I think he is embarressed to be with me around his friends.he comes to my house and stays the night but says that if we are together and meets amy of his friends plz say i am his teacher or sponser.. he is muslim.. should I end the relationship,, he says he loves me..
2006-09-02 03:40:51 · 20 answers · asked by mysterynz_2001 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
ditch him. he's obviously not mature enough to handle the relationship. you should be with a man thats proud of who he is and what he does, including his being with you.
2006-09-02 03:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by hellion210 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, honey, but I have been where you are now. When I was 35 ( I am 51 now) I began a relationship with a 19 year old young man. It lasted 2 years and I only met his friends once. now 16 years is a big difference isn't it? I got some great sex and a good friend for a while. He learned how to be a great lover and hopefully more insight on females. I don't know for sure, but don't you know he remembers me for teaching hm how to make love. Don't believe that he loves you, he probably doesn't. Enjoy it for a while and don't be afraid to move on.
2006-09-02 03:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I should say he loves your *** and nothing more if he's "ashamed" to be seen in your company when his friends are around. Secondly, that he is a muslim doesn't mean much in this case. He "caught" an older woman. Bragging rights. But I wouldn't want this bozo to tell me about the "purity" of his religion and that we are all infidels and we are all going to hell. There are liars and jerks in all religions, including Allah's assholes.
2006-09-02 03:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by robert43041 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Muslims couldn't have sex before marriage.
Muslims have to marriage to the same religion.
Do you feel comfortable when he doesn't give your a "proper" status in front of his friends? that means you will never ever be in his "circle". He is a coward. And you are just have to be clear-minded.
Ask him what does Qur'an say about LOVE.
2006-09-02 03:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is boning you then he is not a true muslim, so he is lying to you about that too, he is just looking for an easy lay and you are giving it to him, either find a guy who appreciates you for you or buy a special 'friend' to take care of those needs.
2006-09-02 03:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are setting yourself up to have your heart broken down the road. If he really loved you, he wouldn't feel the need to lie to his friends about yours and his relationship.
A healthy romanic relationship usually includes getting together with friends. Think about it - to this man, you're perfectly fine to spend the night with, but not to be who you really are in this relationship to his friends. I'm sorry, but that just doesn't seem to add up to an honest, healthy relationship. You yourself have doubts about this, or you wouldn't have asked this question.
2006-09-02 03:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by loveblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if he is embarassed to be around you, then I would definetely end the relationship because you are being used for sex.
Now, if your "comfortable" at being used for sex, then by all means, its your body and your responsibility. (I hope your using all kinds of birthcontrol and he is using protection if he is ashamed to be seen with you, because an unexpected pregnancy will be bad for you both).
Also, be aware, if your using the "pill" and you are on antibiotics, the pill becomes useless!!! YOU WILL GET PREGNANT!!
(Yes, I have seen many cases of this already and I warn those who are taking it now, so, be prepared and forewarned).
To him you are something to use and he will not marry you, because he is ashamed of you. So, its something you have to live with.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-09-02 03:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by x 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him... My girlfriend is four years older than me and I don't care what anyone says or thinks... If he has a problem with you being older then you shouldn't be with him.
But my question is, what does it matter that he's a Muslim?
2006-09-02 03:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by GrimReaper1546 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sponser? Is he an alcoholic? If so you should probably deal with that first and then the age difference.
2006-09-02 03:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by apostate03 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bah .. if all you want him for is a f-buddy, then don't even go out with him in public. If you want more from him .. you have the wrong guy, especially if he is embarassed to be seen with you in public .. and that ISN'T a sign of love.
Good Luck to you.
2006-09-02 03:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he will love and accept you as you are-ask yourself if you would accept him if he had some kind of problem-I would spell it out to him that unless we were able to be close to a certain degree around others then we would not be close in bed!!! I guess after all it is up to you-how bad does it bother you. Is he that good for you!!!
2006-09-02 03:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋