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i got taken away from my mother by dcf .the court appointed a guardian of light person to be partial responsible for me.well she called my fiance and told him that if he is caught around me he will go to prison cause he is 24.what should we do?we are still dating cause he said he loves me and doesn't want to lose me anymore

2006-09-02 06:07:48 · 24 answers · asked by Justina F 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Right now you just need to work on your situation and what is best for you. Concentrating on your boyfriend isn't the best thing to do right now.. fix what is going on with your family life.. and I hope that things work out for you. As to the boyfriend, he will eventually be caught and could be facing jail.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

2006-09-02 06:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0 0

A Guardian Ad Litem is a person who is court appointed to research your case, and make reccomendations to the court as kind of an un-biased "middleman". They are supposed to try and give the underaged kids a voice but if there is a situation that the kid is in and the parent is unable or unwilling to do what is legally or morally right for the kid then the Guardian puts in their two cents worth. Your Guardian obviously found that your mom,for right now, couldn't make proper decisions and perhaps even a fiance at your age was an issue. I'm sure you're going through some difficult times right now but my advice is to be patient and show that you are mature enough to make some of your own choices and sooner or later you will be allowed to make them. As far as your fiance is concerned, if he loves you, then he will stay away from you until you aren't a minor anymore and will still be there for you at that time. It is absolutely true that if you are a minor, then he can be put in jail for anything from child endagerment to rape. Do you want that for him?? Perhaps after a bit of time has gone by, you could show your maturity and ask to see him under supervised visits. Good luck!

2006-09-02 13:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0 0

I think you should cool it with the fiance for a while. Have you ever heard the phrase "Looking for love in all the wrong places?" Sounds like this may be what you are doing.

Your Mom messed up, and that's not your fault. But you have to heal yourself before you can make the decision to be with another person especially in a lifelong commitment like marriage. Besides, your relationship doesn't sound very legal, and your guardian must sign for you to be able to get married.

I think YOU should focus on school and building relationships with people your own age. It might sound like the hardest thing to do in the world, but listen to your guardian and leave the 24-year-old alone. At least, until your 18 and have had a lot more time to think about it.

2006-09-02 13:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well sweetie, you are underage, and sometimes teens need to be told what is good for them. I am so sorry this hurts you so much. I am concerned that a 24 y/o guy wants to hang around a young kid. It is statutory rape if an adult has sex with a minor, so in a way the court is protecting him as well. He needs to realize that he can go to jail for having sex with you, whether he loves you or not. I think for both of your best interests, you should just take a break for right now, just until you are of age (18) and he can get his emotions figured out. Email me anytime if you need to talk more

2006-09-02 13:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by AGgirl 2 · 2 0

I feel there is a LOT more to your story than you are telling. How old are you? Has the OLDER man been having sex with you and you must be well underage for him. He is using you, fiance or not. Not knowing how old you are, there is NO answer to your question. If the 24 old is seeing you and you are 12 or 13 years old.....yep, he is prison bound. Think it out. Evidently you aren't old enough to make decisions so someone has to do it for you. Pops

2006-09-02 13:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pops 6 · 1 0

You must be under 18 and you have no business dating someone who is 24. There is something wrong with the 24 year old to be interested in someone so young as yourself. You should look for someone with in 2 years of your age. Don't even consider marriage until you are 23+.

2006-09-02 13:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Debbk 4 · 2 0

Well i got taken by dcf when I was younger age 8 or so. It scared me to death. I will tell you what I did. I ran I took all the hate I had for satan running my life and I ran away from them.

Keep in mind thou you can only run for so long until it cathes up It did when I finally prayed for a family.

2006-09-02 13:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by Don The great .................. 2 · 0 0

I'm guessing you are a minor. The 24 year old needs to wait for you to become of age. The guardian is trying to help you. Your mom now needs help of her own. I understand you are in pain, but slow things down w/ your fiance'.

2006-09-02 13:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by decababe 3 · 0 0

That's so sad...I wish I had a really great answer. But if your new guardian is serious about reporting your boyfriend, it might be best that you two cool things off for a bit. When do you turn 18? Hopefully soon...then I don't believe she has a say in what you do.
Good luck!

2006-09-02 13:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0 0

You have been appointed a guardian ad litem. If I were you, I would make a chart counting the days until your 18th birthday, and until then, try to stay away from him, do you really want to see him arrested? I guarantee if something like that happened, things would get way worse real quick.

2006-09-02 13:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by aliisdisturbed 2 · 1 0

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