high school is so different for me now becuz in middle school i was kind of chubby and never got a guys attention but now ive lost 15 pounds and now i consider myself average. and guys in high school actually check me out, probably b/c im not a stick figure like all the other girls and actually have curves. guys check me out in my classes and the few that flirt only want to be my friends. what do i do to stop the guy from oggling and finally come over and talk to me? for some reason i cant bring myself to make eye contact and smile any time i notice them staring what should i do?
2006-09-02 04:48:19 · 10 answers · asked by METAL CHICK_est.1977 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm happy you lost all that weight. Good for you. Get used to the staring thing. Boys, especially in High School, are gonna look. They always do. If you are looking for a boyfriend, and he's someone who keeps staring at you, confidence is key. Go up to him. Say hi. Ask him out if he's too shy. See if he'd like some help with his homework or if he could help you out. See if he wants to catch a movie. It nice that you think you look good, but you have to portray that you know you do and have the confidence to stand up for yourself. Whatever happens, don't let any boy or man control you. That is something only you can do. Don't dress and be sexy for the boys, dress for you! Anyway, you'll do fine. Stay sweet and be yourself. Doesn't matter what others think, as long as you are happy with you, that's what matters. I was a curvy thing myself in high school and had the same experiences. I wasn't fat by any means, but had curves. Boys will look. It's instinct. Anyway, good luck and if you want more tips, IM or e-mail me. I'm more than happy to help. Good Luck hun!!!!!
2006-09-02 04:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this point there really is nothing that you can do. Expect for take the ball into your court. If you find a guy attractive and are interested and notice that he's try to eye you. Go talk to him and see what's up.
My own opinion is that it takes some guys time. I was such a flirt back then that this was not a problem. Girls were only upset when I didn't flirt with them. Probably because they thought I was making some statement about them. Which I honestly can't remember if I was or not.
Find out who you are and think about what are qualities you are looking for in a bf. Then find the boy, but word of advice; Women are usually disappointed with the bf because he didn't live up to the imaginary image. Be reasonable with what you expect, be safe this high school and not the end game, you have years and years to go, and don't worry, relax enjoy life and people will want to be with you because they will want to know why you're so damn happy and relax.
Don't just use your curvy body to get a boy or you might end up in situations you don't want. Use your mind also, find someone you want to be good friends with. In the words of me the formerly screwed up high schooler, I was only chasing the girl with the honey on her lips. Then I found the girl with honey in her mind and that was a trip. She actually had something to say was intelligent and cool to be with. She set the standard on what girls and later women I wanted to date.
We ended up good friends after the relationship. This was my fault was like a dog at a hydrant convention back then. Had to be constantly date to keep up my statis as truely untameable. This type of person you should probably stay away from. I was nice in high school I knew my boundaries but dating was not for real for me. I knew I wasn't going to marry any of them so I dated to experience the kiss and then moved on for the next.
2006-09-02 06:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Attacus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go wash your mind out with Holy Water. Bad Girl!
They are noticing you but at this age boys are afraid and yet extremely horny. They don't talk to you because they are afraid of how you will react. You don't talk to them because you are afraid of being labeled a sl*t. You also know that all they want is to get inside you. It is not a fantasy that is puberty, the mad rush to claim one's sexuality. Clue, if you do that is it.
Be greatful that they like the way you look. Be more greatful that you like the way you look.
As for flirting, ignore it. The less childish you let them behave the less childish they will behave. Soon they may even look past your t*ts and *ss and look into your eyes to see how beautiful you truly are. They need to get to know the you inside and not just the inside of you.
Be open with your friends about who you are and be good to others and pretty soon the you that is you will be more attractive than the you that people see when they see you. Believe me you will like the new you better so will they.
Oh yea, it helps if you have something to say when you finally do talk. Figure out what it is you want to do with your life, what thing you like , what things you don't and wha you believe in. otherwise you will sound like a blithering aire head.
Now stop having impure thoughts and go read a book, and not one of those trashy girl magazines or cheesy romance novels. Try reading "Illusions" by Richard Bach. It will help to understand how not to judge a book by it's cover, so to speak.
2006-09-02 05:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi - i'm 6ft too and that i understand the place you're coming from! i might say that i've got stumbled on that adult males who arent very confident are intimidated by ability of taller or enhanced women individuals. My suggestion could be to no longer date a shorter guy, except he fairly is an wonderful individual etc etc (dont no longer date somebody because of the fact he's shorter) - yet have faith me, it makes it very awkward kissing them and dancing with them etc - it doesnt line up with the entire 'women leaning as much as guy' element. And there are a number of taller adult males around. If something, i like being tall - i'm appealing (no longer bragging, yet in basic terms pointing out a actuality) so being tall actually stops lots a adult males who might in many situations hit on me (if I have been shorter), so i can actually tell while a guy actually likes me (for me, for the perfect motives etc). don't be embarrassed approximately you're height or something - include it! Its very useful at stay shows too! :>)!
2016-11-06 07:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says that a guy have to make the first move? If you are interested in a guy making eye contact with you, approach him and break the ice by saying hello, asking what is his name, telling him yours and taking it from there.
2006-09-02 04:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as we girls allllllll know, guys just never have the balls to come to you and talk to you and ask you out. so if you notice a guy staring at you maybe out of the corner of your eye, turn your head and look them straight in the eyes and smile maybe a little wave. and if they dont get up off their lazy a s s and come talk to you, go up to them and be like "hey. whats your name [if you dont know them]" and .. yeah you get my drift. so you might have to make the move. sooo i hope i helped. good luck. :]
2006-09-02 04:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by yourrad_letsmakeout♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is you should make eye contact with them you should ask them why do they only want to be your friend after they flirt with you don't worry they will like you in the end...and rember neva give up
2006-09-02 04:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this comes with a good body. take it form me- i have been living like that since i started school. you will get used to it.
2006-09-02 04:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are boys, and not men.
They are either unsure of what to say, or they are probably wondering what to do to get you to come over to them and talk.
Don't worry, in due time you'll probably be sick of them chasing you!
2006-09-02 04:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are intimidated, nobody intimidates me
2006-09-02 06:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋