Everyone i know jokes and laughs with me, but thats all they seem to do!
They dont take me seriously, and when i try to be serious, some of them just end up arguing! o.0
Like this guy, i laugh and joke with him all the time, but tend to argue over the smallest things when i am serious. Serious as in being normal, not being cheeky or funny, just normal.
How should i stop clowning around?
2006-09-02 04:23:38 · 18 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't, it's YOUR personality. You wouldn't be the same person if you tried. I'm the same type personality and it's a fun way to live.
2006-09-02 04:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find the real you it is hidden somewhere behind all of the joking.There is a reason for your jokes you may feel insecure being normal and feel people won't like you.And that's why when you try normal you just argue with everyone all the time.Allow them to see another side of you the serious side and keep it there for awhile if you like no one wants to be the class clown all the time.I'm sure there are days when you just want to be you.Sometimes it's all about just letting them know like isn't always a big joke.You they can have fun sometimes but not always at your expense.Good Luck!!
2006-09-02 11:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by endigogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, hey. Stop blaming yourself for being funny. We need more people like you! The only way having a good sense of humor should be a problem is if you make fun of serious issues like cancer/AIDS/abortion rights. That's a big no-no. But it sounds like you're as sensible as well as you're funny, so don't worry about it. When you are serious, however, maybe people argue because they turn on their serious mode, too. People debate. And in debates, they argue with each other. Nothing personal--that's just how it is. But if they seem overly aggressive or seem to be attacking you verbally, use your humor to lighten things up and say, "Whoa, hold your horses."
2006-09-02 11:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that all that you showed them at the beginning (remember the saying "First impressions last"?) was the hilarious side that they couldn't conceive you or your personality being serious anymore.
While you may not be able to change their view of you overnight, you still will, if you show them that you can be serious and cerebral when the situation calls for it. Or you can even inject occasional humor into a serious discussion--provided that such humor will not distract others from the serious subject being pursued.
Don't stop clowning around. Such joie de vivre is manifestly for the youth who enjoy themselves and are growing up mentally healthy. All that you need to know is WHEN TO STOP CLOWING AROUND as warranted.
2006-09-02 11:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you mean as you sound so much like me Ive always been the giddy silly one who makes people laugh and i find it very easy to get on with almost anyone i wouldn't want to change that but there are times when you need to be taken seriously i think maybe because we get by the easy way we didn't learn how to assert our self the way some people can i haven't got a clue how to change that either, maybe its to late Ive even gone so far as practising in front of the mirror but i was that unconvincing i made me self laugh wish i could advise you better , i hope you do get a good answer i might learn something useful too.
2006-09-02 12:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by keny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, and then I realized that people treat you the way you teach them to treat you. In other words, you have to decide how you want to be perceived, and then you have to act in a way that matches with the way you want to be treated. And then when people don't treat you well, you have to let them know you won't stand for it. It's tough, but if you don't do it, you don't get treated the way you should. Unfortunately we can't be surprised if we're always joking and then people don't take us seriously. Maybe joking is our way of avoiding uncomfortable conversations.
2006-09-02 11:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn some serious jokes
2006-09-02 11:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by baheramgor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change other people - but you can change yourself, and people will eventually change the way they interact -although initially they are likely to resist this change and try to change you back -but if you persevere will finally get through.
try be more assertive as well to get you point across - and not be submissive or agressive (which are both signs that a person is insecure anyway)
2006-09-02 11:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear some glasses, they will make you look serious
2006-09-02 11:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant ive tried on numerous occasions and its impossible you just have to be yourself and sod the rest of the grumpy gits
2006-09-02 11:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋