We have lived 5 years as a couple and did everything together now I don't feel the way I used to and I want to still have him in my life but there are other people I want to talk to. I know he will be upset if he knows that I want to be free of the chains of a relaltionship but I do want him to be happy which is why I am so afraid of telling him the truth
2006-09-02 05:24:50 · 11 answers · asked by akiastatz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I’m not sure I am with you in your interpretation of a couple…
Are we talking ‘husband and wife’ and ‘living under the same roof’… or what?
You have to be honest with him.
Tell him that you really care about him, but you feel you are being smothered, and need to reclaim your independence. Tell him you would like for him and you to remain close friends, but at the same time, you need to rejoin the rest of humanity.
If you happen to be living under the same roof as him, then you might need to line up alternative accommodation before you say anything to him.
I am curious though, whether you feel the way you do because you want to get closer to the guy who kissed you last week…
Refer to your question… How can I learn not to become emotionally involved with somebody?
2006-09-02 05:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard one; i know how you feel. went thru the same thing then i married the guy! ha! but anyway, back to you. first know that the 'in love' stuff always wears off. did you know that? but some people i see are very happy together after many yrs. i guess the pt i am trying to make is find out what you want in a relationship, and think about if you and the guy you're with are compatible for the most part. do you want kids/long term committment? if you get rid of the guy you have now you may regret it when you get out there and see that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. can you get out of town for a while; maybe stay with relatives? it would probably help you to be by yourself. or you could just say that you want to live by yourself for a while. then if he presses you for a reason you could bring this issue up and say you want to think and need some space. he may blow up at you and blow you off, so brace yourself. there's a lot of good info on the net about this very subject. start surfing and go look. good luck!
2006-09-02 11:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by paradengszosnjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of what's been said before. You may think he's happy now but how can it be that good when your heart is no longer involved as it was. He can't even tell? Either he is going through the motions himself or he will be in for a very rude awakening. You can't protect him from that reality forever... and why would you want to? Time is precious for both of you.
2006-09-02 05:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him what is in your head because you are kind and have no reason to hurt him. He is going to be hurt enough so spare him the details. Just say that this is not going to work with what you want for your life, you care about his feelings and know he doesn't want to continue in a realationship that can not be fixed or allowed to continue. Good bye and good luck, short and sweet.
2006-09-02 05:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're afraid because of uncertainty issues after you tell the truth.... OF course he will hurt if he still in love with you but give him a fair chance to make his own decision in this relationship... He has the right to know!
2006-09-02 05:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you are the comparable as each and every human in the worldwide. each and every person thinks they're gay or lesbian in some unspecified time interior the destiny of their life. regrettably in our society each and every person is so petrified of being gay notwithstanding in the event that they themselves have not got a project with it or their kinfolk have not got a project with it that they attempt so difficult to alter themselves and close away the sentiments. it sounds to me such as you like adult adult males and ladies folk. who cares rather. in case you desire to pass out with a woman then do exactly it and don't hardship approximately your expectancies of your self (you for sure do not desire to be alesbiann yet do not see why not).
2016-10-01 05:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him that you can't stop thinking of someone else,,, be more diplomatic. You are responsible for your own happiness, not his. If you are not happy, it is up to you to go out and find it.
It seems to me that you are more concerned about his happiness. So what if he gets upset? Is it better for you to be unhappy?
2006-09-02 05:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know. its much better if you are honest with him. tell him what you think and feel. if he does love you as much as you love him he will understand. maybe its just the spark in your relationship that has died down a little. why dont you try finding based on your memories why you guys got together in the first place? what was it that you guys felt best doing together? maybe doing that might remind you again. =)
2006-09-02 05:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by jsm_f4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only it were that easy....
If you are about to tell the man you are living with that you no longer want to be with him, its gonna hurt him, period. But you have to because you're not happy. Suck it up and be honest.
2006-09-02 05:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the only way no matter how much it hurts him. If you lie or cheat it will only come back aand bite you in the butt later.
2006-09-02 05:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋