We were not married at the time, she called after 3 years and told my husband that she had a baby and that she was seeking paternity, with not only my husband, but her husband and 3 different guys, we are married now, have been since 04, i have 3 kids with him now and love him very much, am i wrong to still have feelings of hatred towards him?
2006-09-02 06:37:51 · 26 answers · asked by dischick06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you are not wrong for the feelings.The easiest thing will be for you to leave him,but that isn't the oath you made at your wedding."For better or for worse".This is one of these"worse" moments you will have,but I am glad you said You still love him.Love will conquer all.I know its hard but learn to forgive him and I think he will remember that all his life.The next man may be worse that him.
2006-09-02 07:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Alot-in-crisis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married or not cheat is cheat,i would let him go for that because once a cheat always a cheat and what gos around comes around.Find you someone new and have a good life. Not with someone you have to keep an eye on all the time.That's no life and no fun.
2006-09-02 06:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he is still cheating? If he isn't, then you might be able to work through it. That other lady sounds like a wh***! She is seeking paternity testing with 5 different men? Yuck.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 07:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your feelings are your feelings and at the time even though you weren't married you still trusted him to do right by you not only did he cheat he cheated and had unprotected sex which he put you and the baby in harms way you can be mad for as long as you wish he doesnt have much to say about it he should deal with it and shut up
2006-09-02 06:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always hate him for this. Women do not forget and have long memories. If this is the only time he cheated and is truly sorry, it is probably worth while to stay with him. But I doubt you will ever get over this.
2006-09-02 06:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those feelings of betrayal may never go away. If you want your marriage to endever you must find a way to forgive him, otherwise you will have this in the back of your mind causing you to be paranoid about his fidelity forever and it will drive you crazy. If you can't forgive him you would be best to leave the relationship.
2006-09-02 06:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by redhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know how you feel. If you really want to make this work tell him you need to know that he wont ever do that to you again. If you believe him, then also let him know thatif the other kid turns out to be his, you support his decision if he wants to be part of it's life. But also remind him that he has three others that need him too.
2006-09-02 06:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Niky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its better to forgive and move on. u r happy with him now so y spoil it. u have kids with him whoo depend on both of u and ur love. he must have realized what u mean to him thats y he married u. mistakes happen. he is human. he seems to love u very much and in a moment of weakness did somethimg to hurt u. its not worth ruining ur marriage over. best of luck
2006-09-02 06:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling anger is normal. He was a creep to screw around while you were pregnant. However, men think with their ***** and not their heads. If you have a good life now, try to work it out and support your husband.
2006-09-02 06:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by united9198 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it will hurt a lot. But if you love him as much as you say, it will work out. The problem is that if you want to stay with him, you have to totally forgive him. It sucks, but that's the only way it will work.
2006-09-02 06:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by bigwilly1997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋