My man asked me b4 to have a threesome with another female I was not curious at that time... Then he kept talking about it and when I suggested it he shot me down... Now I am not opposed to the ideal of two men and me.. But he wants to watch is all not participate.. I feel like the one said he is degrating me by doing so.. And let me add that we are married I asked him becaue we are having issues in our relationship. I want to try and save itSo i made the suggestion he always talked about. Now hes shooting me down and asking to watch me have sex with a male.. Something here is not right guys and its not me... i am just trying to keep the relationship alive.
2006-09-02 06:17:27 · 8 answers · asked by Stacey The Birthday Girl! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
"swinging" can be very dangerous, if not handled properly,and even then it can backfire. you should first consiter the emotional aspect, then the health issue, birth controle, ect. it is almost impossible to stop a love triangle without someone getting hurt badly. would you want a long term thing?usualy when there is a threesome and one participant drops out the trouble starts. how do you realy feel about your husbands fantisy? i can relate to both of you, but speaking as a man a threesome with two women is very desirable but i would not praticipate with a woman and man, but like your husband i,d like to watch this.i would be aprehensive if the woman was my wife though. you might say that i,ve had a threesome with the same two women several times,and it was very satisfying, there was no emotional atachments involved,and one ot the women who aranged the whole thing . that made it even better for me. the woman who aranged it only watched us and mastrubated. this occured a long time ago. i have long since married, but still have my fantisies. you should be very, very careful. this is already a explosive situation.your email tells me that your relationship is already in serious trouble,you might want to talk with some good marrage councler.that just might help and look before you leap! good luck!!!
2006-09-02 07:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by houdini 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If a spouse asks their spouse to do a threesome or do anther person they DO NOT LOVE YOU AND IT IS TIME TO GET OUT. Not only do they not love you but they want to degrade you and hurt you. If you agree to help your marriage then you are either very unaware and naive or just as sick as the one who asked. The marriage bed is for the two married ppl only and it is to bring children into the marriage that is steady and financially ready, and it is also for the pleasure of the married couple to add to the success of the marriage, not to hurt it.Say NO to him and leave before you are lowered so much taht you cannot dig out of the filth he is asking you to do.
2006-09-02 09:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. The word is idea, not ideal. Ideal is something that is perfect. Idea is a thought, or a suggestion.
2. You have a very unhealthy relationship.....I know, I have been in your shoes. Get out of it NOW.
3. Stop letting a man degrade you. You allow others to treat you as you wish to be treated.
2006-09-02 06:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not use sex to keep the relationship alive. What he is asking is degrading in the way he is asking it, and for the reasons he is asking it. It's just disgusting.
If you can't fix your relationship, sex should be out of the question in any way until you can. Sit down and talk.
2006-09-02 06:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not right.If you have problems you will not solve them by having sex with another person. Try and find the actual problem in your relationship and reslve that.
2006-09-02 06:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bohemian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope ya don't catch diseases because condoms are only 80% effective. That is really gross and awkward.
2006-09-02 06:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you think that would help your marriage?
2006-09-02 06:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Papa John 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds nasty and like what animals do...ewww!!!
2006-09-02 06:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋