i caught him staying always late until dawn then suddenly turning it when i happen to peep on his laptop
2006-09-02 08:39:28 · 22 answers · asked by meranel a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah id say its normal.
Tell him you dont mind him doing it , but wish he wouldnt hide it from you.
Maybe you can look together.
2006-09-02 08:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference in looking at porn and looking at pics of naked girls. Most all men like looking at naked girls, but when they start obsessing about the explicit sexual acts they see on the screen there will eventually be a problem. You don't say how old your husband is and if he is young it is probably more accepted because he is curious.
Not all adult men watch porn even tho most people will tell you they do. Real men enjoy the women they are with and don't need the stimulation of made up sexual scenes which can rarely be played out in real life. If your husband is spending an excessive amount of time looking, then you have a problem.
Plus - is he in the sites that you have to pay for? Are you willing to give up household money to pay for this as it is very expensive and they sometimes run up charges that they don't realize. When my friend's husband was out of work he played on the porn sites when she was working and they ended up with a $600 bill and no money to pay it. They lost not only their internet service, and their telephone, but almost divorced over it.
Ask him if he will match the money he spends on porn so that you can have the same amount of cash to blow on what you enjoy - naked men at the club???
2006-09-02 16:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is one of the most normal practices for the majority of healthy males. Don't be offended by it! It has nothing to do with anything you think you may not be doing to please him sexually. I have been married for 19 years, have watched pornography before and after I got married and do not hide that fact from my wife as I also don't hide the fast that I masturbate almost as much as when I was single. We have a wonderful sex life together and she quickly learned to enjoy many of the things I do. She just, by choice, had to adjust some of the values she had learned through social conditioning and enjoy life.
2006-09-02 15:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with that,, but it would be better if he did not hide it from you..
I used to do that when the internet was new here, even inviting my wife to look at those porns...
But then, came that I didn't want it anymore.. it just disrupts my work and my time at home..
Eventually maybe he will also have his time and be tired of it..
Unless he will be interested in some of those ladies there, that would be another story.
2006-09-02 15:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's completely normal. Sometimes they go through cycles where they will do this every night all night, and then they seem to suddenly grow bored with it and stop. Then one day it starts again. But it is normal. It sounds like your husband is embarrassed to have you see him doing this- perhaps he thinks you strongly disapprove or something. If that is not that case, talk to him. Let him know he has nothing to hide from you.
2006-09-02 15:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is ok at some point of time in a month or so.bt always watching a porn site is not healthy.he needs to occupy himself somewhere else.yu shd talk to him thoroughly about this.he shd read some good book and play some game.or yu can both watch a movie or so.he needs diversion from his habit...
2006-09-02 15:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by nitin k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
2006-09-02 16:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by XLR8TED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunetly in my experience i have not yet found a man that doesn't look at porn, either i am looking in the wrong places for men or one that doesn't look doesn't exist. I'm still looking though lol, but i do believe it is pretty normal, gross but normal
2006-09-02 15:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad but true it is a very normal thing in our culture today...is it wrong...yes it is wrong...it is adultry....if it offends you...and if he cares about you he will stop...If he is caught up in it so far that he does not realize that you matter anymore...it is adultry...you have firm foundation to leave him and begin a new life with someone who does care and doesn't prefer porn over you! But if you can work it out with your husband do try!
2006-09-02 16:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. My husband looks at porn too but not so excessively that it consumes his entire life. It's like some kind of cycle for them.
2006-09-02 15:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's somewhat normal....but if he starts not wanting to be with you physically or he becomes obsessed with it, then he may have a huge problem. If I were you, I'd keep my eye on it just to be sure it doesn't become a problem. Good Luck!
2006-09-02 15:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by Sexy Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋