she has been talking to other dudes but telling me that its her girl friends that she speaks with. i caught her out. what should I do?
2006-09-02 08:30:42 · 41 answers · asked by tone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask yourself if you can trust her again.
If not, theres your answer!
2006-09-02 09:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ah! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jezz im sorry to hear that but I think that depending how long you two have been together should determine if you should get rid of her or not ... here's a question for you "If you do decide to stay with her ... will this be something you can forgive and forget or will you never let her live it down." If you cant just move on and not bring it up every time you have an argument or anytime something minor comes up then do both or yourselves a favor and leave the relationship... it wouldnt be fair to you and her either.
2006-09-02 08:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
Since u caught her for cheating, ask her y she did this.was it bcoz u hate her speaking to other guys or was she a flirt?
Hope u r not obessive,bcoz it really iritates everybody.it gives u a bad impression.
what u have to do is ask her y she lied?very simple. forgive her and tell her it doesnt matter if she talks to other guys but do tell her not to ever say lies, bcoz u find it sick. otherwise she wud begin to think that u r an obessive guy.
and do whatever things u both do in an ordinary manner.
take this case very lightly.their is nothing to panic.
good luck
2006-09-02 08:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bravo mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being lied to does not feel good, it hurts and is a form of betrayal.
First, if she had been honest with you it would be okay. Talking to other guys is okay, as long as she's not flirting or trying to cheat with them. Because you're in a relationship with her does not mean she can't have guys as friends.
I would ask her why she lied? Is it she's afraid you'd get all upset even if they are truly just frieds (she and the guy she's talking to?)
I have alot of guy friends and girl friends. Because I have a relationship with someone doesn't mean I have to stop being friends with one or the other.
2006-09-02 08:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has done this persistantly i would break up with her
dont let her play you
girls like that arent worth being with
if its only a one time thing you might just be over protective
which isnt neccesarily a bad thing either
let her know that you dont like her hanging out with other guys yet dont make it seem like you are jealous or overbearing
go on a date with her and see if anything has changed
if it was still as magical as the first one
and if not
i think its time for a break.
2006-09-02 08:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by adancez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess It depends on the way she was talking to them...was she flirting? or was it just friendly chatter?
It doesn't seem that there is much trust in your relationship, being as though she felt the need to lie about it. I would defiantly have a talk with her, and breaking it off is ultimately up to you.
Good luck with your situation
2006-09-02 08:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by GeorgiaGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking and hanging out are not cheating....now if you caught her out holding hands and kissing then she was cheating.......but otherwise.....i suggest you trust her....and quit getting jealous over nothing.......but if for some reason that isn't the whole story just dump her.....and find someone better......and very trustworthy.
2006-09-02 08:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should defiantly talk it over with her, maybe she only lied b/c she thought you would get mad if she was talking to other boys. Maybe they were just friends? But if she was cheating on you then you should not be in a relationship with a person who can't respect you, so maybe you should see other people.
2006-09-02 08:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by |katt| 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her about it.afterall if there was nothing to hide she would have told u straight out that she was talking to those guys.She probably didn't tell you anything because she's probably telling those guys she's single.Based on what she tells you,decided wether to dump her or not.
2006-09-02 08:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nexus K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at yourself first,maybe you are very jealous guy and he is just her friend,nothing more but friend.And she was afraid to tel you she is speaking with another guy..Not every conversation with opposite sex has to be betrayal
2006-09-02 08:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept that she talks to other dudes, you don`t own her, give her some space and I`m sure she will aprediate it.
2006-09-02 09:09:46 · answer #11 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋