apology, an acknowledgment of accountability, or if I merely wanted to get some closure on the entire dysfunctional relationship. you additionally can go and lay into him and get all of this off your chest...yet back, you will could do this for you, no longer because you have any desire that he will substitute his habit contained in the time he has left. perchance somewhat of traveling, you should write him a letter, or a number of distinctive ones, staring on the way you experience on the time. do no longer even deliver them for somewhat, enable them to stew. and then deliver the single that perfect expresses the way you experience. That way, you have executed your "accountability" in a fashion, and you have additionally dealt with him in a fashion that serves and protects you too. and you are able to legitimately tell your brother to place off because you have communicated with your father in the previous he died. desire that facilitates.

Answer 8

ditto. you are in the real world, and every decision you make has consequences, good and bad. obviously yours so far have had some bad ones, so you have only yourself to blame, not your parents. they were nice enough to try to support you for a while , instead of leaving you on the streets somewhere. they've supported you in the begining of your life, and they cant support you forever.

now you know why some people wait until they are financially stable to have a child.

Answer 9

You should go to your state legal clinic find out more information. One of you needs to start going part-time, and get a job. Or talk to your parents and make a deal with them like a loan type deal, pay them back when you get jobs.
Best of Luck.

Answer 10

First of all, you should have only gotten married because YOU AND SHE WANTED TOO !! Next, I think that what your parents are doing to you too is wrong. My gosh, it was their idea in the first place. Have you tried talking with them?? If they insist on you all moving, then maybe they could at least give you some money to help you out until you all get settled somewhere. Best of luck.