i have asked this as when i visit my baby who at 6wks early was 5lbs,3ozs and doing brill with no health wories ,after i,ve done cares(washing and feeding),i,m only allow to hold baby 4 about a hr then get told to put im back in cot,they do tube feed then bottle feed even though babys 16dys old,healthy,in a cot & no monitors,personally i don,t think they are encouaging im,is the normal thing that happens or am i just being too impatience
2006-09-02 08:08:07 · 9 answers · asked by missy79 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I've worked in a special care baby unit and it does sound as if you're being seriously held back from taking part in your own child's care. In the unit I worked in, mothers were encouraged to do as much as they were comfortable doing provided the baby was well enough. They were taught to tube feed, allowed to bottle or breast feed and change the child and do all the basic care. However, I do understand why they don't want you handling the baby all day. Premature babies need to rest and they do that best when they are left to sleep without being handled.
I'd calmly speak to the nurse in charge (perhaps take your partner or a family member with you for moral support) to ask why you aren't being allowed to do more. Explain that you feel able to do more and if they aren't giving you the chance then how on earth are you expected to cope when you get home with the baby. Also, enquire when the child is likely to be discharged as you want to start planning for its homecoming.
2006-09-02 12:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sisters daughter was born at 31 weeks. When she was allowed to take her out of the incubator at 6 weeks old, it was only for a short time so that her body temperature wouldnt go down too much. This was also the reason when she went into the cot.
Dont know if that my be the same in your instance, ask the nursing staff, i'm sure they will be happy to explain why to you.
All the best for you and your new baby.
2006-09-02 08:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by xx_debbi_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my daughter born in october was 7 weeks early and spent 1 month in hospital the first two weeks were in intensive care the second two in special care
when she was in intensive care there was very little holding etc and all i was really allowed to do was her cares as you have been allowed to do all of her feeds were via tube which i was allowed to hold her for then it was more or less back into her incubator to maintaine her body temp but once my daughter was in a special care unit with no monitors etc then it was much eaiser to be allowed to hold her although was told not too wake her just to hold her only if she was awake or if it was feed time was i aloud to get her out if you are not still in hospital with her the best thing i found was to co-inside my visits with her feed times so that you are able to bond with baby thats if your not there all day (i couldnt stay all day as had another daughter to look after) if you are there not at a feed time and you want to hold her just let one of the nurses know i really dont see thers should be a problem as its your child but i dont think it would do any halm to just say you are going to get her out of her cot the thing we found was not to ask to hold but tell them you are going to just really to check that there isnt any planned doctors coming round or any tests to be done
i wish you all the best for a happy future and congratulations on the birth of your baby and i hope baby comes home soon then you can hold him/her as long as you want
2006-09-02 20:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by ag 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does not sound normal to me. My son was in neonatal intensive care for two weeks and I was able to hold him all day and all night. Why he is getting fed through a tube if he is healthy? I was impatient too and its hard but they should know what is best for your baby they are the experts.
2006-09-02 08:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine you're a nasty mom, you're basically extremely drained and exhausted. i can see your reasoning in needing a nighttime to compensate for sleep/relax, even with the reality that i do not imagine i ought to do it, notwithstanding i'm no longer on your shoes! basically bear in mind, even as the toddler comes homestead that is going to be more effective of an same tale haha. ok, that probable would not make you experience more effective, basically comprehend that it receives more effective and 'this too shall pass'! :)
2016-12-06 04:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by troche 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably,i was the same my first was 6weeks prem and breech had to have c section she weighed 3lb 15 and was in for 3 weeks.prem babies need plenty of rest and to be kept warm also more at risk of infection so midwives tend to limit contact from visitors,even mums.i know it's hard but think of baby it for the best.i didn't even have mine with me she was in special baby ward.good luck anyway.
2006-09-02 08:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by hubbardsn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was six weeks early back in 1986, it was hard to leave her but she soon came home, just keep thinking of the future.
All the best.
2006-09-02 08:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by bobthebuilder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult to say why anyone would want to stop a mum holding her baby.......sounds an awful situation to be in. What do they say when you ask them why?
2006-09-02 08:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your doctors and find out everything for longer term and why you are not allowed to hold your baby. ask questions to anyone that will listen
2006-09-02 10:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by hedley_20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋