I've been in Canada for around 5 years already since being a new immigrant. I was around 18 when I came here.
Yes I have a job. I'm not being a parasite. I'm helping my parents pay the bills and we live under the same roof.
However, my parents are just bad. I cannot stand them. I cannot last 10 minutes in a decent conversation with them before we start to argue. They are getting to my nerves. They've always been control freaks since I was a small child and as early as 12, I've been thinking of getting out from them.
In spite of me helping them, they still do not respect me and they sometimes treat me like a 10 year old. I feel really embarrassed and humiliated.
I dont have enough money to get out. But I'm saving for it. I am planning to become an auto mechanic so I can get a better paying job and save faster then get my own place.
Is my situation embarrassing?
2006-09-02 08:03:59 · 16 answers · asked by NB 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I pay $400 to them every month... plus extra money sometimes for unexpected expenses... like traffic tickets or car breaking down...
I am polite to them. They are just... something... I cannot understand.
In the house, I try my best not to be around them in order to avoid problems.
2006-09-02 08:35:15 · update #1
Your situation is certainly not embarrasing but definitely unfortunate. It doesn't cost that much to live on your own. And you'd be surprised how much your relationship with your parents will improve when you no longer live with them.
I am 27 and live with my parents. My girlfriend and I both do. And in fact, my 30 year old brother, wife, and daughter just moved in here too. Granted we're all here on a very temporary basis and all have our own reasons. But it still sucks. My parents drive me up the wall too.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 08:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by whatispunk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's sad that you're in such a situation, but you don't give any examples of how they show you no respect. If you're living under your parents roof, they have the right to set rules about what is acceptable in their home. However, if they're treating you like a child, trying to run your life, for example, they are in the wrong. Just hang in there, save every penny and get out as soon as you can. But remember, regardless of their behavior, keep your dignity and integrity intact, and be respectful to them. You'll feel better about yourself, and you'll be a better person (and parent one day) for it.
2006-09-02 08:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Saved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is becoming the norm.
I lived on my own for a few years but had a breakdown which required that I live with my parents. I'm 32.
Now I spend my day on this forum over a friend's house with a laptop and an Internet connection. :)
As long as you can keep yourself occupied, the less humiliated you will feel.
2006-09-02 08:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not embarrassing, just unhealthy. If you have a job, why can't you move out now? Maybe you will just be scraping by financially for awhile, but wouldn't that be better than fighting all the time? Once you become more independent and established, hopefully you will find that you get along with your parents better. It worked for me, anyway.
2006-09-02 08:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's perfectly understandable;for economic sakes to live with your parents. But if your parents are not respecting your privacy and your manhood. You should move out. An auto mechanic makes good money. Get out to save your sanity. It's much better to live an independent life.
2006-09-02 08:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent with an adult child that came back home and is moving out this very week into her own place.
YOUR PARENTS ARE ANGRY, FED UP AND WANT YOU OUT ON YOUR OWN, SO THEY CAN HAVE THEIR LIFE BACK.
If you have to work more than one job, get a roommate and stand on your own two feet.
You are bleeding them dry, financially and emotionally.
Your situation isn't embarrassing it's pathetic.
Do you pay at least $200.00 a month rent, do you do your own laundry, do you clean the kitchen to help out, do you take complete care of your own room???? Are you polite, well mannered and helpful. IT IS THEIR HOUSE REMEMBER. When you own the house you can do what you want.
Too many parents put their own marriages on the line trying not to throw their children out.
If you are 18 or older and not going to school FULL time, GET OUT, stand on your own two feet. Make yourself proud of yourself. Do something to earn money, you don't have to love it but stand on your own two feet.
GET YOUR ADULT LIFE STARTED!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-02 08:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not think living with your parents at your age is embarrassing at all. You are doing everything I would wish of one of my kids to do if they still lived at home. It sounds like you need to just deal with your parents for as long as you need to until you are able to move out. I would just find things to keep you occupied while you are off work, anything to keep you out of the house after the things you want to do at home are done. Just keep respecting your parents as it is their home and you are still their "little boy".
Good luck!
2006-09-02 08:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by hopetohelpyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure your situation is embarassing. Why not get a roommate and move out now - you say you're helping with bills anyway.
2006-09-02 08:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not embarassing. But to avoid greater conflicts with your parents... live separately but explain to them of your intention first to avoid misunderstanding. Parents tend to control you. May be their intentions are good... maybe we don't understand them until we're parents ourselves.. but everybody need to be respected.
2006-09-02 08:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by kin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...my uncle didnt get out untill he was 26+ and he has his masters and soon doctors degree in acounting and bussiness, such a huge success....so no your pretty much doing good...just dont end up like my other uncle who was 40 and lived with his mom
2006-09-02 08:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋