This guy told me the other day that he has felling for me and he knows that i told him that no felling can be involed in our friendship. He told me that he used to treat girls like they we're nothing until he met me because I treated him just as he did girls. He said that his mother told him that one day there would be this one girl that will reject you and your going to want her so bad but can't have her. So all this is taking place at the same time as he still goes to see his x girlfriend. He says he not doing any thing with her and that he wants me to be his girl. So my question to you all is should I come right out front with him and be like it's me or her or should walk away why i have know fellings for him? If i had a chance to be with him I would want it but not to be with him and her. all his friends says that I'm the first girl to do this to him. They say they've never seen him like this over a girl.
2006-09-02 05:47:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been holding strong for months now I fell like I'm playing with fire. I'm playing the game to the best of my ability. You can only hold fellings back for so long. Iwant him so bad but not to share him. How do you get a player to settle down?
2006-09-02 06:01:41 · update #1
Don't take a chance - walk away now.
2006-09-02 05:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Phyllobates 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Steps that I think u can do
1.Tell his yes and tell him that he only got ONE chance only
2. Have some of your most trust friend (at lest two or three that hang out with him a lot) to be you “personal spy” ***remember do not tell him anything about the spy***
3. Tell your friend that if they see anything strange tell them to tell u RIGHT AWAY.
4. And if u found out he had do some thing then break up with him.
5. And if he try to ask u back.. Plz don’t feel sorry for him ..just say “NO”
2006-09-02 05:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by da_diva_fo_life@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants what he can't have. The thrill of the chase. He's keeping his ex on the side because it fulfills his needs and is a safe place in case you (what he can't have) fully reject him.
Don't make your decision on how he feels or what he says about this.
Dig deep, soul search, and figure out if YOU want him.
2006-09-02 05:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jason T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl! dont fall for it...be difficult and strong...dont let him read you...observe every movehe makes. Make sure you dont fall for any trick...cz all this guy wants is a boodie lady! he has never been rejected thats why he's acting differently with you...and he wants things to go his own way like always...
2006-09-02 05:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that youre not about being played like those other hoes hes been with. If you want him, tell him to drop the ex and be with you and only you. Dont let him play the "Shes just my friend" role. Friends to lovers, absolutely, but lovers to friends? Never.
2006-09-02 05:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by dezzykotajamz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not? We don't divide the love we feel for our kids, we multiply it, so why can't the same be true of a man loving two different women? or ten for that matter?
As to the second part of your question. If you want him for him, ( you don't just want him because he wants you) , then give him an ultimatum. her or you. If he can't choose, forget him, he's a bum.
2006-09-02 05:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can love two girls.
I knew a guy who was dating three girls at the same time
2006-09-02 05:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love, just surrender. Release all defenses and go for it.
Playing games is toxic to a relationship. Be authentic.
2006-09-02 06:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep rejectimg him. Obvioulsy, he is enjoying the chase. That makes you interesting and challenging. He has to decide who he wants, and ultimatums never work.
2006-09-02 05:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats girls like crap then you shouldn,t let him have what he wants until he does right. He needs to learn this lesson
2006-09-02 05:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋