if he wants to do anything for his birthday........he said no, so I didn't worry about it because 2 years ago I planned a party for him and he treated me like crap.......he was pissed and he called me names and said that I was just having a party for my benifit.......that really hurt my feelings so the day before the party I cancelled it........I called everyone and said that it was cancelled due to the weather........it really hurt my feelings......he left me and filed for a divorce right after that and we got back together a year later........and here i am again with another one of his birthday.....I just asked him last night if we were doing anything this weekend and he said no,,,,,,,now i just got a phone call from my mother-in-law saying that we are meeting at my brother-in-laws house because she and her daighter are cooking for my husbands birthday and that she invited my husbands uncles........i was so hurt.....should i be?
2006-09-02 06:25:45 · 20 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
now i am not prepared and i am going to look like an ***.....i can't not show up cause i will look like a ***** and this party is at my brother-in-laws house and he won't even be there.......he will be working.........to me that is so tacky.......to have a party and the owner of the house is not even present!?
2006-09-02 06:27:04 · update #1
and she said that my husband already knew about it, she was just calling to say it was at her son's house not her's anymore and to tell my husband the plans changed!?
2006-09-02 06:28:39 · update #2
sorry for my SPELLING........this just happened and what i wanted so advice....can't call my parents cause then they will be mad at him and they already hate him for what he did to me 2 years ago and left me with a new born baby.......
2006-09-02 06:31:38 · update #3
thats why i wasn't going to have a party for him..........i learned my lesson 2 years ago, but I asked him just in case he might of wanted to do something.........and now he and his mother planned something, that i was hurts my feelings........he is not calling her a ***** or a whore and telling her that she is just doing it for her benifit........
2006-09-02 06:34:29 · update #4
i know that i am the stupid *** for getting back with him but i thought he truely changed,,,,,,now he and his mother run my life and i am the dumb *** that has 2 kids with him and now i am stuck having to deal with their ****............
2006-09-02 06:36:38 · update #5
dont worry go to the party. n for ur husband dont make any special arrangement coz he treated u reallt badly, he himself will realise his mistake n who know he may even ask for ur forgiveness for his stupid behaviour, go to ur inlaws house coz there r a important part of ur life too.good luck.
2006-09-02 06:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by naturelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 07:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by basinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, listen to your husband. If he doesn't want a party, respect that. To have one against his will is rude and disrespectful, you totally disregarded his feelings. Don't you see that? It is HIS birthday which means he gets to celebrate it the way he wants to not the way you want to. He's sounds like a simple man who just appreciates the simple things in life like a home cooked meal. Just go with the flow and ask the ladies if they need any help. Take it as a day off.
2006-09-02 06:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God that's weird that the host won't be there.
I'm sorry darling but your husband is such an @ss for treating you like that. Of course you'd be hurt, this whole deal sucks!
*I must be the worst person to make someone feel better! Sorry!
2006-09-02 06:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know they are planning this get together? It sounds like neither one of you are very happy right now. I would try counseling and if that doesn't work I would get the divorce. You are just wearing each other down and if you have kids, it's not good for them to see mom and dad unhappy.
2006-09-02 06:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good intentions ! But maybe your husband is very sensitive to his own Birthday and maybe even Christmas time. Like myself they are very sensitive, reason gave me bad memories during childhood. If, any are allowed, only blood relatives were allowed to do this function. SO, my wife and kids knows this and they treat it with kit gloves, every year. I have been improving as years go by. Just be patient!
2006-09-02 06:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by honker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up. Everything is not about you. All you have to do is to be easy and flexible. It sounds like you would rather be petty and jealous. It is hard to see how your marriage will last if you make such a big deal out of something so small.
2006-09-02 06:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your husband a divorce for his birthday! It's like a present for both of you. Sorry, but he obviously doesn't have the love for you that he should.
2006-09-02 06:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by GT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this guy treats you like **** and you are still with him. The real question is: why are you wtih him if both he and his family hurt you? You can do soooo much better
2006-09-02 06:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not just get together for good times and a few beers, without specifying the occasion. it's labor day weekend - why not just enjoy it? people who try to stir up obligations, duties, and guilt-motivated behavior ultimately get what they deserve.
2006-09-02 06:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by dimbulb52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋