poligamy what is your take?

Question

should poligamy be legal.. should a guy have as many as 3 wives.. and woman have 3 husbands? is it any of the governments buisness?

i think it should be.. and i think that it should have a cap of 3-4 and should only be in one household.. where a woman could have x amount of husbands... and all of them married only to her.. and a man in a hosehold can have x amount of woman married only to him..

Answer 1

First off, it is spelled "polygamy".

The name of the second practice you discuss is called "polyandry".

Humans are not completely monogamous by nature. A good indicator of natural monogamy in a species is when the male and female are the same size, such as geese (they mate for life and are the same size).

In contrast to geese and other naturally monogamous animals, human males are about 25% larger than females. This suggests that in the past some men were selected as mates through physical competition. And the bigger men got to breed with more women and have more children.

However, many human behavior traits that are "natural" are not necessarily well adapted for modern society.

Consider the problems that are likely to be faced by China and India in the mid-term future. (You might be familiar with the gender imbalance in China, caused by a combination of the official one child policy and their society's preference for male children. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One-child_policy)

Currently in China, the male-to-female birth ratio is 117:100 (the natural ratio is approximately 103:100).

What this means for the future of China is that many men are unable to find mates http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/5953508. Some men are resorting to violence.

According to their analysis, low-status young adult men with little chance of forming families of their own are "much more prone to attempt to improve their situation through violent and criminal behavior in a strategy of coalitional aggression."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/3601281.stm "...and Chinese officials have warned that this gender imbalance could lead to an increase in prostitution, sex crimes and wife-buying."

Granted, we are not China. But if some men are unable to find brides, we will be faced with similar problems to China. Over the next few decades we will discover what problems this causes in a modern society.

Answer 2

I would say that the government has a vested interest in maintaining a stable family which provides the best environment for children. To date, that has proven to be 1 man and 1 woman, which is why the government only recognizes these marriages.

For the government to allow any deviation to be seen as equal is providing a disservice to the community, by saying other options are equal the best. Other options should still be allowed, but there is only 1 best and there is only 1 relationship worthy to be called marriage.

Answer 3

Those of us that have been socialized in the Western culture, have the greatest difficulty with this scenario. Since women do significantly outnumber men, and with GOD (the Christian GOD) being omnipotent, he was aware that we would be facing this problem in the 21st century. Maybe that is how we are actually supposed to be living. If it were to be legalized, it would have to be for the purpose of keeping families together and pooling of resources. Ever seen Big Love on HBO. By the way, I am an unmarried, straight female. I am not interested in living out this scenario, but I am open minded enough to say........What if????

Answer 4

This is a hard question to answer. I think that no one should enter a marriage expecting it to be monogamous and then find out it isn't. Also I don't think that someone who can not support multiple families should be having them.

Since there are so many more men who are homosexual, incarcerated or not interested in marriage, we do have a shortage of marriagable men. This might resolve that problem for women who don't mind sharing one.

Answer 5

As a man who has been happily married to one woman for 15 years, I can't possibly imagine why anyone would want to be married to more than one person. Even a good marriage is hard work.

Answer 6

there is likewise adultery in poligamy cultures. Poligamy isn't a license to circulate after somebody else's spouse or different halves. You assertion merely exhibits how close is the link between morals and cultural mandates. If residing in a poligamist custom, properly... go and shop on with its poligamist policies otherwise (you should be beheaded, ideas you).

Answer 7

I can't see how that would work. marriage is suppose to be sacred. What about the children that are born into these families????You take vows with the "one" you marry to be faithful and committed to them & only them, if you share this with others then how is it special? Poligamy takes away from the sanctaty of marriage.

Answer 8

I don't think it's any of the government's business so long as the women willingly got married and were of age, and so long as the children are safe and taken care of.

Answer 9

Is it even our question to address? I think the Supreme Dictators of the United States might decide the question for us (by saying that is a "constitutional right.")

Answer 10

It only makes sense for one man to be married to one woman. 1=1.