I like a guy who is in the Army. He has been talking about children (we both have one child each), asking about remarriage, how much he owes on his car, buying a house etc. H e asked me if I think I would remarry. I told him not really. I am recently divorced he had been divorced for ten years. I think he is having some issues with his son, he lives with him. My daughter and I are just great, typical mom/daughter stuff. He says that he can be fickle, but when we are talking face to face I get the impression that he is a little scared. So am I. He double talks- he says he doesn't have the energy to be in a relationship but thinks I would make a good wife. I don't get...
2006-09-02 08:28:20 · 5 answers · asked by jhaiop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My best advice is beware and here is why. First off he is in the Army. Is he deployed somewhere or will he be soon? Does he need someone to raise his son whom you say he has issues with? Will marrying him and having his son around affect the relationship you have with your daughter? You say he wants more children - are you willing to raise that child alone as he is in the Army and won't be around much? You say he claims to be fickle - does he have a girl in every port? You say he double talks - can you really trust a double talker?
Think long and hard before marrying this man. If you really care for him, continue to date and give your children time to grow up (altho you don't say how old they are), and then consider marrying when you both are ready.
Otherwise, find a man who is not having problems, fickle, scared, or a double talker. They are out there, but sometimes they are a little hard to find because we women are wasting our time on the scared, fickle, double talkers.......
2006-09-02 09:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's hard to say but I can tell u that it's not u, it's definitely him who has issues. I don't know how his marriage ended but my guess is it ended quite badly. It's not that he's unsure of u, he's just unsure if he wants to be in a marriage again and is probably still scared of the idea. I suggest u tread lightly on this and don't expect anything in return. Having just gone thru a divorce recently yourself, it's probably better that u take time for yourself before jumping into another relationship so quickly. This doesn't mean that u shouldn't date him but if it's ever going to turn into something more, he needs to get his priorities straight on what it is he really wants.
2006-09-02 15:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's wants to move forward with you but is still a bit scared because of his past relationship. If he brings it up again just tell him that you like him alot and would like to see him but you want to take it real slow because your just not ready for a serious relationship. If it ends up that way then great but if it doesn't then it doesn't. Just tell him to stop talking about remarriage and kids and just take one step at a time. I've been with my fiance for 14+ years and were content with not being married. Someday we will be but for right now were happy. Goodluck.
2006-09-02 15:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it has been ten years since his divorce, then that proves he is scared. just give him time and you give it time, and if it is a "marriage" capable relatiponship, then it will come at its right time.
2006-09-02 15:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Karen Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't remarry until you are very sure that he is the person you want in you and your daughter life.
2006-09-02 15:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by carzone28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋