He's a good kid...wants to work, has no degree...has a real nack for video graphics and troubleshooting, but nothing of a future...
2006-09-02 07:01:35 · 11 answers · asked by chatterella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes counseling is your best bet... if should have been already trying to expierence life on his own and making something of himself.. he might be a little scared and worried about leaving his house.. maybe hes afraid that nothing would be the same when he leaves and that he'll be alone in the world.. but of coarse that won't be true.. incourage him to geta job and his own place.. help him at the beginning and drift apart little by little.. so he could know that he can stand on his own two feet.. but always remind him that if he needs anything that you would be there for him
2006-09-02 07:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a good kid just like that living at home with me. Never kept a job long, stayed mostly unemployed. I put up with it for 2 years and I told him he must keep a job no matter what. I found him a job, dropped him off and picked him up every day. He quit again.
I put him out and changed the locks.
He slept in my neighbors yard on the swing for about a week when he figured out he would not be moving back home with mom.
Today he is a married man, keeps a steady job, and has his first baby on the way.
Tough love does work.
Make him grow up.
2006-09-02 07:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by retrodesignerdeals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to lay down the law and make him pay his part or pay his way while he lives with you. Make him take any job he can get right now so he can start learning some responsibilty and after a few months of working for little pay and having to pay a bill out that then he might think that he needs to get off his duff and get a real job. If it was me, Good luck.
2006-09-02 08:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I didn't know this is coicedence.. I have also the same problem here.. He is ECE Graduate, passed the board, have worked then quit, then work, then study some subjects in college, then work, then study,,, etc.., now he is jobless and stays most of the time in computer, then prints something here and then keep on reading or studying what he did,, whatever..
He said he just want to work from home and wanted us to buy some computers for online business.
Unfortunately, unlike in US, computers are not as much expensive, here in our country they are..
But I would not mind much, for as long as he is only with us and not with his friends or gangs that goes out at midnight in motorcycles disturbing the peace and quite of the neighborhood.
At least he do not go for those sillly things, so it is just fine for me now, until I can buy him computers aside from this we are using now.
2006-09-02 07:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had two sons and was in the same situation with both of them. She finally got fed up with them and moved to another location taking all belongings including furniture and appliances leaving them with nothing. She also cancelled hydro, gas and telephone. Without telling them anything, she left. They were then forced to do something with there lives to get something as simple as food. It was a harsh punishment, but one they never forgot and they did eventually go on to school and make something of theirselves. They ended up moving out a few weeks after she left and she moved back into her home. I just thought that I would share this spectacular story.
2006-09-02 08:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy needs answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't enable his behavior.He seems shy and introverted. He needs a push to get him going. I know he will thank you for it later. You can find him a job. Any job will help him with his self worth and give him some cash with which to make his own decisions.Pretty soon he will discover what he wants to do and you got him started.There is a big world out there. Its a shame he is missing it.
2006-09-02 07:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by carolinatinpan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull tuff love on him,tell him to get a grip and find a job and give him a time limit on doing so and if not put him out,he is older enough to take care of himself not for you to do.If not he will never get no where and have no life and you want either.
2006-09-02 07:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but your son really needs to get his sh!t together. Send him to ITT Tech or a trade school that will get him an associates degree in computers and the likes that he is interested in.
2006-09-02 07:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if he wants to work why doesn't he? sometimes though love is the needed push to get someone's life on track. tell him if he doesn't hold a job, and gets other priorities in check he cannot stay there. if he does these things he can stay for a while longer until he gets on his feet then he needs to move out. he is only doing it BECAUSE YOU LET HIM.
2006-09-02 07:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into an technical institute where he can learn a trade/skill. Seems like tuff needs to start. He needs to become a responsible adult and stop muching off of you.
2006-09-02 07:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by sharonjean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋