wat should i do? my hubby is in luv with another woman.though it is only one sided.i discover after more than 20 years of married life. now he accepting the truth, n behaving like a teenager.
2006-09-02 10:02:27 · 9 answers · asked by k.k s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
mid life crisis has set in ... time to let him know where u stand and what he's about to risk losing if he doesnt work through this and fast.. and if he acts as if he doesnt care, then start acting like u dont.. do only for yourself stop doing all that he has become dependent on u for.. laundry, cooking, sex.. ect.. act as if he is suddenly a roomate and only do for yourself and make him fend for himself.. when he starts wondering whats going on, let him know, when he wants to start treating u like a wife again u'll act like one till then ur going to jump on this "SINGLE" life badwagon he's on and do what u want when u want to and act as if u are single which means u only need to take care of urself, IM NOT saying for u to cheat on ur husband or to breach ur marriage, im saying go out with friends, go do what u want when u want dont tell him where ur going or whom ur with.. just go and have a good time with the girls or whatever, make him wonder, but dont empower him with the fact that ur going to be the dutiful wife while he goes and does what he wants to .... and if he chooses to leave for good, then u are already getting urself ready for a life with out him now, then waiting till it crushes u .. before u pick urself up again, but even though ur aching inside, act happy, confident dont let him destroy u in the process of him going through this crap.. be strong and save the tears for when he's not looking..
2006-09-02 10:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...it sounds like he is going through a mid life crisis...
I knw u r hurting bcus u hav given 20 years of ur life to him and today he rewards u with this.
Try to talk to him in a calm manner and try to understand what exactly is going on.
U do deserve respect from him and he owes u this much.
Don't let 20 years go to a waste without a good understanding about what has gone wrong. Try to have a go at mending ur relationship if possible...
Afterall, it is only him who is showing interest to this other woman. Why does he feel like this?
I have learnt that men tend to want more affection when they lack confidence and self esteem. They may have suffered something they can't be honest or open about with their wife.
Life is like this i'm afraid...
U could go on living with a person who u think u've known inside out one day and the nx day they stand infront of u like a stranger...
This is a very tough time for u and u need to look after urself... be emotionally strong bcus U don't deserve to be treated like this by him.
U have to think abt ur future very seriously now...u r the important person in this and being a woman in this society is even worse.
But, don't be afraid...u will find the inner strength to survive if things don't go as expected.
Good luck and hope things work out for u...
2006-09-02 11:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can you one thing NOT to do and that is put yourself on his leavel. Dont start acting like him because that is what your obstcal is.you are the only one you truly knows himand if YOU are not strong enough he damn sure wont be. if he is still coming home to you you still have a chance and the time to figure what would realy shake him . Where there is a will theres away. if you fill your love is worth fighting for it will take time and alot of tears, Time takes care of everything.But think about it at all angles.if you believe in your marriage and it was sent from heaven. IT WILL MEND ITSELF. I wish you all the best and what ever the outcome is it is for the best for what ever reason.
2006-09-02 16:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by binkilights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to tell him the consequences and be firm about them. My dad pulled a similar stunt over 10 years ago thinking he could have his cake and eat it too. Myself, brother and sister were all teenagers at the time.
Now we haven't spoken to him since, we are all now happily married and he didn't even walk my sister down the aisle, my brother and I did it. My wife and I have 2 boys, my 5 year old just started school and my dad doesn't even have a relationship with them. Sucks for him but you reap what you sow. He is in his mid 50's now but looks 10 years older. I hope his temporary enjoyment was worth it (they didn't last long), he has nothing now.
2006-09-02 10:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by OatesATM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by leabow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a passing phase, and I would term it more as infatuation rather than love.
I think you should sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. What about your kids? Surely, they will be with you in this period of crisis.
You have spent 20 years together. Just don't be stupid and let it all go. Involve your kids and his family.
Things will surely work out for you.
2006-09-02 17:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by harry56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave, he doesn't love you. or have him leave
2006-09-02 10:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhh... really tell me how
2006-09-02 10:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?
2006-09-02 18:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋