what should i do?

Question

well we have been married 12 years we both have duaghters that are 15&16 . heres the deal my wife has never liked my daughter and has always been rude to her , i get along with her duaghter pretty good . my duaghter has recently moved to my parents house and will not come home becuase of my wife . my wife bad talks my daughter to other people and tells them her personal business , i am the kind who tells no one my familys business but she tells everything , but not about her child she hides things she does from me and bails her out of trouble and never tells me. our sex live is non exsitent we have had sex maybe 4 times in 2 years i need help what would you do.

Answer 1

Drop her fat dimpled *** as quick as you can. Your daughter is your blood, and blood is thicker than water. You are continuing to cultivate an unhealthy environment for your daughter to live in and allowing your fat, pathetic wife with rolls of fat hanging over the waist band of her 2XL sweat pants that she can barely squeeze her lard *** into. Kick that f*cking ***** to the curb man, worry about your daughter.

Answer 2

You should have put your foot down a long time ago. Your daughter should not be made to feel like an outsider in her own home. You were wrong to allow your wife to emotionally abuse your daughter. You were not there for your daughter in the beginning, you need to be there for her now. If you want to stay with your wife you need to let your wife know you will not accept her treatment of your daughter. You need to also let your daughter know that you will have her back when her step-mother is wrong. If your wife starts to talk about your daughter to other people in a negative manner you need to speak up and DEFEND your daughter. When you re-married your 1st responsibility was to make sure your daughter was well taken care off physically and emotionally. Your daughter was there first and shouldn't be made to feel replaced by your wife's daughter. Her daughter must be a model child and never makes mistakes. Otherwise why would you allow your daughter to be abused.

Answer 3

Lets see - you have been married for 12 years which means your daughter was 3 or 4 when ya'll married and you have allowed your wife to verbally abuse your daughter since then. I think you need to take a good look at yourself and ask why you chose this woman over your small child and why you allowed the abuse to continue for so long. Apparently she is also not too nice to you since you don't have a sex life and she hides things from you.

You know the answer to your question. Move out and get a place for you and your daughter and divorce this woman. There is no future here unless you enjoy the abuse and want it to continue with your grandchildren.

Answer 4

The fact that she's disrespecting your child means she's disrespecting u too. If someone really loved you, she would love you not only for who u are but what u come with. Personally, I would not stay in such a marriage. U have an obligation to your daughter because she will always be your daughter no matter what and your wife's attitude is not helping that relationship with her. Your wife is a vindictive, selfish, immature woman and I hate to tell u this but unless she realizes what she's doing, u will NEVER be happy in your marriage...so make a choice. It's unfortunate that u have to choose between her and your child but the answer should be clear to u.

U have the opportunity to make it right with your daughter now before she ends up resenting u for feeling as though u abandoned her.

Answer 5

Well I'm a single parent and would never allow a man to push one of my children out of my house. You two are a team and it's not fair for her to put your child in the position she is in. Imagine what your daughter is feeling, you should embrace your child and together you can find the answers. I would make it known to the wife that you won't allow her to disrespect your child and the child also can't disrespect the wife. You have more than one problem here and you should seek counseling before you decide it's too much work to make things right again. Good luck.

Answer 6

There is no kind of counseling that will make your marriage any better , too much bad and ugly has been happening far too long. She has no respect for your daughter , which is a very bad thing..If you respect your daughter then get out and don't look back . staying will only cause hate . Living with her is not having a real life , You need happiness and you need to be loved and your daughter deserves the same.

Answer 7

I hate to break the news to you, but this doesn't sound like much of a marriage. This sounds like two people who share rent. Whats the point? I mean you two need to get your act together and get some counseling or split the sheets. Since your sex life is suffering that means that there are several other things that are suffering in your relationship. Get some help from a professional.
Good Luck.
PS your wife is jealous of your daughter that is why she talks about her all of the time. She would deny this, but it is a given when this happens. I am a counselor. I see this all the time in my profession.

Answer 8

Well, it's easy for me to say because I'm not in your relationship and don't know the details...but, tell her to lighten up. You guys are married and it's both of your jobs to make sure both girls are being raise in a loving home. If not you are both setting the girl up for self esteem issues and feelings of resentment toward you. When kids are young, they are picking up cues from everywhere on themselves and their self worth. Don't let her mess up these young ladies. While it seems your daughter is getting the short end of the stick...if she is favoring her daughter she's probably thinking she's holds the world in a cup. Adulthood could be a rude awakening for her daughter. And if your daughter has moved in with your mother. Maybe she will be better there until your wife gets her priorities in check. Good luck!!

Answer 9

Well first of all i would never had married her if she couldnt get along with my daughter. But since you did tell her its you and your daughter or nothing. Tell her she needs to change quick b/c if she doesnt your leaving. Your daughter should be the most important thing in your life. Right now your daughter probably feels like you chose your "second" family over her.
Assure her thats not true and tell her your trying to work things out b/c you care about all of them. Your daughter should always come first though.

Answer 10

Why would you stay with someone that has 1. Disrespected your child 2. Is disrespectful to you 3. Alienated your child 4. Has and will cause damage to you and your child relationship.

I wouldn't stand for it.. and sadly if that happen they would of been out the door a long time ago. That is just not acceptable!

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 11

apparently your wife does not love you, if she did, she would treat your daughter well and would have sex with you. Stop being a fool and get a divorce. You may not find some one right away, but at least it's better than being in a loveless marriage, oh and by the way, children should always come first, not the spouse, or girlfriend