It's a tiffany necklace that he gave me as birthday gift. When I got it I feel like for the first time of my life I deserve something nice, but he always asks it back whenever we fight.
What should I do? My mom always says if u take something from other people u have to put up with their sh*t. Should I return it?
2006-09-02 03:35:05 · 28 answers · asked by angela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh dear u should return it asap, y u ask ....its like a control thing that is the only thing he feels that u like so much and he draws his power by taking it back. if he wanted u to have it with no strings attached he would not ask for it back when hes upset, give it back then he wont feel that he can hurt u by taking it back, its a material thing ur feelings r worth more than that nice tiffany necklace, look at the bigger picture he wants to control the situation and when he cant he takes something that u like a lot. a gift is from the heart not meant to cause pain latter, understand? he may have controling issuses if it gets just a little worst than before then rrrrrrrrrrrrrruna for the hills. sounds like he is on another level anyway... tell him if u dont want to give it back hell no! then if he get piss tell him to leave period point blank... he and his tiffany necklace could be more trouble than u think... be careful he sounds like he could get worst.... rember a gift comes from the heart not from the pocket and not when someone wants to get back at u and hurt u by taking something from u.. ur not a kid and u dont need time out such as he is giving u by taking from u.. drop that zero and get a real man... he's petty anyway is that the only thing he spen real $ on? girl just let him go please before we read about him killing u cause u wont give it back... good luck and i will pray for u
2006-09-02 03:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by 1plum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift is a gift and you are under no obligation to give it back to him - EVER! If he wants it back, he shouldn't have given it to you in the first place! And speaking of that - why did he give it to you - just to have something to take away from you when he gets mad? Sounds to me like he needs to grow up. You do deserve something "nice" in your life, and don't let anyone tell you anything different. Sorry, but your mom is wrong. You don't have to put up with someones sh*t just because you accept a gift from them and I'll tell you why - here is what you do: The next time you and your boyfriend get into a fight and he asks for the necklace back, tell him NO. Then break up with him (you don't need this kind of crap in your life). That way you still have the necklace, and he is not around anymore to ask for the necklace back when you fight. And if you really want to put the icing on the cake, find a new boyfriend and wear the necklace when you go out with the new guy. Then hope that you run into your ex-boyfriend while you're out with your NEW boyfriend and that he sees you wearing the necklace that HE bought you. Enough said! Best of luck to you.
2006-09-02 11:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend does that to you every time you fight, then maybe he was having second thoughts in giving that gift to you in the first place. from my point of view, he is a materialistic person and one concerned only with money and gifts. he feels like he owns you because he gave you something. well then maybe you should return that to him and tell him that YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT! and thats the truth. he should be concerned more about your relationship whenever you fight than he should be concerned about that necklace he gave you. not to mention that it is VERY RUDE AND IMMATURE to get something back when you've already given it away. because when he gave you that necklace, the property already belongs to YOU and not to him anymore and you can do anything to it if you want. or maybe much better you could go up to him in the lakeside, and throw that necklace in the water right in front of him. you deserve a little more respect than he's giving you.
2006-09-02 10:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldn't have to return it to him because it was a gift and no you shouldn't have to put up with their crap either. if you don't really care for him then just break it off but keep the necklace. and the next time you do fight, tell him that you never ask for anything back that you gave him but it was a gift and it's his to do with as he pleases.... why does he keep asking you back for the necklace? tell him that now you feel as if he picks these fights with you on purpose just to see if he can get the necklace back and see what he says.
2006-09-02 10:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by ana g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really jerky thing for him to do. I think you should mention to him, the next time you're fighting and he asks for it back that he can't always do that and if he wants it back so bad then he can have it. If you give it back he'll likely feel pretty guilty when the fight it over. Don't let him hold that over you though. Ya, actually if I were you, I'd definitely give it back next time. You might miss the necklace, but the guilt that he'll feel for taking it back will be worth it.
2006-09-02 10:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a gift wasn't it???? So, where does he have the right to ask for it back??? You don't say whether you are living together or anything??? But, I would say that if he is being petty and asking for something back that he considers of value now, just think of what you're in for down the road??? I would think a little more about being in this relationship!!! Good Luck.
2006-09-02 10:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a gift and he asks for it whenever you fight? This means this gift wasn't truely from his heart. He probably didn't wanna buy you this necklace or it cost him a lot of money. I say, the next time you guys fight and he asks for it..Just give it back to him !!!!!!! See what happens!! ;) and if he just leaves you then he wasn't worth it neither was his gift!
2006-09-02 10:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Staccato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just give it back and not put up with it anymore. He is just using it as leverage against you. I think he gave it to you not as a gift, but as payment for abusing you in this way. It's not fair he treats like this and you shouldn't let him.
2006-09-02 10:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by krahnicals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO A gift is just that, you DO NOT have to put up with any crap. If he thinks he should get it back when you fight he is not worth keeping.
2006-09-02 11:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by jeremiah j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he asks for the necklace, ask him for all the presents you gave him. That will make him think. If it doesn't, dump him.
2006-09-02 10:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by sparklingsapphireeyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋