ive been told?

Question

that i wear my heart on my sleave and that i take things to personal, ok now what do i do, i dont know how not to do this, i didnt know i did it until folks told me, so how do i fix it?

Answer 1

I'm a real softy too...

1. God made you with a tender heart. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

2. It does suck sometimes when every little thing feels like walking on broken glass.

So: Try not to cry so much. Don't let youself get sucked into crying at movies, Lifetime for Women, or Hallmark comercials.

The less you cry at the drop of the hat (when it feels "good"), the less you will cry when you don't want to, like at school or work when someone is "mean" to you.

Also: Realized when people are "stern", "harsh", "abrupt", or "raise their voice" they are not "yelling at you". This took me a while to get. I grew up in a family where "yelling" was very subtle. it was a cold, calm "I am very disapointed". Which could be seconds away from getting your butt BEAT. Unpredictably.

So I am super "gun shy" about the lightest "disaproval"...because it feels "unsafe". I have had to make a concious connection in my mind that no one will hurt me now. They can get as mad at me as they want, and I always say, "what can they do to me"?

Say it with me; "What is the worst thing that can happen?"

*Not everyone has to like you. It is not your job to make people like you. Some people will never like you no matter how nice you are. When you leave the house in the morning say "It is more important to do my work, and and take care of me, than worry about other people being "mad".

After about a month you will feel a lot better. after about 6 months it will get to be a habbit. After about a year you might actually start to "not care" if other people are mad at you.

I am just getting to the point where if someone gives me a dirty look I can just "let it be their problem"... and I won't spend all day thinking about it.

Answer 2

You can't change the way you are, but you can choose to accept this and resolve not to let it show so much.

Part of maturity is learning about your faults and working with them. When you find yourself starting to react to things like that, just stop and tell yourself that you must be overreacting, and don't act on those feelings.

Answer 3

I don't think those are bad qualities. I think it is part of your personality and you need to accept yourself. We are who we are. You sound like a very honest true person. Bless you!

Answer 4

If you find out let me know...I have been told that for years.

Answer 5

stop wearing long s shirts.

Answer 6

my husband is trying to teach me the same thing....